Sideways Cross Necklace.. Offensive?
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Im a catholic ,No its not one bit offensive because the romans crusafied some people and saints in this way.Christ carried his cross side ways over his sholder.Catholics where crusafied side ways by the romans.
I was sorta side stepping without saying if she's Catholic, she would be more open to this.
I just being a little too cautious to follow the rules.
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Its a trendy look and she might not get it or worse be offended. Unless she's a super trendy person who is also pretty laid back I'd avoid it. You could float the issue, and say oh I saw the cutest necklace that was a sideways cross and see what she says.
Do I need to say the obvious? What if she thinks its some freaky anti-religion, Satan thing? Just saying.
Do I need to say the obvious? What if she thinks its some freaky anti-religion, Satan thing? Just saying.
i will throw this out there, since there's a question of its meaning.
i am jewish, so obviously i have no idea to the intentions of what a sideways cross would mean, but i had asked one of my best friends—who is a very religious catholic—about what a sideways cross meant (since i had seen taylor wearing it on the rachel zoe project and how everybody was swooning over it on tPF, i was curious).
she had no idea. in fact, to her, she found it offensive. she didn't really say why and since i know nothing about catholicism, i didn't push it. and she's young, so i don't necessarily think it means how young or old they are, just their religious beliefs. she's a very trendy person because she works at nordstrom as a personal shopper, so she has to be current with trends.
i don't know. even though my friend is religious, you wouldn't necessarily know it since she doesn't wear it on her sleeve, if you know what i mean? she's very private about her religion, so to her, it was offensive.
just wanted to throw that out there...
i am jewish, so obviously i have no idea to the intentions of what a sideways cross would mean, but i had asked one of my best friends—who is a very religious catholic—about what a sideways cross meant (since i had seen taylor wearing it on the rachel zoe project and how everybody was swooning over it on tPF, i was curious).
she had no idea. in fact, to her, she found it offensive. she didn't really say why and since i know nothing about catholicism, i didn't push it. and she's young, so i don't necessarily think it means how young or old they are, just their religious beliefs. she's a very trendy person because she works at nordstrom as a personal shopper, so she has to be current with trends.
i don't know. even though my friend is religious, you wouldn't necessarily know it since she doesn't wear it on her sleeve, if you know what i mean? she's very private about her religion, so to her, it was offensive.
just wanted to throw that out there...
Don't worry about her age, worry about her personality. If she's the type who can handle new ideas and current trends then get it. If not then disregard my advice.
What's the goal: pushing her to expand her zone, or buying something within her known zone of comfort? If it's the first, go ahead. If it's the second, don't.
The more respectful thing is to buy something she's likely not to have to think too much about to enjoy.
The more respectful thing is to buy something she's likely not to have to think too much about to enjoy.
Why are you assuming a sideways cross isn't within her comfort zone? We know nothing about this woman other than her age. I know some pretty hip 40 yr olds, maybe a sideways cross is within her comfort zone but she does not own one.
But yes I do agree, the respectful thing is to get her something she will enjoy.
I guess it's either a hit or miss.
She's actually not very religious, but she does consider herself a Christian. She's not too conservative, and she's slightly modern. For example, she gave me a Victoria's Secret gift card for Christmas last year, lol. The question I should've asked was if a sideways cross necklace is too edgy for a woman in her 40's.
I actually placed an order for a small silver one for her, because I thought it was more age appropriate. But after reading the comments here I got strong second thoughts again, so I changed the order to a gold one for myself
Thank you all for your opinions!
She's actually not very religious, but she does consider herself a Christian. She's not too conservative, and she's slightly modern. For example, she gave me a Victoria's Secret gift card for Christmas last year, lol. The question I should've asked was if a sideways cross necklace is too edgy for a woman in her 40's.
I actually placed an order for a small silver one for her, because I thought it was more age appropriate. But after reading the comments here I got strong second thoughts again, so I changed the order to a gold one for myself
Thank you all for your opinions!
Necklaces tend to move around a lot when you're wearing them. The sideways ones I've seen could end up shifting around the neck and becoming an upside down cross. I think that is where it might become offensive/sacrilege.
wow, it really depresses me how a lot of posters in here associate a woman in her 40s as being old or out of style. i am 44 years old and i pride myself as being a hip woman who is current on the trends. but that's me, i realize not all women in their 40s are as hip and cool as me.
now excuse me while i go apply some ben-gay and watch the golden girls.(help, i've fallen and i can't get up...)