Upgrading Engagement Ring
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I have been a member of this site for quite some time and I have maybe posted once. I usually enjoy sitting back and reading others posts. However, I feel strongly about this subject and felt the need to make a point. For those posters who are politely bashing the upgraders please understand that everyone's marriage and choices are their own. If holding on to your original engagement ring is your thing, then that is wonderful. We can all agree to disagree. Personally, I am an upgrader and I do not hold sentiment in material things. My husband and I will be married 15 years this year and we have been together since junior high school. I am a totally different woman than when I got married. At this stage in my life I would not choose my original engagement ring again. I place value on the faithfulness and commitment held between us. The fact that one of us can think something and the other say it. I hold on to the pride that we can cherish the good times while enduring the bad times with our relationship still intact. You do not have to understand how someone can change their ring, but you should respect their decision if they choose to do so.
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i would have a hard time 'upgrading'. i love my ring and i just don't think i could do it. i could get another ring, in addition to what i have, no problem, though!
my mil won the lottery and she bought herself a new, stunning ring. she had her engagement diamond (modest stone) made into a ring for her husband to wear.
my mil won the lottery and she bought herself a new, stunning ring. she had her engagement diamond (modest stone) made into a ring for her husband to wear.
I'm not a particularly sentimental person, and I had no problem trading in my engagement ring.
I had always wanted a round in a halo but what I got was a princess in a cathedral...so I dreamed about an upgrade for awhile and it happened on my 5th anniversary!
I had always wanted a round in a halo but what I got was a princess in a cathedral...so I dreamed about an upgrade for awhile and it happened on my 5th anniversary!
There is a few ways to upgrade, IMO.
I consider an upgrade when you reset your original e-ring with additional diamonds/change setting, exchange your original e-ring to bigger stone, or an additional size upgrade purchase.
Recently I got an upgrade d-ring from DH but it's a straight purchase so I didn't have to turn in the original ring. if you feel like you are too attached to your original e-ring and you can afford an upgrade, why not getting a new diamond ring? it doesn't mean you have to let go the original one, right?
I consider an upgrade when you reset your original e-ring with additional diamonds/change setting, exchange your original e-ring to bigger stone, or an additional size upgrade purchase.
Recently I got an upgrade d-ring from DH but it's a straight purchase so I didn't have to turn in the original ring. if you feel like you are too attached to your original e-ring and you can afford an upgrade, why not getting a new diamond ring? it doesn't mean you have to let go the original one, right?
Maybe it's just me- but I haven't seen any bashing in this thread
? Can you give an example of what you are talking about?Where have you seen disrespect???
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I didn't read all the posts on this, but I have strong feeling regarding this so I thought I would just share them. My husband and I got engaged at a time when we had no money at all. He was starting law school and worked all summer at a boy scout camp and used every cent he made to buy my ring(his mother could have killed him! LOL though I would kill my son now). He went to NYC diamond district and got a beautiful near perfect .80 carat diamond. Nothing could part me from that stone. This summer for my 50th(?!) birthday he(I)designed(I use to work at a jewelery store)a beautiful 3 stone ring. 2 equally sized(a tad smaller, around .70, I didn't want them equal to center stone)diamonds on each side of original. I know that that ring is supose to signify past, present, future, but to me those stones signify our sons and our family. I love it. PS we did talk about trade ins, couldn't do it,Hi, I've been lurking on this forum for a while. Great Forum! This is my first post so be gentle on me!
I have been reading that many of you appear to upgrade your engagement rings and wonder how people feel about this.
I received my engagement ring 18 years ago. I loved it then and I love it now. It is relatively small but it is the ring that my husband gave to me when he asked me to marry him. Although I would love a fantastic HUGE diamond I just could not imagine wearing anything other than the original. I wear it with an eternity ring (row of 7 diamonds), which my husband surprised me with after the birth of our children.
I am not judging anyone for upgrading, just curious as to whether you gave it any thought before changing and whether this bothered you also?
I should mention that I am from the UK and perhaps this makes a difference.
Greenleaves
Well Missbanff, I am not trying to call attention to anyone's post, but there was one post that had a bit of a judgemental tone to me. Therefore, excuse my previous comment when I said posters(plural). I am not trying to focus on what someone else said. My main point was respect. I respect that person's opinion not to upgrade just as I would expect them to respect my decision to upgrade.
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I see.
Well, I hope it wasn't mine, because I clearly stated that I didn't think there was anything wrong with upgrading- just that I knew a few women doing it for the wrong reasons. And if it wasn't my post, then NVM!
I am sentimental about the original ring he gave me but honestly wasnt crazy about the stone, or the size(he seriously had no idea what he was doing & really DID surprise me). Many years later we upgraded the original stone into a new three stone setting & with the extra diamonds & the gold of the original/old setting we had an anniversary ring made.That kept me happy for a while.
A yr later(last yr) totally unplanned we upgraded my original stone with a new solitaire. I would use my 3 stone ring on my right hand but hardly.This yr I got an upgraded anniversary band, and after much consideration I finally decided to have my 3 stone ring reset into something totally useful to me
So now I wear my original e-ring stone(.75) in a pendant,the side stones are gorgeous 1.ct earrings,the "old" anniversary band gets rotated with the new one,and they both actually look very nice alone if I chose not to wear my new solitaire. Confusing no?? but after so many yrs I think I finally got it!
I kept it all & I wear it all
A yr later(last yr) totally unplanned we upgraded my original stone with a new solitaire. I would use my 3 stone ring on my right hand but hardly.This yr I got an upgraded anniversary band, and after much consideration I finally decided to have my 3 stone ring reset into something totally useful to me
So now I wear my original e-ring stone(.75) in a pendant,the side stones are gorgeous 1.ct earrings,the "old" anniversary band gets rotated with the new one,and they both actually look very nice alone if I chose not to wear my new solitaire. Confusing no?? but after so many yrs I think I finally got it!I kept it all & I wear it all
I plan on getting a bigger diamond in the future... but not necessarily an upgrade. My husband has always wanted to get me a huge, honkin' diamond. He couldn't afford it when we got married, so eventually he will be me ANOTHER ring with a huge diamond. I will always keep and cherish my first ring. The huge diamond will probably be my right-hand ring (or vice versa). I don't think of the second ring as a NEW engagement ring, but just another ring.
