@luxuryspy
You've received good advice from some very experienced H shoppers here.
My advice comes from both my history at H (20 years) but also luxury shopping as a whole.
To put it bluntly: If I were your SA, our relationship would be coming to an end. You were 10000000% lucky to get an offer after 'speaking' (throwing a tantrum) to the SM. You may not have been screaming your head off, but I can't imagine how that conversation did NOT come across as whiny and demanding. They offered that bag to appease you, not because they consider you a high priority client. It may not have been 100% what you wanted, but it was within the realm of (vs. requesting a pastel MK and getting offered a black B35).
I'm not opposed to speaking to management if you've experienced poor service, but not receiving a QB offer because you think you've spent enough isn't a real problem. Just to be clear, your spend isn't competitive in the current H climate.
In my opinion: Unless you change how you come across to your SA/SM ($$$$$$$ in fine jewellery, home furnishings, RTW), I think you are done at your store. IF they offer you one more bag, regardless if you accept it or not, my bet is you'll never receive another offer after that. From a sales point of view, SA/SM's see you as low spend, high maintenance. There's plenty of other clients who are high spend, low maintenance. Who do you think SA's would rather spend their time on and keep happy?
Again, not trying to be cruel but this is the reality of high demand luxury shopping.