What fueled/sparked your upgrade?

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#16
Tell you the truth. I want another upgrade hehehe, but I just got one 2+ yrs ago. The reason why was because I didn't marry with a diamond. We married with WHITE GOLD BANDS. Hell, we bought the white gold bands the night before the wedding lol. I really didn't care because I knew that's not what it is all about, and I believed him when he said he would upgrade me later.

The main reason why I wanted a upgraded was because, NO ONE could tell I was married with just having a White Gold Band on my left finger. People were rude about it and MEN made very disrespectful comments. I was running into men that saw and felt like my husband was no challenge to them. They would still slip me their numbers, or call me at work, all kinds of things would happen. The 2 most disrespectful comments were (from men) "Why would you marry him when all he gives you is a key chain for a ring?" Another one said, " I wouldn't have my wife walking around without a REAL RING on."

Once I upgraded (2ct center and 1ct setting 3 total), most of that nonsense approach stopped. GO FIGURE!!! I even upgraded his to a 1.5 diamond, white gold band on this past Father's Day. He says it grabs attention.
 
#17
Like Swanky, I initially had an oval stone that just wasn't "me" anymore. Myhusband grew up in the diamond business so I think we just started talking about a change around our 10 year anniversary. It just so happened that I inherited my MIL's stone and that is what I am wearing now. It's called a "radiant" cut and I just love it.
 
#18
First Lady said:
I was running into men that saw and felt like my husband was no challenge to them. They would still slip me their numbers, or call me at work, all kinds of things would happen. The 2 most disrespectful comments were (from men) "Why would you marry him when all he gives you is a key chain for a ring?" Another one said, " I wouldn't have my wife walking around without a REAL RING on."
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WOW!!! That was just plain rude........ :wtf:
 
#19
My husband was in grad school when he proposed and we always knew we'd upgrade at some point. Also, the diamond was a princess and not my style, so when our fifth anniversary came around I got a larger RB in a halo.

Some of my friends think I'm crazy because of the sentimental value, but I've just never felt that attached to anything.
 
#20
Contessa said:
Swanky, you're not going to like this, but I see a larger stone in your future! Even if it is only "slight"! (Contessa runs and hides!)
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LOL!

No way! I really love mine and I'm still very aware of how, um, not exactly under the radar it is :push: Sometimes it feels too big and I get sort of paranoid someone's about to smack me over the head and pull it off my finger :-s LOL!

I will, however, get it properly set though. I'm really doing it a disservice by still having it in it's temp setting.
But everytime DH wants me to choose a new piece I choose something else!

doh!
 
#21
First Lady, wow I'm completely shocked! Very sorry for those comments and I'm happy you upgraded. Just wanted to say that 90% of the time I only wear my very simple wedding band that also looks like a key holder lol, it has a very tiny diamond on but it is very subtle, you have to look at my hands with intention to see it. I never felt that I wouldn't look married. In fact when I was engaged and was wearing my first e ring all the time no one would even think I was engaged, but everyone was noticing the band after we got married. Over here it is more common to just wear your wedding band.
 
#22
Lily25 LMBO a Key chain!!!! I thought the comment was funny but couldn't laugh about it at the time.

I do tell people to at least buy a diamond band (1/4 will do) or a yellow gold band because that white gold wasn't doing it's job lol. (I hate yellow gold so I wanted white). I was only 23 at the time and we were buying our first house and paying for some of the wedding, that was more exciting to me then a diamond, I knew I would get later. Also I'm a all or nothing kind of gal. If he couldn't at least get a 1.5-2ct center for my big size 7 finger, than I wanted nothing at all, so I waited. THE END....
 
#23
I did a search for a thread like this - thank goodness there was one - because, for reasons I'd rather not go into, I want to change my Engagement ring but really felt that it was wrong to do so as this one was chosen by my husband (without my knowledge) and we've been married now for 13 years and surely the meaning behind it would mean that you don't change it.

As (sort of) stated, my main reason for change is a personal one but it's partly because I know that the diamond would be a lot bigger if we got engaged now and I'd probably have Platinum rather than 18ct yellow gold as nothing else I wear is gold.

What do you all feel about the meaning and sentiment of the original rings? And, for those who change their wedding bands too, what about those. I was always told that wedding rings go on the 4th finger of the left hand because years ago it was believed that the vein from that point went directly to the heart and that is why once the husband places the ring on that finger it shouldn't be removed. It's a lovely thought anyway!
 
#24
I forgot to add that my husband wants me to keep the diamond I have so I've thought about getting 2 more and making my solitare into a Trilogy ring - what do you think? A good compromise?

Im a real Diamond Solitaire girl and I've always wanted a bigger diamond but I don't feel hugely comfortable just replacing the entire ring.
 
#25
Our initial plan was that someday we'd use my original stone as a side-stone in a honker of a ring. Well unfortunately that day never came. My original got stolen and I started new.

I think you're giving a great compromise :)
 
#26
I don't think I'll ever upgrade. My hubby just isn't that type to think about things like this...ON HIS OWN. I feel weird bringing it up. I dunno. I wish he would wake up one day and think, I believe my girl of 10 years deserves a 2ct stone!

I'm aching for a light yellow diamond right now....radiant cut, flanked by trillions. Yum. Prices for these aren't so bad at DiamondsbyLauren.com too!

Sigh.....one day! :)
 
#27
DH nor I are terribly sentimental about material goods I guess. Upgrading was more him than me and neither of us cared if I kept original stone or not.
What we promised at the alter hasn't changed.
 
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