I don't think you sounded like a B pursegalsf. You sounded very reasonable. When I was about 14 I had a hideous, revolting hairdo (anyone seen pictures of the old British Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher? yeap, I was her double I swear!) I was devestated because I'd taken lots of pictures & had taken the time & effort to come in for a consultation days before to make sure what I wanted was possible & more importantly that it would suit me. Everything went fine, except on the day it all was hideous, clearly the stylist either didn't have full use of her arms or was suffering from some temporary blindness cos what I came out looking like was nothing like we'd discussed! Even the other stylists were looking at me oddly & asking if it was what I wanted & if I liked it, but being so young I was far too nervous to complain. I went straight home & cried my eyes out & spent hours dragging wet combs through my hair in an attempt to make it less hideous.
Now when I go to the hairdressers, I pay attention to exactly what they are doing & am constantly asking them questions & commenting on their work, it probably drives them loopy, but I'm paying for a service & I expect it to be what I want it to be. I always give a big tip if I like what they've done, but if I think its just ok, then I'll tell them & see if theres something more they can do, if they aren't willing to do any more, or make any changes then I don't tip at all.