So I did it, I ordered a Grande Penelope Messenger in Dark Violet waterproof suede, with light gold hardware, lilac fabric lining, bottom round (vs square) studs, a zip pocket on the back panel, and wider messenger strap. My first MM bag, a Little Minerva in marine blue Merinos, which arrived earlier this month, also has light gold hw, lilac lining, zip pocket on the back, and wider strap, which I love : ) . Marco suggested a matching leather vs suede for the bottom of the bag and strap underside, for better wear -- such a great suggestion.
I was so disappointed to get the email about the discontinuation of some of the styles, like Little Athena, before I had the chance to receive my first bag -- I knew I was going to love it, but I really wanted to see it, feel it, use it at least once before committing to another bag, given that we're trying to save money where we can and also wanting to make sure it works as well as possible for me. It was adding to insult to injury with how long the UPS process was taking in rural Canada. I mentioned this to Marco in passing, once my new bag had arrived, and he very kindly and generously offered to make a Little Athena for me despite the passing of the deadline, so I'm thrilled. Little Athena will be black Pompei, light blue fabric lining, light gold hardware with round bottom studs, zippered back pocket, and the wider adjustable messenger strap, possibly with slider, I think. I'm still deciding on the strap. So any advice would be appreciated. I tend to wear crossbody a lot, and also longer shoulder, vs v short shoulder, since it's heavy jacket/coat weather in this part of Canada for much of the year.
Also, thank you to djfmn for writing about American vs European leather preferences -- very interesting and informative. I asked Marco to please note my preference for European style for these two bags, and future ones. Thank you to everyone here, I've learned so much and am so happy with my first bag and looking forward to the next two : ) .