Shopping for an e-ring as a couple

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#31
eckertle said:
My fiance and I picked out my Whiteflash diamond together because it was such a big purchase. I decided that I wanted a Leon Mege setting, so I spoke with Leon directly about my likes/dislikes. After that, I was out of the loop and Leon basically designed my ring without more input from me or my fiance. My fiance surprised me with the custom setting at a time when I least expected it. Even though I knew about the diamond and had a hint about what my setting would look like, I was still totally surprised!
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You have a Leon Mege design!? May we see it:tender:
 
#32
Me and SO were college students at the time we began seriously talking about getting married (within a reasonable time frame). I showed him a ring I liked that I thought was perfect to represent the time and place we were at. I told him I never wanted to forget how happy we'd been - even so low on cash and as stressed as we'd been, finishing up school and all. It was a tiny Tiffiny ring (about $300.00 total), .02 carat diamond - but it spoke to me. Anyway, I showed it to him - and we sort of both just went on about our lives. About a month or so later he proposed - and I had no idea it was coming. It was a total, complete shocked - perfectly planned by him and by far the most romantic, purest moment of my life thus far.

Here are a few posts about it:
http://forum.purseblog.com/the-jewelry-box/i-think-id-be-happy-non-engagement-ring-179373.html
http://forum.purseblog.com/relationships-and-family/we-set-the-date-im-getting-married-194636.html
http://forum.purseblog.com/the-wardrobe/i-went-wedding-gown-shopping-and-found-one-211064.html
 
#33
Not odd at all to me. We went together for my ring when we got engaged. Hubby felt it was a big investment and wanted me to be perfectly happy with my ring.

He proposed without a ring and then we went shopping together a few days later to buy one.
 
#34
burberryprncess said:
My DH's proposal was not a normal one....but shopping together to pick the diamond was fun. Here's my story.....a rather unusual one.

DH and I talked about getting engaged 6 months prior to the proposal. He told me his plan was to surprise me with the ring. Being picky about diamonds, I asked what he had in mind. He said the cheaper and clouder the better. :cursing: I think he was kidding though, but I kept hinting to him my ideal diamond. Months gone by and still no ring. Then out of the blue one night after dinner, he got down to his knee and proposed to me with a cheap ring he bought from the candy machine. I was totally in shock. :wtf: Ok, at that point, I thought he was such a cheapskate and probably the cheapest guy in the world, but I said yes anyway. Bottom line was I really love him and the ring didn't matter....but can't wonder why he did that. I hated the ring and can't see myself wearing it for the rest of my life. The cheap bendable metal will eventually give out. Actually, I was too embarrassed to show it off, fearing everyone would laugh at me. Two weekends later, he asked me to go with him to the jewelers to fix his father's watch. There I looked at the rings on display and fell in love with a ruby ring with diamonds, but the setting wasn't to my liking. The jeweler said he will find a better ruby. Then DH said surprise! Pick whatever you want and that will be your engagement ring. Whoo! Now that's my guy. :yahoo: We spent the next several days finding my ideal ruby and loose diamonds for the setting. I was very specific as to want I wanted. When we finally found the one, his parents and my parents had an issue of it not being the traditional diamond ring. So, we ended up looking for diamonds only and found a beautiful colorless, round diamond for my er and as a bonus, he insisted that we get another colorless round diamond for a pendant. So, I got a set for my engagement.... the ring is to tell the world that I belong to him and the pendant to tell the world that he will always be in my heart. :love:


So, back to your question, shopping together is common and a great experience. You don't want to end up with the ring you're not 100% crazy about.
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aww..that is the most wonderful story ever! i love it!
 
#35
I think it can be a good idea to go shopping together because ideas can change about what you want! My BF was adamant about not going together to look, he wanted to surprise me, and he has good taste so for the most part I was OK with it. But about 3 weeks ago he suddenly decided we should go look together. I'm so glad we did! We have some different ideas about what we each like. I tried on things that I didn't think I wanted before, and fell in love with them, and now he knows what I like too. In the end I just want to marry him, so I'll be happy with whatever, but I think he'll take what I liked into consideration! :-)
 
#36
I'm not one to say what is "normal" and what is not, but I can tell you that nearly each and every time I've ever been in a jewelry store, I've seen couples together looking at the engagement ring case. Now that my bf and I have decided to get married, we've also been looking together. The proposal will be a surprise (I don't know when he will ask me formally), and the ring he chooses will too. But it is nice for him (so he tells me) to have been show him things that I like, as well as to try them on so he can get a sense for what he likes too.

Enjoy and have fun!! And congratulations on your enagement.
 
#38
my df and i looked together to get an idea of what i wanted. he did a lot of research on his own and decided where he wanted the ring made. when he did go meet with the jeweller i went along because i had very specific ideas. then it was up to him! he came up with a creative proposal and i got the ring i wanted!
 
#40
eckertle said:
Off topic: How do I insert an image when it's not a URL?
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there's a huge thread on posting photos in feedback Doropbox, but it's as easy as clicking on the paperclip icon when you're posting a reply or starting a thread.

Annie, it's because you're old fashioned :D
I'd have loved for DH just to know what to get me. . .unfortunately that's a fairytale for me! LOL!
 
#43
IntlSet -- I went with my SO to look at rings, and showed him THE ONE that I was in looooove with...a while later (8 months, maybe??) when we were at brunch at Hotel Del Coronado in San Diego, he asked me to go "on a walk" with him, where he got down on one knee and proposed on the beach!

I always feel like I got the best of both worlds -- picking out the exact ring I wanted, but still being surprised :)
 
#44
It is funny, because I always had the notion that every woman was always SO surprised and knew nothing of the ring or engagement. It is SO much different. Most couples I know talk about marriage, the ring, etc.

I am still a romantic, so I would love to be totally surprised! But Vlad and I have looked at rings together, he knows what I like, and then I leave it at that. The meaning behind the ring is what matters most, but I know most men really want their gal to be happy with their choice of ring. So I like to steer in the right direction :yes:
 
#45
Megs- ITA! :yes:

My SO has been asking lots of questions about rings for months now and dropping hints. He keeps making other suggestions and I seriously think he's just doing it to make sure I know what I want. I also think he wants to make sure he gets it right. I like knowing that I'll be surprised, yet it's comforting to know he's been steered in the right direction :yes:

LivinLuxuriously-- I remember your thread when you got your ring. Gorgeous ring and gorgeous dress! Congrats again :flowers:
 
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