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#91
After binging on H for a few months, I got put on the ban island by DH. :shucks:He is my conscience since I have no self control. Reading the posts here, I feel like I am the only one (or at least one of the few) who has failed to train her DH well ...
So for the future (if I ever get off the ban island), I would say the strategy to avoid the ban island is to have a clear monthly or quarterly budget and stick with it ;)
 
#92
Kitty S. said:
After binging on H for a few months, I got put on the ban island by DH. :shucks:He is my conscience since I have no self control. Reading the posts here, I feel like I am the only one (or at least one of the few) who has failed to train her DH well ...
So for the future (if I ever get off the ban island), I would say the strategy to avoid the ban island is to have a clear monthly or quarterly budget and stick with it ;)
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You're not alone... I can have one H (reasonable) item for birthday or Christmas. Other than that, I need to sell my belongings to finance new scarves ;)
 
#95
Kitty S. said:
After binging on H for a few months, I got put on the ban island by DH. :shucks:He is my conscience since I have no self control. Reading the posts here, I feel like I am the only one (or at least one of the few) who has failed to train her DH well ...
So for the future (if I ever get off the ban island), I would say the strategy to avoid the ban island is to have a clear monthly or quarterly budget and stick with it ;)
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You are definitely not alone! DH and I each have a budget for "free spending," and once it's gone, it's gone. I do sometimes wish he'd just say, "oh, that's pretty, go buy it!" without regard for budget. In his defense, though, he does appreciate H's quality, classic-ness and sense of whimsy, and he can be a really excellent shopping partner when it comes to knowing what pattens and CWs suit me. And someday, when we are both a bit older, I know I'll appreciate his wise retirement planning. It is reassuring to know that in my dotage, I'll have a real roof over my head and not have to live in a tent made out of H shawls! :p
 
#96
Melora24 said:
You're not alone... I can have one H (reasonable) item for birthday or Christmas. Other than that, I need to sell my belongings to finance new scarves ;)
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It's a great idea, and can help keeping me off the ban island too! I never thought about selling my belongs till being exposed the quality of H. I just know I won't go back to some of the stuff that I have and might as well selling them to fund my H habit :p Kudos to you for doing it! I still need to get my act together to clean out my closet.

catsinthebag said:
You are definitely not alone! DH and I each have a budget for "free spending," and once it's gone, it's gone. I do sometimes wish he'd just say, "oh, that's pretty, go buy it!" without regard for budget. In his defense, though, he does appreciate H's quality, classic-ness and sense of whimsy, and he can be a really excellent shopping partner when it comes to knowing what pattens and CWs suit me. And someday, when we are both a bit older, I know I'll appreciate his wise retirement planning. It is reassuring to know that in my dotage, I'll have a real roof over my head and not have to live in a tent made out of H shawls! :p
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LOL when I read your last line on a tent made out of H shawls! :lolots:
DH is frugal to himself, so I always feel bad with my luxury spending. He wouldn't prohibit me per se as long as it's within a reasonable limit, but like yours, he is not the type who would encourage me by saying "oh, that's pretty, go buy it!". Like yours, mine also has a good eye for beauty as well (they married us, didn't they?! :p), so at some level he understands my obsession. He could have been a fun shopping partner if he didn't like money in the bank more :D. It's good to have peace of mind knowing that there is money in the bank for kids' tuition and retirement. Can't complain about that.
 
#97
Fabfashion said:
I lasted less than 24 hours of not checking tPF...more like 17 hours including 7 hours of sleep. :p
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Me too!:p
But I know some are on it a lot more than me, because I can't seem to keep up with some of the threads that just move in lightening speed...
Luckily checking the tPF hasn't pull me away from the ban island yet. I am happy to share in the joy of other tPFers' purchases. It's running to the store that gets me in trouble because I have an outstanding SA who gets me stuff on my wish list all the time, and offers me other desirable items when I am in the store. Now I have to keep my wish list to myself, so I can shop at my own pace without the temptations from my SA.
 
#98
honeypeach said:
yes. at the moment i found all those budgeting, and "tell yourself no" strategies are not as useful as my DS.
thank god i got a very REASONABLE AND SENSIBLE son...he's just 12 but sometimes i think he acts like an old man.
he told me to quit smoking by listing all the health concerns when he was 9 (and i quit my 15 years habit straight away no turning back).
or when i start browsing the goodies and whinging about how pretty they are, then give him the doggy eyes hope he will give me a "yes", he will take a look and say either "it looks good on you" or "don't waste money"....(and i obey, split second decision!)
oh, if i am lucky to get a daughter like you, that would be wonderful, since i will have a NEW excuse to shop:
everything i shopped now will be for DD later....[ever think like this when you shopped?]
and obviously DD will not say "NO" to the stuff i wanted, as girls can never say NO to anything H....the blings or B or K...
although again, boat to ban island awaits. = =
as you said, DH are trained by us so well, how about trying to get a son? in 12 years time he will learn to tell you NO and stop your urge of buying the whole shop.
although his older sisters may be dominating the shopping power in the house by then.
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Your DS is amazing! I think we all need to borrow him once in awhile. He could make a brilliant career out of it! :D
 
#99
Kitty S. said:
It's a great idea, and can help keeping me off the ban island too! I never thought about selling my belongs till being exposed the quality of H. I just know I won't go back to some of the stuff that I have and might as well selling them to fund my H habit :p Kudos to you for doing it! I still need to get my act together to clean out my closet.


LOL when I read your last line on a tent made out of H shawls! :lolots:
DH is frugal to himself, so I always feel bad with my luxury spending. He wouldn't prohibit me per se as long as it's within a reasonable limit, but like yours, he is not the type who would encourage me by saying "oh, that's pretty, go buy it!". Like yours, mine also has a good eye for beauty as well (they married us, didn't they?! :p), so at some level he understands my obsession. He could have been a fun shopping partner if he didn't like money in the bank more :D. It's good to have peace of mind knowing that there is money in the bank for kids' tuition and retirement. Can't complain about that.
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Good point! :D
 
#100
papertiger said:
1. Don't carried by popular opinion. It may look great on others and is selling for 6 x retail on ebay but LEAVE IT. That includes EVERYTHING

2. Don't buy any second choices. Phw but not ghw, Rouge H but not RC :nogood: You will still want what you wanted in the first place.

3. Forgive yourself the odd nonsense purchase (for me Paddock Flots because I only have one H bag it works with). Guilt and returns only lead to more spending. Find a way to make it work . Selling is actually too easy. This rule teaches how much effort is required to make things work and to not repeat.

4. Don't buy something you can't afford. Ever.

5. Trying on doesn't cost anything but once you've tried on you may well be calling a boat for Ban Island. Stick to your wishlist. Everything looks and feels good in H but you can't have everything.

6. Don't pop in 'on the way' to anywhere. No wishlist, no H visit. No time to consider. No H visit.

7. Don't go to H when you are feeling down if retail therapy is your thing. Getting carried away in H is going to do a lot more damage than going, erm, well anywhere.

8. Off-wishlist. If you want an H souvenir/birthday treat/gift for self etc, a keep sake to mark something stick to the one thing. It will make it even more precious.

9. Can't choose between a cw? Ask you SA to hold them both for an hour. Have lunch or a sit in the park to consider and come back. H doesn't do 2 for 1 offers so why buy both when you only wanted one. (I seem have doubles of everything but then I'm obsessively symmetrical - my excuse).

10. Love and use what you've got already. It's surprising how many things we love too much to use or even forget what we have.
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Wise words mate! Wise words. What is RC?
 
#102
catsinthebag said:
You are definitely not alone! DH and I each have a budget for "free spending," and once it's gone, it's gone. I do sometimes wish he'd just say, "oh, that's pretty, go buy it!" without regard for budget. In his defense, though, he does appreciate H's quality, classic-ness and sense of whimsy, and he can be a really excellent shopping partner when it comes to knowing what pattens and CWs suit me. And someday, when we are both a bit older, I know I'll appreciate his wise retirement planning. It is reassuring to know that in my dotage, I'll have a real roof over my head and not have to live in a tent made out of H shawls! :p
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Yours will be the most fashionable tent on the streets, my dear. :roflmfao:
I can picture me now...pushing a grocery cart will all my H bags in a garbage bag (to protect from the rain). :p
 
#103
Fabfashion said:
I lasted less than 24 hours of not checking tPF...more like 17 hours including 7 hours of sleep. :p
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Fabfashion you are too funny. I actually lasted about 3 weeks! I was doing so well until I got a call from my SA earlier this week... as a result I escaped the ban island for a while today. I am back on the island UNTIL NEXT YEAR! :p
 
#104
snarfy said:
Fabfashion you are too funny. I actually lasted about 3 weeks! I was doing so well until I got a call from my SA earlier this week... as a result I escaped the ban island for a while today. I am back on the island UNTIL NEXT YEAR! :p
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Me too! I have been avoiding TPF, IG and anything H... Until I got a call yesterday from my SA... In the mean time I didn't go to H for over a month!
 
#105
joanneminnie said:
Me too! I have been avoiding TPF, IG and anything H... Until I got a call yesterday from my SA... In the mean time I didn't go to H for over a month!
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Hehe.....I didn't set foot in H for exactly one month. I really need to stop going there!

Saw the Rose Jaipur B35 you posted. The beauty is totally worth escaping the ban island for!
 
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