Taking an Hermes break or just slowing down. Feel free to join or give support.

[Letter]

Thank you so much for this thread & the support.

I too am burned out from buying things from H and not even getting the bag i want.

How long should i wait? what happens if I don't visit the store for 6 months?

I don't mind spending to get a bag but i have already spent way more and been waiting for a bag for close to 2 years now. It's so frustrating.

I should have gone the reseller route before i committed to an H store.

It's really great we also support each other by not buying.

I really feel this. Especially reading all the stories of people who have spent far less getting bags. I have to keep reminding myself that I wouldn’t return anything I’ve bought but it is a little frustrating.

I also feel like what happens if I put the brakes on and just don’t buy until I get a bag? No idea. My spend and relationship at this point ”should” be enough. But should is laughable at this point. Sigh.

 

[880]

I really feel this. Especially reading all the stories of people who have spent far less getting bags. I have to keep reminding myself that I wouldn’t return anything I’ve bought but it is a little frustrating.

I also feel like what happens if I put the brakes on and just don’t buy until I get a bag? No idea. My spend and relationship at this point ”should” be enough. But should is laughable at this point. Sigh.

Just buy what you love irrespective of the bag. The bag is the unexpected cherry on the sundae. Otherwise, it can be too depressing (emoticon bar isn’t working or I would include a flowers one for uou)

 

[missBV]

I love what you said about the offer will come or not. So true and I'm going to keep reminding myself of that. I only buy things that I truly love and use. I haven't ventured into housewares for that reason. I think the plates and bowls and cups are beautiful but I'm a klutz and drop things all the time. And my dog would commandeer a blanket. I think the furniture is outrageously priced and way out of my budget so that's not an option for me.

You can consider the Folio lamp.

 

[Forever Orange]

Things are shifting for me. I recently found myself in an airport with an H store... with 2 gorgeous silks I loved but left in the store. I was afraid I would regret it but no regret yet.
Once back home, I opened my drawer full of silks and enjoyed "shopping" my current collection.
The lack of enthusiasm around this season's options is tremendously helpful too. Hoping the next season is as boring to me as this one. My wallet is much happier that way!

This thread is really helpful. Thanks to all who contribute to it. 😀

 

[Ethengdurst]

I appreciate and feel validated by this thread so much. I have already begun my H hiatus before I’ve seen this thread. I was able to buy my last QB on my wishlist last year, and after that I swore to myself and DH that I would slow down. I also had to admit I was becoming too obsessed with H, waking up to check the website, looking at social media for new hot items, texting and waiting for my SA anxiously to tell me if this or that is available. Then life happened; I became too busy with work and my kids. So 2024 really is the year for me to step back and just appreciate what I already have. And maybe check in here once in awhile to see what’s new and what’s happening with H.

 

[DME]

I appreciate and feel validated by this thread so much. I have already begun my H hiatus before I’ve seen this thread. I was able to buy my last QB on my wishlist last year, and after that I swore to myself and DH that I would slow down. I also had to admit I was becoming too obsessed with H, waking up to check the website, looking at social media for new hot items, texting and waiting for my SA anxiously to tell me if this or that is available. Then life happened; I became too busy with work and my kids. So 2024 really is the year for me to step back and just appreciate what I already have. And maybe check in here once in awhile to see what’s new and what’s happening with H.

Your post really resonates with me, especially the bolded piece. It’s been discussed already how COVID spurred an increase in luxury sales - and the accompanying price hikes - for many reasons. I feel like it also spurred this sort of obsessive behavior that I, for one, did not have with H, luxury, or shopping more generally, prior to COVID. I used to be of the mindset that if it was meant to be, the item of interest would be there when I was ready to visit the store to check it out in person and commit. I’m trying to get back to that place. The fact that life is nearly back to where it was before COVID, meaning activities other than shopping are occupying a large part of my time, has been a tremendous help in reaching that goal. It sounds like you feel similarly? I’m wondering if others do, too? If so, perhaps some focus should be paid to reassuring one another that our pre-COVID shopping behavior really was OK. Put another way, it’s less about taking a step back from H, even if that is the intended effect, but about getting back to how we viewed shopping H before the world was turned upside down.

 

[FrenchNewbie]

I appreciate and feel validated by this thread so much. I have already begun my H hiatus before I’ve seen this thread. I was able to buy my last QB on my wishlist last year, and after that I swore to myself and DH that I would slow down. I also had to admit I was becoming too obsessed with H, waking up to check the website, looking at social media for new hot items, texting and waiting for my SA anxiously to tell me if this or that is available. Then life happened; I became too busy with work and my kids. So 2024 really is the year for me to step back and just appreciate what I already have. And maybe check in here once in awhile to see what’s new and what’s happening with H.

Your post really resonates with me, especially the bolded piece. It’s been discussed already how COVID spurred an increase in luxury sales - and the accompanying price hikes - for many reasons. I feel like it also spurred this sort of obsessive behavior that I, for one, did not have with H, luxury, or shopping more generally, prior to COVID. I used to be of the mindset that if it was meant to be, the item of interest would be there when I was ready to visit the store to check it out in person and commit. I’m trying to get back to that place. The fact that life is nearly back to where it was before COVID, meaning activities other than shopping are occupying a large part of my time, has been a tremendous help in reaching that goal. It sounds like you feel similarly? I’m wondering if others do, too? If so, perhaps some focus should be paid to reassuring one another that our pre-COVID shopping behavior really was OK. Put another way, it’s less about taking a step back from H, even if that is the intended effect, but about getting back to how we viewed shopping H before the world was turned upside down.

Totally agree with the bolded parts from both of your posts. This resonates with me as well.

 

[lill_canele]

Enjoyed reading this thread so far. (a lot of skimming though, sorry, I can't keep up haha).

I've definitely put H on the back burner. Mainly because there are other things I want more now.
And even though I enjoy and love H, the heart wants what the heart wants! No regrets on my other luxury purchases that had a higher priority.

 

[GabrielleS]

Your post really resonates with me, especially the bolded piece. It’s been discussed already how COVID spurred an increase in luxury sales - and the accompanying price hikes - for many reasons. I feel like it also spurred this sort of obsessive behavior that I, for one, did not have with H, luxury, or shopping more generally, prior to COVID. I used to be of the mindset that if it was meant to be, the item of interest would be there when I was ready to visit the store to check it out in person and commit. I’m trying to get back to that place. The fact that life is nearly back to where it was before COVID, meaning activities other than shopping are occupying a large part of my time, has been a tremendous help in reaching that goal. It sounds like you feel similarly? I’m wondering if others do, too? If so, perhaps some focus should be paid to reassuring one another that our pre-COVID shopping behavior really was OK. Put another way, it’s less about taking a step back from H, even if that is the intended effect, but about getting back to how we viewed shopping H before the world was turned upside down.

I am definitely shopping less generally because of getting back to pre-COVID activities and getting into some new activities and experiences. It just doesn’t leave much time to shop in person to be honest and my store doesn’t do shipping. I am sure there are many customers who prioritize visiting H still but I literally no longer have the time to drop by frequently to see if something that interests me will be in stock.

 

[VickyJohn84]

I love this thread! Such a safe space to share experiences/frustrations/real thoughts.

I have been waiting over 17 months for a Kelly on the UK wishlist and at some point I am going to have to accept that its probably not going to happen (my DH thinks I'm ridiculous for keeping going). Its just so hard when you've invested so much time and really hard earned money! And when you see UK influencers getting a QB ever 6 months or special orders they don't even like.

I've been doing a 4-5 hour round trip every month or so to get to the nearest store, paying a fortune on British trains (IYKYK) and sometimes hotels, and then the bits and pieces I buy when I'm there because I want stuff/have made so much effort/don't want to waste my SAs time.

Don't get me wrong, I love Hermes items (I come from an artsy family so really really appreciate the craftsmanship), but I am just not sure I can keep making so much effort and not having a wish granted. With my 40th coming up this year I was really hoping to be lucky 🙏

 

[benjinito]

I too am burned out from buying things from H and not even getting the bag i want.

How long should i wait? what happens if I don't visit the store for 6 months?

My SA said that at my store (US), your profile becomes dormant after 6 months. It was heavily implied that the spend would “reset”. Could be unique to my store, though.

 

[matchagrl]

I have just purchased my dream Black Bolide in Ardennes Leather (!!) for my birthday next week. Obviously this was a pre-loved purchase given the fact that it is in a discontinued leather. Somehow, the stars aligned and the price was palatable, given that the cost was the same as a brand new Mini Evelyne. It most likely needs a spa session and the lining is quite worn out, but I am elated and so excited to receive it! I asked DH if we should go to the boutique for my bday or if I should get the vintage one..and I chose vintage. This was truly one of the bags I wanted in a dream leather in a colour I really wanted. I'm happy to take a step back for a little while and focus on my other dreams this year. I want to travel more and I want to start choosing in collecting memories instead of things. I'm grateful for the small collection I've been able to procure but for now it's time to enjoy the items I have and live life. Maybe I'll drop into the boutique once in a while but I don't think I'll be making my monthly pilgrimage like in previous years.

 

[VickyJohn84]

I have just purchased my dream Black Bolide in Ardennes Leather (!!) for my birthday next week. Obviously this was a pre-loved purchase given the fact that it is in a discontinued leather. Somehow, the stars aligned and the price was palatable, given that the cost was the same as a brand new Mini Evelyne. It most likely needs a spa session and the lining is quite worn out, but I am elated and so excited to receive it! I asked DH if we should go to the boutique for my bday or if I should get the vintage one..and I chose vintage. This was truly one of the bags I wanted in a dream leather in a colour I really wanted. I'm happy to take a step back for a little while and focus on my other dreams this year. I want to travel more and I want to start choosing in collecting memories instead of things. I'm grateful for the small collection I've been able to procure but for now it's time to enjoy the items I have and live life. Maybe I'll drop into the boutique once in a while but I don't think I'll be making my monthly pilgrimage like in previous years.

Congrats on the gorgeous bag 😍 The monthly pilgrimage sounds all too familiar!

 

[QuelleFromage]

For those getting off the "game" train....It is nice to remember that an Hermès bag bought at resale, at least an older bag, is a very sustainable and ethical purchase - an item that with proper care could last 100 years (or more!).

 

[Letter]

For those getting off the "game" train....It is nice to remember that an Hermès bag bought at resale, at least an older bag, is a very sustainable and ethical purchase - an item that with proper care could last 100 years (or more!).

I am worried about fakes when buying used. When you guys post pictures and laugh about how obviously fake it is I can’t even tell! ☺️ I think that, plus not understanding resale pricing, stops me from buying vintage (even though I’ve seen some bags I love).