I’m not going to ask as I am certain they will not make a set, and I don’t want the earrings without the matching ring.
Plus, my SA just resubmitted my order for Hellebore, so I want to get that through first before I look like a crazy client who only does SOs which I am sure is not what VCA wants.
Why not ask about the butterflies?
It's not like you're not a devoted customer and it's not like you don't have other items in the brand.
They promoted the Hellebore, you saw the Hellebore when it was part of the line, they offered you the Hellebore only to cancel your SO, and you still want the Hellebore. Likewise, you want the Lapis/Pave butterfly earrings in WG. It's your money. They're charging a fee for a product, and if you can pay, and they can supply it, I'm not sure why there would be an issue.
Your taste is sophisticated, you have certain design specifications and you're asking VCA to fulfill them. I think they would be thrilled to have you as a customer--after all, you're one of their best cheerleaders.
I would ask, maybe they would say yes to one or even both. After all, they're the same materials. Further, I assume they want to keep you as a customer. They have to realize that's not going to happen if they keep saying no.
I've been told that some of these special order or limited edition items, (such as the Butterfly earrings in turquoise/pave) have to be approved by management. Some have to be approved by Paris. It kind-of creeps me out that VCA could have a dossier on me, but I imagine they track purchases and spending, so the more you buy, the more they're willing to accommodate your requests.
Good luck with the Hellebore. I'm glad you're being persistent and I hope you get it.