To borrow or not to borrow...to lend or not to lend...

Do you borrow? Do you lend?

  • No, never

  • Yes, always

  • Depends on the bag

  • Depends on the person

  • Depends on the bag AND the person

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K.Z.

K.Z.

O.G.
Jun 25, 2008
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#1
Do you borrow your friends' bags? Do you lend your bags to them? Is it always "yes" or "no" or does it depend on the person and/or the bag?

Me? Nope.
 
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#3
well really depends on the bag itself and the person too.. if it a really good friends, I will lend anything to.. but if it was a good friend, I will just lend a bag that i do not care for that much or basic bag that i can replace easily..
 
#5
I remember a thread about this a long time ago. I gave a beautiful Coach bag to my best girlfriend a while back because she was in need of a special purse for her vacation or something, and she didn't have the right color in her wardrobe. It was one of my best bags and the time, and of course, I baby my bags. When I saw her with it, I almost fainted on the spot because she had stuffed everything in the universe that she owned into that bag so much that she couldn't shut the zipper! It was all whacked out of shape. When I got it back about two weeks later it looked like I had worn it for 50 years, so I just smiled and never told her that I would never lend her any more of my bags, but I let her keep that one for herself.
 
#7
Depends the friend and the bag. I would borrow an "event" bag from some friends, a clutch or evening bag. But I don't think I'd borrow an every day bag, too much risk of damage. Same with lending: I'd lend a clutch for an event but not an every day bag.
 
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#8
nope, not unless I plan on giving it as a gift, same with money. Nothing can ruin a friendship more than lending something and either not getting it back or getting it back ruined.
 
#9
I don't care if it's a bag that is the most durable, structured kind in the world. The reasons why I wouldn't let anyone borrow my bag, no matter what bag it is or who it is, are:
1.) Even w/ the durability being top notch, there would still be room for another small scratch or so here or there when I get it back.
2.) Bags are extremely personal to me, and I'd like all the usage to be mine, not anyone else's - at least from the date of my ownership. This is just like how I'd like all the wear and tear to be mine, not anyone else's.

As a matter of fact, I may consider buying a brand new version of the most expensive bags (which is going to be double the price) that are on my wish list instead of ebaying for them as I thought of doing before.
 
#10
The only person I would lend a bag to would be my mom because I know she would probably take better care of it than me.

I would never borrow a bag for fear of accidentally damaging someone elses property.
 
#11
i have a few friends that i wouldn't think twice about lending a bag to, and they would generally only ask if it was for an event that they didn't have something of their own and didn't feel like buying something new. i'm not overly fussy with my things, they probably take better care of them than i do. i only borrowed a friend's bag once, it was a leiber for a black tie wedding because i didn't feel like spending the $ on it... but then on vacation i saw one on sale and bought it, so i don't have to do that again. i don't like wearing/using things that aren't mine anyway. but with my bff we do have the policy, what's mine is yours, but we really never end up using eachother's stuff anyway
 
#12
No.

In college, I lent a $50 Kathy Van Zeeland bag to a pushy girl and got it back with a huge pen mark! My heart broke to that...so I can't imagine giving someone a $400 bag that I have now and having something happen.

But I will give people bags, no strings attached, if I don't want it anymore and don't plan to sell it.

I am the same with money...I would give someone $50 and not want it back...but I would be scared to loan someone a large amount of money in fear that there would be tension until I got it back.

I think I just get attached to my favorite bags too, like they are a pet. If I lent someone a shirt and they ruined it, I would shrug it off and think it's just an object, but if my purse got ruined for some reason I am more emotional. I know it's silly, but it's true.
 
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