I have been with an amazing amazing AMAZING (and gorgeous) boyfriend of over a year now. I'm Chinese, and he is from Romania, going to school here and having a job here after graduation (Google took him!) Everytime I have tried telling my parents about him, they get upset that he's not Chinese. So I started to just lie about the relationship, and said we were just friends. All my other cousins and friends know that we are together and totally support me and love my bf, and they have all kept it secret cuz they know "how my parents are." The relationship is getting more serious, to the point of talking BIG DREAMS in the future. I'm actually moving up north to be with him, as I got the most amazing job offer up there. I hate lying to my parents, but at some degree, they are lying to themselves about the truth, always threatening to disown me or have a heart attack if I tell them I am with him. So how can I tell them the truth when these threats are there? They even started to suggest matching me up with Chinese sons of their friends, just because these guys are Chinese. My mom keeps saying that I have to find someone who loves me for who I am, can take care of me, and make me happy, and ultimately Chinese. Argh! How do I break it to them? What is the best thing to do in such a situation when your parents don't like someone because of race? I know moving away from home is running away from the problem, and I hate how sometimes I feel like I left my family for a guy.. but really.... he is the one. For me, not my parents.