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I think this statement is so true! Most people I know do not wear sets or buy pieces to go with existing pieces. They buy what they love and then figure out what works together afterwards, including from different lines and designers. I have come to terms that I am this type. I am not a set type and will not create sets. I need to love each piece and I will figure it out later how they work together. I might have the most in-cohesive collection but I will love every piece and enjoy wearing them. I do target things - like I need a wg diamond earring pair but I am not going to stress if it works with this or that.Here on TPF, we tend to be super picky about putting pieces together. In reality, 90% of the population just throws jewelry on and it works! I am sure whatever you wear with your ring will be lovely! You have a ton of beautiful pieces, and it will work!
Think of it as cost per wear! If you love and wear them (a lot) then it’s okay
eidt: I just read that you weren’t sure you wanted them!
I feel don’t buy anything unless you absolutely adore it and don’t want to take it off
But, it’s relatively easy for me bc a lot of VCA sadly doesn’t work with my style
So now as an adult, I have no.... closet queens, I suppose? I figure everything is meant to be worn, loved, and enjoyed - and the cost per wear really does make me feel good about dropping insane sums of $$ on these things we love so much. 
For me, the whole point of owning luxury pieces is knowing I have something special. Hence, I would need to know 100% they are authentic. I don't buy pre-loved, but let's say I was gifted a pre-loved pair of VCA earrings, say the classic VA Alhambra valued at the lower priced $4K range, yes, I would spend the money ($1.8K?) to get them authenticated. For me, I need to know for my own piece of mind I am not wearing a fake.
By the way, reading about what you like, I don't think VCA is you either.Think of it as cost per wear! If you love and wear them (a lot) then it’s okay
eidt: I just read that you weren’t sure you wanted them!
I feel don’t buy anything unless you absolutely adore it and don’t want to take it off
But, it’s relatively easy for me bc a lot of VCA sadly doesn’t work with my style
You are the type of person that has the most stress free and fun shopping experience! All you need to do is focus on that one piece, at that one moment! No need to stress out on what matches or if you can create a set. Love that Noeud ring? Sold!
Studs, a true classic really.
Till i joined this site i never knew about matching jewelry (or jewelry to bag hardware). So my collection is a big mish-mash but i think it works. I mean i hope no one is staring & going omg what was she thinking lol!You are the type of person that has the most stress free and fun shopping experience! All you need to do is focus on that one piece, at that one moment! No need to stress out on what matches or if you can create a set. Love that Noeud ring? Sold!
Oh, but what earrings to wear? WG diamond studs of course, why wear anything else?
You are like my friend who says the only earrings a person needs are diamond studs. And that is all she wears, everyday, with everything.
I think you have the answer to your Lotus ring earring dilemma too. Diamond studs!
Give yourself time to wear your pieces and have fun coordinating what you have. This pandemic has caused lots of new patterns to emerge. I have system where I identify my next item and save towards it. When my funds are ready then I buy regardless if price increase is occurring or not. I feel the price increase rush csuses impulse buying for me so I avoid it. These items are expensive so I must pick carefully so I wont be rushed. Hence why I paused on my 2 10s vs 1 20 motif quest. Just turn it off and take time you need to refocus your energy
YES to this. It also really does lessen the odds of stress shopping but I admit sometimes it takes a bit of work to give a head shake and recenter yourself to focus on what the item is you want and not get distracted. The one thing I can say is I do not get affected by panic buying - yes I know, at high ticket items that can equate to thousands - and no one likes price hikes - but I know that if I rush just because I'm in a panic, I am more prone to make a costlier decision in the long run. I tell myself often that "slow and steady wins the race" and "I have to LOVE it for it to come home"(and naturally love it not convince myself I love it - there is a difference). I also note that sometimes giving time allows you to really explore all factors - so many times things have come off and on my list - the long standing items are the ones I know I really want.
Haha! Yes I have enough stress in my life don’t need shopping stress.You are the type of person that has the most stress free and fun shopping experience! All you need to do is focus on that one piece, at that one moment! No need to stress out on what matches or if you can create a set. Love that Noeud ring? Sold!
Oh, but what earrings to wear? WG diamond studs of course, why wear anything else?
You are like my friend who says the only earrings a person needs are diamond studs. And that is all she wears, everyday, with everything.
I think you have the answer to your Lotus ring earring dilemma too. Diamond studs!
All fun and jokes apart, take the time to enjoy the pieces you already own. It sounds like you already have an incredible collection.
, I try to remind myself of that. Imo, decluttered life with capsule collections = peaceful life.+ 1 @BigAkoya what wise words! TPF and Insta can be the worst enablers. It’s so easy to get carried away when everyone is telling you ‘oh you should absolutely get that’ or ‘why wait? Just get it now’ … happens to the best of us but the key is to clear your head, kick yourself off IG or TPF, isolate your thoughts and focus on what you need and want versus what others are egging you to get. It’s not their money to spend so of course they will tell you to get everything!Yes, take a break and enjoy what you have.
The best way to do that is to stay off TPF! I'm being honest here, not joking!
TPF is great for sharing and seeing each other's beautiful pieces, but TPF can also create a lot of want, if only just to have for the sake of wanting more and following the hype of limited edition pieces, holy grails, hard to find, etc.
From the words of a famous song: "It's not having what you want, it's wanting what you've got."
Sometimes when I get ahead of myself and get too greedy (in life, not just VCA), and I do get greedy often... I smack myself on the head and tell myself to stop, enjoy the moment, appreciate what you have, and stop wanting for more (or at least put it on pause).
You have so many beautiful pieces.. I think if you stare and play in your jewelry box, you'll discover so many creative ways to wear your gorgeous bling. Who needs another butterfly when you have Flowerlace!
… of course, the advice has to come from a friend who has our best interests at heart and not because he/she is jealous of us.
So much wisdom here.Yes, take a break and enjoy what you have.
The best way to do that is to stay off TPF! I'm being honest here, not joking!
TPF is great for sharing and seeing each other's beautiful pieces, but TPF can also create a lot of want, if only just to have for the sake of wanting more and following the hype of limited edition pieces, holy grails, hard to find, etc.
From the words of a famous song: "It's not having what you want, it's wanting what you've got."
Sometimes when I get ahead of myself and get too greedy (in life, not just VCA), and I do get greedy often
You have so many beautiful pieces.. I think if you stare and play in your jewelry box, you'll discover so many creative ways to wear your gorgeous bling. Who needs another butterfly when you have Flowerlace!
