It did? I never found that a wedding ring or an e-ring stopped piggish men from making an approach. When you say, "I'm married," they just say, "So am I" and laugh or whatever and jsut continue making remarks that someone could sue them for. Some of us ladies have the misfortune of looking more approachable than others and so this kind of thing tends to happen to us. I had to practice not making eye contact at all and not smiling back at men when they smiled and then it got better. Going around with my husband also helps, he's big and he frowns. I didn't change my e-ring--although its great if you can manage get to bigger bling out of this.
What fueled/sparked your upgrade?
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It did? I never found that a wedding ring or an e-ring stopped piggish men from making an approach. When you say, "I'm married," they just say, "So am I" and laugh or whatever and jsut continue making remarks that someone could sue them for. Some of us ladies have the misfortune of looking more approachable than others and so this kind of thing tends to happen to us. I had to practice not making eye contact at all and not smiling back at men when they smiled and then it got better. Going around with my husband also helps, he's big and he frowns. I didn't change my e-ring--although its great if you can manage get to bigger bling out of this.
^ haha.
Well you see the added problem of changing my Engagement Ring is that my Wedding Band is curved to fit it in so I'd either have to get it 'straightened' or make sure that the next one fits in with the curve!
This is a photo of my 'current' rings - I can't remember what the specifics on the diamond are but its only about .25 or something (all he could afford 16 years ago!).
Well you see the added problem of changing my Engagement Ring is that my Wedding Band is curved to fit it in so I'd either have to get it 'straightened' or make sure that the next one fits in with the curve!
This is a photo of my 'current' rings - I can't remember what the specifics on the diamond are but its only about .25 or something (all he could afford 16 years ago!).
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Wow this is gorgeous. I love that modern art curve. I would NEVER change this one.
well i had some misadventures last night that nearly resulted in my losing my rings. luckily DH was able to retrieve it from where i had dropped it, with my bils help! phew!
but this made me realized im not one for upgrading. my centre stone is a .75 and my whole set is about 1ctw. not huge but not tiny either.
we were v young when we got engaged and DH spend what for him at the time was a ton of $. i would want a new set if mine were stolen or lost or damaged for sure but i know now i could never b happy just replacing them to get a bigger or better stone. for me there is too much symbolism and anything else would just b like any other piece of jewellery DH bought me. i would rather get bigger diamond studfs or something else
it is great for those who can upgrade and are v happy with it. more power to you! everyone is different and the story behind everyones ring and their situations is different. i just now know for me i wouldnt want to.
but this made me realized im not one for upgrading. my centre stone is a .75 and my whole set is about 1ctw. not huge but not tiny either.
we were v young when we got engaged and DH spend what for him at the time was a ton of $. i would want a new set if mine were stolen or lost or damaged for sure but i know now i could never b happy just replacing them to get a bigger or better stone. for me there is too much symbolism and anything else would just b like any other piece of jewellery DH bought me. i would rather get bigger diamond studfs or something else
it is great for those who can upgrade and are v happy with it. more power to you! everyone is different and the story behind everyones ring and their situations is different. i just now know for me i wouldnt want to.
Gabz, I'm so glad you were able to retrieve your rings. I know exactly how that feels as I dropped my e-ring down the drain long ago & began to panic. Luckily, my DH pulled it out no problem, but I know the fear and the emotion associated with that situation.
My story- I got married in my late thirties. I was never one to think about weddings, rings, dresses, etc. I was always busy working, etc. It sounds silly because I love jewelry so much now, but I didn't have a clue when I got engaged. When my husband was getting ready to propose, he asked me what type of ring I would like. I had seen a reference to Tiffany in some movie (I know this sounds stupid, but it is the truth), so mentioned we should go to Tiffany to look at rings. At the time (this was several years ago), they had only two styles (the traditional solitaire, and the Lucinda). He got what we could comfortably afford in cash, which happened to be a 1.1 carat solitaire (I didn't care for the Lucinda style).
When I got engaged, I started looking at friends rings, etc. I never had before. I noticed that my ring was much smaller (not that it matters, really), much less ornate and about 2-3 times the cost than everything else I saw. I really like the Tacori rings and all their elaborateness. It sounds silly because I didn't realize that these existed until after I got my ring.
A few years ago, Tiffany came out with a bunch of new designs. DH mentioned he'd like to upgrade for an anniversary. I looked at a ton of different options, but nothing really spoke to me. I couldn't make up my mind. In the end, we went for a larger stone, same solitaire setting, with the agreement that we'd upgrade the setting for our 10 year anniversary (in a few years). I am thinking the Schlumberger setting because I want something unique, but we will see. Maybe Tiffany will roll out some other designs by then as well. I am looking for something that won't be copied by everyone and their brother.
I have never been emotionally attached to jewelry, so had no problem upgrading. DH and I see the ring as a work in progress and I think (every once in a while) he enjoys looking at future options as much as I do.
I still have my band from our wedding, though. This I will keep forever.
When I got engaged, I started looking at friends rings, etc. I never had before. I noticed that my ring was much smaller (not that it matters, really), much less ornate and about 2-3 times the cost than everything else I saw. I really like the Tacori rings and all their elaborateness. It sounds silly because I didn't realize that these existed until after I got my ring.
A few years ago, Tiffany came out with a bunch of new designs. DH mentioned he'd like to upgrade for an anniversary. I looked at a ton of different options, but nothing really spoke to me. I couldn't make up my mind. In the end, we went for a larger stone, same solitaire setting, with the agreement that we'd upgrade the setting for our 10 year anniversary (in a few years). I am thinking the Schlumberger setting because I want something unique, but we will see. Maybe Tiffany will roll out some other designs by then as well. I am looking for something that won't be copied by everyone and their brother.
I have never been emotionally attached to jewelry, so had no problem upgrading. DH and I see the ring as a work in progress and I think (every once in a while) he enjoys looking at future options as much as I do.
I still have my band from our wedding, though. This I will keep forever.
Interesting thread. My husband proposed with a ring which he trusted her sister's friend, who's father's a jeweller. It was a 0.30 carat solitaire. He didn't consult me because he wanted it to be a surprise. However, I didn't like workmanship of the ring and I think he paid too much, until today the price remains a mystery. Anyway, I upgraded it to a 0.50 carat solitaire a couple of years after that. He is never into jewellery as he said it can't tell time! DUH!
I find it rather sinful to spend so much on a diamond solitaire, call me cheapskate but I'm happy with my current diamond, 1.5ct from Carat*. It's something I don't have to worry about. It definitely makes my husband happy! LOL!
I have been eyeing a 1.5ct total weight, 5 stone band, for 3 years now. It's still in the shop! I'm just concern about taking the plunge. In fact, I just received a call from the jeweller that resizing is possible. Am I mad to think about spending so much on a ring? Well, it's one and a half month of my salary although I have an option to pay over 12 months interest free.
I find it rather sinful to spend so much on a diamond solitaire, call me cheapskate but I'm happy with my current diamond, 1.5ct from Carat*. It's something I don't have to worry about. It definitely makes my husband happy! LOL!
I have been eyeing a 1.5ct total weight, 5 stone band, for 3 years now. It's still in the shop! I'm just concern about taking the plunge. In fact, I just received a call from the jeweller that resizing is possible. Am I mad to think about spending so much on a ring? Well, it's one and a half month of my salary although I have an option to pay over 12 months interest free.
I love your story nld in nyc, because I can relate so much! Ok I didn't get married in my late 30's , I got married at 23, but I was never the girl who dreams of her wedding and ring etc, so I had no clue at all. I was even surprised to see my dh propose with a ring to be honest, I thought it was older generations and ppl in the films that were doing that. At the time I would 've probably accept his proposal if he proposed with a pint of guinness extra cold.
As I said in another post the original ring is a family heirloom from my DH's family, and we will keep it for as long as we live. We would never part with it.
As for our original wedding bands, we love it, simple with a small diamond each, not fancy at all. It means so much to us that we can't even take it off.
Sorry to bump an old thread, but I'm thinking of upgrading my wedding band for our anniversary. Right now it's 1ct tw 9 stone channel set band, and the one I'd like to get is 1.5 ct tw 5 stone prong set band. I wear a size 4.5 so 5 stones still covers the top part of my finger. Stock pics attached, it's very pretty and sparkly IRL 
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I haven't had the fortune of upgrading my ring yet. I received my ring in November of 2010 and at that time, my already husband and I discussed the fact that we would upgrade before 5 years. I am really happy with the size of diamond that I have (1.62 emerald cut), but my dream ring is a three stone emerald cut. I am not sentimental so I am OK with trading my ring in and getting a whole new one, and I honestly can't wait. Until then I'll just enjoy my beautiful ring.
Before I got my "engagement ring", I wore a Tiffany Etoile band in plat. I was constantly surprise at how many man did not think it meant that I was married. Once I got my solitaire, several of my male patients said "oh, did you just get engaged???" Does a plain wedding band mean nothing!
Before I got my "engagement ring", I wore a Tiffany Etoile band in plat. I was constantly surprise at how many man did not think it meant that I was married. Once I got my solitaire, several of my male patients said "oh, did you just get engaged???" Does a plain wedding band mean nothing!
^^ that's exactly how I feel! My husband and I were friends for five years, dated for five years and now have been married for 11. I love having the original .75 diamond that he gave me when we decided to get married. I may reset it some day, but I'll never upgrade it. However, I'm not opposed to new jewelry
We had talked about an upgrade (at 10 years) while searching for our engagement ring.
We were students. DH was a chemistry TA, working 10 hrs/wk for little cash. We searched at clearance outlets (Sam's club, costco, Zales . . . making a bee-line to the clearance section.)
I didn't want to go into debt for a ring at that time, and his "2 month" salary came to about $500.
We did pretty well. It was a princess cut diamond made by putting 4 tiny princess cuts together. They weren't amazing, but from a distance, it looked big, and good. From my view, not so great. And at our 1 year anniversary, some of them chipped.
at about 5 years we went into Tiffany's, for fun. We loved their rings and diamonds. We said we'd get one at 10 years.
Flash forward to 10 years . . . four kids later, and in the midst of starting a business and being out of school only 3 years, we had more money, but obviously lots to spend it on. We looked at Tiffany's again, we could afford a ring, just maybe smaller than we would have dreamed of.
Well, on Mother's Day, a week after our 10 year anniversary, DH surprised me and bought me a gorgeous ring . . . 1.22 carats, F, VVS1 . . . a Tiffany soleste.
He still talks about another upgrade, maybe at 25 years.
Can we be happy? Hmm. I think tastes change. I will always love my first ring because of all it symbolizes. i will love this current ring always too. But, I have a deep love of emeralds/step cuts . . . and maybe cushions with french cut side stones . . . they may make their way onto my finger in 15 years . . . maybe.
For now, I am loving my ring and what it symbolizes. DH wanted to spend his hard earned money on me, to make me happy and give me a proper ring. I think that is worth more than any ring or diamond. (Though I do love the sparkle factor!)
We were students. DH was a chemistry TA, working 10 hrs/wk for little cash. We searched at clearance outlets (Sam's club, costco, Zales . . . making a bee-line to the clearance section.)
I didn't want to go into debt for a ring at that time, and his "2 month" salary came to about $500.
We did pretty well. It was a princess cut diamond made by putting 4 tiny princess cuts together. They weren't amazing, but from a distance, it looked big, and good. From my view, not so great. And at our 1 year anniversary, some of them chipped.
at about 5 years we went into Tiffany's, for fun. We loved their rings and diamonds. We said we'd get one at 10 years.
Flash forward to 10 years . . . four kids later, and in the midst of starting a business and being out of school only 3 years, we had more money, but obviously lots to spend it on. We looked at Tiffany's again, we could afford a ring, just maybe smaller than we would have dreamed of.
Well, on Mother's Day, a week after our 10 year anniversary, DH surprised me and bought me a gorgeous ring . . . 1.22 carats, F, VVS1 . . . a Tiffany soleste.
He still talks about another upgrade, maybe at 25 years.
Can we be happy? Hmm. I think tastes change. I will always love my first ring because of all it symbolizes. i will love this current ring always too. But, I have a deep love of emeralds/step cuts . . . and maybe cushions with french cut side stones . . . they may make their way onto my finger in 15 years . . . maybe.
For now, I am loving my ring and what it symbolizes. DH wanted to spend his hard earned money on me, to make me happy and give me a proper ring. I think that is worth more than any ring or diamond. (Though I do love the sparkle factor!)
I'm curious for most people, when did you decide to upgrade? After how many years of marriage did you wait to upgrade your ring? Is most common like 5, 10, 15? So is after 2 years of marriage too soon?! 
Im upgrading on our 10 year anniversary, because I actually bought my own ring and never really liked it. I was never a big jewellery person, (quite tomboyish) and didn't know my own style back then. Not having much money at the time and being rushed (we were married not long after our engagement) I just bought the cheapest and first thing I found but ended up never wanting to wear it because I disliked it so much which was a silly mistake to make.
My husband is not fussed about it, he doesn't like the ring either - and the way we see it, we married each other for each other, not for a piece of jewellery. And oddly we aren't sentimental over material things either.
This time round I am hoping to get it right, so am taking my time, and I'm also mindful whatever I choose I'll want to hand down to my daughter's so am considering them in the equation as well
AirMezPrincess, I had someone tell me on the forum that 'they would never change their ring' in some form of disgust at me. Needless to say it's easy for people to sit behind their screen and be high and mighty but I believe not everyone's situations are the same, and nor should everyone's opinions be the same. They are entitled to their's as I am.
What's more important, a ring or the relationship? For my husband and I it's our relationship. Does it bother either of us I am upgrading the ring? Not at all. If you want to upgrade your ring at 2 years, 5 years, and are in the position to do so, go for it
My husband is not fussed about it, he doesn't like the ring either - and the way we see it, we married each other for each other, not for a piece of jewellery. And oddly we aren't sentimental over material things either.
This time round I am hoping to get it right, so am taking my time, and I'm also mindful whatever I choose I'll want to hand down to my daughter's so am considering them in the equation as well
AirMezPrincess, I had someone tell me on the forum that 'they would never change their ring' in some form of disgust at me. Needless to say it's easy for people to sit behind their screen and be high and mighty but I believe not everyone's situations are the same, and nor should everyone's opinions be the same. They are entitled to their's as I am.
What's more important, a ring or the relationship? For my husband and I it's our relationship. Does it bother either of us I am upgrading the ring? Not at all. If you want to upgrade your ring at 2 years, 5 years, and are in the position to do so, go for it