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#31
I personally feel perpetually victimized by the fashion industry. In men's fashion, design and practicality coexist. In women's fashion, they rarely ever do. Shopping is constant hell for me because I think like an engineer, I'm practical, and I'm intolerant of discomfort. That said, I consider 3" heels essentially flats. But I am disturbed by, for example, how much women's clothing is designed to show off our bodies. Im also disturbed by how everything is dry clean only (even when it isn't), etc. I also hate how there is too much variability and there are way too many bad ideas. I look through my brothers closet and through men's departments and I am so envious.

Recently, I have probably spent hundreds of hours shopping for a new day bag. Not a single bag between $1000 and $3000 meets all of my functional requirements while also being decent looking enough for me to actually want to buy it. It's really depressing. Im also bothered by how I feel like I need to carry something decently sized in order to appear grown up and sophisticated. But I only carry a couple things.

I personally am so driven by vanity. I'm also driven by how much other women judge me based on what I wear and carry. This affects how I am treated, whether I am taken seriously, respected, etc. I resent this.
 
#32
Women's fashion exploits female vanity and insecurity far more than men's fashion does. Women are primarily concerned with appearances thanks to the male gaze. Women think that they dress for themselves but concern for appearance fundamentally derives from a patriarchal social structure in which a woman's worth is far more determined by her appearance than a mans is.

Women's fashion is fickle. The way to make money is to convince women they need more things, so fashions are always changing. It's so much more trendy. Why? Bc us women are so insecure and easily swayed by bull****. Oh and of course we need so many more things than men do. We need an entirely different outfit for every occasion. There is a much wider variety of so called essentials that we "need." Right? Men can get away with wearing nearly the same thing. Men's clothing is far more versatile.

Women's clothing is uncomfortable, body conscious, and restrictive. Think of pencil skirts. Wtf? I can't stand them. First of all, they are cut way too tightly around my hips and butt so I must constantly be showing off my assets. Secondly, they restrict my ability to walk fast. I must also be careful not to flash anyone. I could go on for days.

Handbags are the absolute worst. The markup is higher than for anything else. I actually thought about shopping for men's bags. Men's bags are simpler, more practical, and lighter weight it seems. Wtf?
 
#34
I've thought about actually wearing men's clothes but I unfortunately have a waist, hips, and boobs to deal with. I'm also a size 0. But I might actually just start wearing leggings with men's dress shirts and tell everyone to go **** themselves.
 
#35
I'm also a feminist. Ironically the only people I ever seem to get along with are men though. Especially with my fashion complaints, they actually understand where I'm coming from.

Why do women need to be carrying so much stuff with them? I see this as correlated with some kind of deep seated insecurity or anxiety. It's high maintenance af. It's limiting.

And like it's disturbing bc women really are so limited. And that's why you see barely any women engaged in hobbies that are actually cool and fun. Plus, it seems like women are so much less independent and that's disturbing as well. It's like women need a giant *** bag to carry around evetuthing they *might* need (big enough for a homeless person to live out of) and they need to be accompanied by 3 friends to do just about anything.
 
#36
Also, the amount of time it takes me to buy things is crazy bc I HATE women's clothes and I HATE women's bags, and it makes me so mad! I am constantly forced to compromise and carry bags I don't want to carry and wear clothes I don't want to wear because what I want does not exist.
 
#39
That said, re handbag collections, if you have the money and they make you happy, it's not much different than art. It's just art you carry around. It weighs you down and in some cases, keeps you from being able to use two hands, keeps you from being able to walk with biomechanical efficiency (cannot swing arms properly), keeps you from being able to run without all your **** flying out (with open styles), keeps you from being able to crowd surf, keeps you from being able to jump up and down or dance without this obnoxious thing banging against you, etc. But yeah, handbags are great. Who needs pockets? Pockets could make us look fat, after all. Who wants that?
 
#42
jpin86 said:
Also, the amount of time it takes me to buy things is crazy bc I HATE women's clothes and I HATE women's bags, and it makes me so mad! I am constantly forced to compromise and carry bags I don't want to carry and wear clothes I don't want to wear because what I want does not exist.
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Curious why you thought to join a handbag and fashion forum?
 
#44
Ah, the salad days. When judgment is green.
Yes, can be frustrating as a woman.
But, limiting? Pfffft!

Wash the dry clean only stuff. Might live. Some of mine did.
Some now fits teeny-weeny people of this world, who rummage charity shops.

Wear the same shirt/pants for 3 days. Spritz with nice-smelling stuff & change jackets.
No one is paying attention, except to their mobile phones.
Men understand this better, bless them--they must teach us such ninja dress sense.

That boring hobby stuff hasn't been mentioned to me. Not ever.
Maybe because no one wants to be smacked with a socket wrench.

And fashion? Sure, it's a business, an industry of vanity & unrealistic expectations.
But, it's the only place to buy red lipstick & warm slippers in January.
So, I'm there.

Hope you feel better & find what you need, jpin86.
The confused/angry days end, eventually. But, no fun to navigate through. Hang in. ♡
 
#45
jpin86 said:
I'm also a feminist. Ironically the only people I ever seem to get along with are men though. Especially with my fashion complaints, they actually understand where I'm coming from.

Why do women need to be carrying so much stuff with them? I see this as correlated with some kind of deep seated insecurity or anxiety. It's high maintenance af. It's limiting.

And like it's disturbing bc women really are so limited. And that's why you see barely any women engaged in hobbies that are actually cool and fun. Plus, it seems like women are so much less independent and that's disturbing as well. It's like women need a giant *** bag to carry around evetuthing they *might* need (big enough for a homeless person to live out of) and they need to be accompanied by 3 friends to do just about anything.
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Um ok, grossly inaccurate sweeping generalizations about women does not make you sound like a feminist. As far as I'm aware joining this site is voluntary, for some it's a hobby but you let me know if that's on your approved list of female pass times. Didn't you join because you need an overpriced vessel of women's subjugation to lug around the two things you need to carry?

I don't think bags and the fashion industry are the problem here but if it's as bad as you say for you, find a good tailor or seamstress to fashion you some non restrictive modest garments that you can wash. You don't have to participate in an industry you have such contempt for.

I'm a very high strung and stressed person, due to running my own business and managing my family life-not because I couldn't find three girls to walk to the bathroom with me but I think you need to relax. If this site isn't fun for you, there's a billion places on the Internet to amuse yourself that have nothing to do with fashion.
 
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