Upgrading Engagement Ring

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#17
I can't see myself upgrading, I'm very happy with my diamond, but I only recently started thinking about a new setting, those halo settings I've been seeing on here are TDF!
 
#18
I am actually happy with my diamond, which is a 1.12 carats center stone. My DH and I picked it ourselves, though originally I wanted a blood red ruby surrounded by sparkling diamonds. I plan on upgrading soon but I am attached to my original ring, but this time around it would probably be a blood red ruby because that's what I really wanted from the beginning. I'll still wear my original ring because it represents I day he slipped the ring on my ringer to officially announce to the world that we are engaged. I don't think anything will replace that since I wore that ring during both painful childbirths because the ring wouldn't come off my finger. We've been through so much together. Whatever the upgrade be, it cannot replace the original.
 
#19
I don't think I know too many who upgraded other than my cousin, aunt, mother (because she lost hers), grandmother (grandfather accidentially flush the original down the toilet) and my 3 co-workers. All others kept their original for now.
 
#20
I welcome the idea of upgrading an engagement ring. The memories of the old ring will always be in your heart. I want to upgrade my ring for my 20th wedding anniversary. Good luck!
 
#21
Sentimnetally attached to my original e-ring also, because that's the way I am. So for our last big anniversary, hubby got me what I call an 'anniversary' band'--another solitaire which I wear on my right hand. When I first got it, I switched it to my left hand sometimes, but found I was always uncomfortable not having the original on (which I'd worn for 26 years).
So I look at my right hand when I want to see the larger diamond, and my left hand when I want to remember when hubby put the e-ring on my finger (which always makes me smile).
Also, my new ring does not match my wedding ring as well as my original does. Hubby and I have matching wedding rings, engraved when we got married I feel even more strange (not quite like myself) when I'm not wearing that.
But some are not sentimental about 'things' which is fine--so long as their husbands are also fine with this. A surprising number of men though not all)like to see the original ring that they gave you on your hand.
 
#23
greensleaves said:
Hi, I've been lurking on this forum for a while. Great Forum! This is my first post so be gentle on me!

I have been reading that many of you appear to upgrade your engagement rings and wonder how people feel about this.

I received my engagement ring 18 years ago. I loved it then and I love it now. It is relatively small but it is the ring that my husband gave to me when he asked me to marry him. Although I would love a fantastic HUGE diamond I just could not imagine wearing anything other than the original. I wear it with an eternity ring (row of 7 diamonds), which my husband surprised me with after the birth of our children.

I am not judging anyone for upgrading, just curious as to whether you gave it any thought before changing and whether this bothered you also?

I should mention that I am from the UK and perhaps this makes a difference.

Greenleaves :D:D:D
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I'm with you on this. I cannot understand why anybody should wish to upgrade their engagement ring. Wild horses would have to pull mine off my cold dead hand. I am emotionally attached to it and wouldn't dream of changing it, ever.
 
#24
Neither my dh nor I knew much about jewelry when we became engaged, and neither of us had much of anything in terms of money. We chose a ring based on those two things, and while it certainly has sentimental value, I am not a paricularly sentimental person! I will probably get an upgrade at 15 years, and keep my original wedding band and anniversary band with a new solitaire. I agree that it is the sentiment involved that matters, and that can be present with no ring, an original ring or an upgrade, as it is not dependent on physical objects at all.
 
#26
My husband surprised me Christmas '08 with a beautiful new engagement :yahoo:ring after more than 17 years of marriage. This year I added a new wedding band as the original setting was yellow gold. He doubled my original center stone to 1.25 ct. This past christmas I got new diamond studs 1.61 total weight.... I love that man!!!

P.S. I have my original rings and earrings and will never give them up.:p
 
#27
Well, my husband proposed with my original ring with the intention of upgrading at our 20th anniversary to something bigger and using my original as a sidestone in a new ring or as an earring stone. We never got that chance, as my wedding set was stolen this past Sept. So with the insurance money which was a good amount, we were able to buy a bigger stone that is by numbers much better than my original one. We also added some of our own money to make it the biggest best we could get. I bought from a shop that has a pretty generous upgrade/exchange policy that maybe in a few more years we will take advantage of but for now, I think this size is pretty nice. I can't see myself wearing a much bigger stone and feeling comfortable with it, but never say never!!! I know that on our tenth I would like to have this stone upgraded, well I say that...who knows. Might convince him to buy a totally diff. one haha! We have our 5th this July and I would really prefer to do something like a ruby band or diamond studs or something instead.
 
#28
I grew up with a family member who upgraded her engagement ring every couple years so it's not strange to me but most people I know have never and will never upgrade.

Personally my sentimental piece is my plain gold wedding band, we were uber broke when we got engaged and I got a silver band, I got my gold band before I got a diamond, lol so I will upgrade until I hit ring nirvana ;)
 
#29
Greensleeves,

I too am from the UK and I'd never even heard of upgrading until I joined tPF and the jewellery forum! I think "our" version is the eternity ring ;)

Looking back though, my Mum upgraded her ring: her original was made up of verrrrrry small diamonds as that was all Dad could afford at the time. The gold was paper thin and for their Silver Wedding anniversary she got herself a new ring.
 
#30
I haven't upgraded mine, not that he hasn't ask me. I just chose not to.

I also don't think there is anything wrong with upgrading; unfortunately, DH used to work with a bunch of seriously materialistic a-holes with a very "look at me" mentality. The kind of women who look down on "small" rings. That's the only time I have a issue with it.
 
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