I will keep this on topic by saying that this is a bag I will (positively) keep for the rest of my life and use on a daily basis so the cost per wear will be very low. And I love it's quirky nature and craftsmanship.
What are healthy/positive attitudes and thoughts people have about handbags?
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I will keep this on topic by saying that this is a bag I will (positively) keep for the rest of my life and use on a daily basis so the cost per wear will be very low. And I love it's quirky nature and craftsmanship.
Another thought that helps me is "do I like it more than what I already have or more than my Polene Huit and Polene Neuf?" Most handbags I look into are more expensive than the handbags I currently own, but I don't like them more. In fact, I tend to like them less. Why should I spend so much more money on it then? At the very least, I should get more enjoyment out of it if I have to spend that much more money.
It's just a bag.
It's not adding to your worth as a person.
It's not making you a better or worse person.
It's not making you more valuable as a human being.
It's not making you more lovable, as you are lovable just as you are.
It's not going to make you smarter, kinder, more polite, a better friend or a listener - it's just a bag.
That does not mean a bag is not something to admire, look at, search for, save for, or obsess over.
It's your companion and ally.
It's bringing people together.
It's everything and more.
It's not just a bag.
It's not adding to your worth as a person.
It's not making you a better or worse person.
It's not making you more valuable as a human being.
It's not making you more lovable, as you are lovable just as you are.
It's not going to make you smarter, kinder, more polite, a better friend or a listener - it's just a bag.
That does not mean a bag is not something to admire, look at, search for, save for, or obsess over.
It's your companion and ally.
It's bringing people together.
It's everything and more.
It's not just a bag.
I could never convince my mum that buying any bag was worth it so that one passes for me! She rarely gets me and certainly wouldn’t get luxury purchases.
Does buying a certain bag make you squeal with joy? If it does you know it’s a winner!
I haven't spent over 500 on a bag yet so I have yet to incur my mother's strong disappointment. We will see, I'm just starting on my collection!
My controversial opinion: If resale “value” is your primary consideration in deciding whether to buy a handbag, you probably can’t’ afford it or you don’t truly love it enough to buy it.
Or you just value your hard earned money and don’t like taking losses on anything. Just like some of us will try to get a discount or a deal when we can just because it feels good even when we can easily afford retail. It’s a mindset.
It's a factor as I have a hard time making a permanent commitment when my style and preferences change as I get older, switch jobs (like moving from the financial sector to public healthcare logistics), see new things and someone comes up with and even better bag than the one I have. When you're the type that doesn't settle or settle down you will want to make sure you don't take a big loss IF you sell the bag.
Seeing people talk online about the bags they use the least or reasons they don't like using the bags, or the things they don't like about their bags, or reasons why they are afraid to use their bags - I always just wonder why don't they sell them? Your money is just sitting there in a handbag when you could be using that money instead to eat? But everyone has different priorities. Maybe looking at their bags makes them happy, even if they don't use them.
When it comes to bags, I ascribe to the Magpie philosophy…
That's basically me with my entire collection.
Sales are sales, but the best way to save money is to not spend money. Waiting for a sale on an item you have decided to buy is great, but buying items you don't need and justifying the purchase by saying it's a sale isn't really saving money.
My mother finds luxury to be a waste of money. When I started buying her luxury (and it was either discounted or pre-loved) she was not too happy about it. But when my grandmother (her mom) basically told her that I was a wonderful daughter and no other daughter spoils their mom like me, she accepted all the gifts and has continued to accept them.
My mom still tells me off for buying luxury though, and I make sure not to buy her luxury too often or anything too extortionately priced, but she does wear what I buy her, haha, so I guess it's relatively tolerable.
But it is what it is, my parents were immigrants and they lived in a different time and have a different understanding of things. And I respect that....but I'm still gonna buy my bag!
My mother finds luxury to be a waste of money. When I started buying her luxury (and it was either discounted or pre-loved) she was not too happy about it. But when my grandmother (her mom) basically told her that I was a wonderful daughter and no other daughter spoils their mom like me, she accepted all the gifts and has continued to accept them.
My mom still tells me off for buying luxury though, and I make sure not to buy her luxury too often or anything too extortionately priced, but she does wear what I buy her, haha, so I guess it's relatively tolerable.
But it is what it is, my parents were immigrants and they lived in a different time and have a different understanding of things. And I respect that....but I'm still gonna buy my bag!
Good grandma! As a fellow child of immigrants, this is what I've learned about my own parents (and some other immigrant parents I know). They have a lot of anxiety and trauma from coming to a brand new world, and struggling to have enough money to stay afloat. So when I hear them scold me or express those kinds of thoughts, I just try to read between the lines and hear what my mom is really trying to say. I reassure her that I'm in good financial situation, that I am being thoughtful about my purchases, and that we are in different financial situation than when my parents were young and struggling. What my mom really means is she is just thinking out loud and voicing all those anxiety thoughts in her head, and what she's really feeling is that she loves and cares about me and wants the best for me. I just try to verbalize those thoughts and reassure her, and then I tell my mom to say "thank you" haha!