“Sheltering in Place” with Hermès

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Dear everyone,
I am at the denying stage. My mental is against the fact that my Husband has gone forever.
I want to cry out loud but I can't.
I want to clean up the house but my kids keep everything nice and neat.
I want to iron his clothes but his clothes are done a few days ago.
I am sitting in my kitchen and usually, at this time my kitchen will have some sense of baked goods- now is empty. I am having a bottle of Ensure-the ernegy drink- which is my meal of a day, every day so far.
I am still wearing our wedding ring and looking at his wedding ring in my thump. Again no tear but I can hear my heart shattered into many pieces.
I am wearing the Juste Un Clou that was the last set of jewelry that he bought for me a week before he died. He has never bought any set for me before. Normally I would have a ring, then later earing, then if I was insisted that I needed a whole set then he would come in pick up a bracelet or bangle to match the set. So he did the set at this time for me just like he knew he would not be able to buy later.
The autopsy result came in He was somehow suffocated and Covid got him at that time. So there were no heart problems no worry that my kids would get it but my mind still has a big question mark why he got suffocated? Maybe God is the only one to know the real answer.
I have lost a few lbs finally. My hair is getting more grey than ever.
Yesterday I brought his clothes to the funeral home and forgot to bring him a Rosary. I drove 2hour and 30 mins back and forth and my mind was empty, my youngest was a quiet sleeper for once. I got the road all to myself.
Today is cloudy...I decided to keep his ring as a necklace pendant and to keep him close to my heart. But his rings plus mine are getting heavy....

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My heart breaks for you just reading this, I can't even begin to imagine what it must be like for you. Please take care. All of us here are sending our prayers and love even though I know no words will ever be enough. Sounds like you have raised great kids. Have lots of hugs with them. Hope you are surrounded with all the support you can get. Love you!
 
Dear everyone,
I am at the denying stage. My mental is against the fact that my Husband has gone forever.
I want to cry out loud but I can't.
I want to clean up the house but my kids keep everything nice and neat.
I want to iron his clothes but his clothes are done a few days ago.
I am sitting in my kitchen and usually, at this time my kitchen will have some sense of baked goods- now is empty. I am having a bottle of Ensure-the ernegy drink- which is my meal of a day, every day so far.
I am still wearing our wedding ring and looking at his wedding ring in my thump. Again no tear but I can hear my heart shattered into many pieces.
I am wearing the Juste Un Clou that was the last set of jewelry that he bought for me a week before he died. He has never bought any set for me before. Normally I would have a ring, then later earing, then if I was insisted that I needed a whole set then he would come in pick up a bracelet or bangle to match the set. So he did the set at this time for me just like he knew he would not be able to buy later.
The autopsy result came in He was somehow suffocated and Covid got him at that time. So there were no heart problems no worry that my kids would get it but my mind still has a big question mark why he got suffocated? Maybe God is the only one to know the real answer.
I have lost a few lbs finally. My hair is getting more grey than ever.
Yesterday I brought his clothes to the funeral home and forgot to bring him a Rosary. I drove 2hour and 30 mins back and forth and my mind was empty, my youngest was a quiet sleeper for once. I got the road all to myself.
Today is cloudy...I decided to keep his ring as a necklace pendant and to keep him close to my heart. But his rings plus mine are getting heavy....

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As momoc stated, my heart breaks just reading your thoughts. It’s going to take time, lots of time. Mourning occupies its own time and space. I can only say from experience of losing my parents at a young age: take your time, nothing you do is wrong. You will cry without tears, you will stare into space, you will be moody, you will be in denial, you will rage. It’s okay. I’m sending even more healing thoughts your way. Thank you for keeping us updated. I hope posting your thoughts here helps a bit.:heart:
 
Dear everyone,
I am at the denying stage. My mental is against the fact that my Husband has gone forever.
I want to cry out loud but I can't.
I want to clean up the house but my kids keep everything nice and neat.
I want to iron his clothes but his clothes are done a few days ago.
I am sitting in my kitchen and usually, at this time my kitchen will have some sense of baked goods- now is empty. I am having a bottle of Ensure-the ernegy drink- which is my meal of a day, every day so far.
I am still wearing our wedding ring and looking at his wedding ring in my thump. Again no tear but I can hear my heart shattered into many pieces.
I am wearing the Juste Un Clou that was the last set of jewelry that he bought for me a week before he died. He has never bought any set for me before. Normally I would have a ring, then later earing, then if I was insisted that I needed a whole set then he would come in pick up a bracelet or bangle to match the set. So he did the set at this time for me just like he knew he would not be able to buy later.
The autopsy result came in He was somehow suffocated and Covid got him at that time. So there were no heart problems no worry that my kids would get it but my mind still has a big question mark why he got suffocated? Maybe God is the only one to know the real answer.
I have lost a few lbs finally. My hair is getting more grey than ever.
Yesterday I brought his clothes to the funeral home and forgot to bring him a Rosary. I drove 2hour and 30 mins back and forth and my mind was empty, my youngest was a quiet sleeper for once. I got the road all to myself.
Today is cloudy...I decided to keep his ring as a necklace pendant and to keep him close to my heart. But his rings plus mine are getting heavy....
Oh @tlamdang08... I have no words... Sending love and thoughts to you.
 
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I woke up early, made some coffee and toasted & buttered a bagel. I think I need to set some goals for 2021....now I just need to figure out what those goals will be. As I’ve never been a “New Years resolution” person, I’m not sure where to begin.....

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How about to keep in good health and laugh often?
 
Can these green younglings help with your goals, Diane?

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My fixation on anything related to The Mandalorian hasn’t wavered at all. So these younglings have challenged me to photograph something daily that incorporates them (or other characters) with H.

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Prepare to be zapped by my nerd/geek blaster.:smile:
I love being zapped by the geek blaster. Almost every time when I brush trough this topic, I have my The Child socks on. That makes it always so much more fun to see :amuse:
 
Can these green younglings help with your goals, Diane?

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My fixation on anything related to The Mandalorian hasn’t wavered at all. So these younglings have challenged me to photograph something daily that incorporates them (or other characters) with H.

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Prepare to be zapped by my nerd/geek blaster.:smile:
My biggest challenge is having fewer possessions. If I’m honest with myself, I have purchased more H items during the pandemic than I use. I have a number of Passifolia pieces that I’ve never used, because I shopped out of the boredom of following the pandemic rules. It’s the same with scarves. I like them, I buy them, but I really don’t use them all that much. And I’m hardly using bags. Jacket pockets are working well for most of the quick errands I run.
For over a decade, I carried only Bottega bags. I had a lot of them. Then they changed designers and I didn’t like the changes. I started moving them out, but I still have several that need to go. Now, I’m questioning the number of H clutches I have...OMG...I fear I’ll be struck by lightning just saying that! I’m 70. I’ve been retired for almost 8 years. Even though I‘ve read that this happens, I didn’t think it would happen to me!

So you can zap me with anything & everything you’ve got, as long as it zaps some common sense into me! I’m ready....let the zapping begin!
 
My biggest challenge is having fewer possessions. If I’m honest with myself, I have purchased more H items during the pandemic than I use. I have a number of Passifolia pieces that I’ve never used, because I shopped out of the boredom of following the pandemic rules. It’s the same with scarves. I like them, I buy them, but I really don’t use them all that much. And I’m hardly using bags. Jacket pockets are working well for most of the quick errands I run.
For over a decade, I carried only Bottega bags. I had a lot of them. Then they changed designers and I didn’t like the changes. I started moving them out, but I still have several that need to go. Now, I’m questioning the number of H clutches I have...OMG...I fear I’ll be struck by lightning just saying that! I’m 70. I’ve been retired for almost 8 years. Even though I‘ve read that this happens, I didn’t think it would happen to me!

So you can zap me with anything & everything you’ve got, as long as it zaps some common sense into me! I’m ready....let the zapping begin!
This is sort of in the opposite direction of my general minimalist-aspirational ethos, but I refuse to zap you! You have impeccable taste in art, design, and style and do not need to apologize to anyone (especially here) for your beautiful things. But, as soon as one of them begins to make you unhappy, get rid of it!

Lastly, 70 is only "important" because we happen to have ten fingers and toes. If we had 8 digits on each appendage instead of 5, you would be 46, which doesn't exactly make one Note the Age Significance. :rolleyes::yes:
 
I woke up early, made some coffee and toasted & buttered a bagel. I think I need to set some goals for 2021....now I just need to figure out what those goals will be. As I’ve never been a “New Years resolution” person, I’m not sure where to begin.....

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This just looks so cozy. How about eating more toasted bagels with butter as a resolution?? Seriously, a few years ago I told my family that my resolution for the year was to eat more butter. I am somewhat famous (in my very small circle) for saying that. Truly, though, it came from a place of not wanting to deprive myself and was really a shift in my perception.....to make nothing forbidden, if that makes sense. My resolutions for 2021 are to maintain my daily walks and to read more books purchased from my local bookstore.:heart:
 
Can these green younglings help with your goals, Diane?

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My fixation on anything related to The Mandalorian hasn’t wavered at all. So these younglings have challenged me to photograph something daily that incorporates them (or other characters) with H.

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Prepare to be zapped by my nerd/geek blaster.:smile:
Love, love, love, dear @sf_newyorker! :loveeyes:
I have my Grogu standing on an H book. :amuse:

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This is the Way! :biggrin:;)
 
To be grateful and kind is what I remind myself when I go for my runs lately. I know as simple as it sounds, I admit that sometimes I'm not so great at being either. So this will join my running list of resolutions I have each year which always includes to drink more water.

I was looking back on this thread recently and it gave me a chuckle. We were all so certain, or at least hopeful, that SIP would be temporary and that we would be able to resume normal life sooner rather than later. Yet, here we are still hunkering down even more. I'm grateful for everyone and their contributions to this thread - for the advice, encouragement and comradery among this group. It's been a helpful and welcome distraction for me.

So here's to the end of 2020 and the start of 2021. Although I don't think much will change in the next few months, I'm still keeping my eye on the light at the end of the tunnel for hope is what we all need to get us through.
 
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