Maintaining an H relationship

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[BreezyE]

I'm starting to run out of things to buy at H. I like the RTW but I don't need too many clothes. I have purchased a large amount of FJ and don't need anything else at this time. I have been shopping for a while, but am worried that if I don't continue shopping, my SA wont give me my SO when it comes in. Is that a thing? Do I need to keep up my spending?

 

[880]

I'm starting to run out of things to buy at H. I like the RTW but I don't need too many clothes. I have purchased a large amount of FJ and don't need anything else at this time. I have been shopping for a while, but am worried that if I don't continue shopping, my SA wont give me my SO when it comes in. Is that a thing? Do I need to keep up my spending?

Your SO is your SO. Your SA doesn’t want you to buy stuff just for the sake of buying. If nothing this season appeals, there is always next season. I would not worry about it. I only buy what I absolutely adore. It’s too expensive otherwise.

ETA: I like seeing new things and I keep an open mind to my SAs suggestions, but neither she nor I take it personally if I don’t love what she has to show me. Sometimes a collection is not their favorite either lol.

 

[BreezyE]

Your SO is your SO. Your SA doesn’t want you to buy stuff just for the sake of buying. If nothing this season appeals, there is always next season. I would not worry about it. I only buy what I absolutely adore. It’s too expensive otherwise.

ETA: I like seeing new things and I keep an open mind to my SAs suggestions, but neither she nor I take it personally if I don’t love what she has to show me.

Thank you that makes me feel better!

 

[Love Of My Life]

I'm starting to run out of things to buy at H. I like the RTW but I don't need too many clothes. I have purchased a large amount of FJ and don't need anything else at this time. I have been shopping for a while, but am worried that if I don't continue shopping, my SA wont give me my SO when it comes in. Is that a thing? Do I need to keep up my spending?

Agree here with @880.. Many of us skip a season if the RTW is not to our liking due to fit, styles
or colors. RTW is expensive. too costly to make a mistake just to please an SA
Remember, you have a history with your SA for the time that you were shopping. That counts
You by no means will be the first or the last to skip a season or two. SA's may not like it, but
it is what it is. Don't lose focus that you still are & likely will remain an H client in some way shape or form
Your SO is yours.. you placed it with your SA & that on its own speaks for itself.

 

[Etriers]

In my on-going “find a new SA saga.” It appears I have been rejected by the recommended new SA! I received the new SAs number and texted him at the end of June to make an appointment and followed up in early July. Crickets. This is of course his prerogative, and granted I haven’t exactly worked hard at this. I could take my lazy b-(irken) over to the store, and would have no problem finding someone to help with my purchase, but I assumed that since I am not a store newbie, and come recommended, I wouldn’t be starting from square one. This would not the end of the world. I’m not a VIP spender, but I do spend respectable amounts consistently and am a polite and easy client.

The problem is that I think the recommended SA is also a sales supervisor. It’s a pretty good-sized store so I think there are at least two supervisors and an SM. I probably should have payed more attention to the hierarchy there, but it was never an issue. So—Considering what has transpired, is it going to be a problem if I wander in and link up with a different SA? There are a lot of people I like there so that’s fine, but how much influence will he (the rejecting SS SA) have over someone else and my future bag offers?

 

[addiCCted]

In my on-going “find a new SA saga.” It appears I have been rejected by the recommended new SA! I received the new SAs number and texted him at the end of June to make an appointment and followed up in early July. Crickets. This is of course his prerogative, and granted I haven’t exactly worked hard at this. I could take my lazy b-(irken) over to the store, and would have no problem finding someone to help with my purchase, but I assumed that since I am not a store newbie, and come recommended, I wouldn’t be starting from square one. This would not the end of the world. I’m not a VIP spender, but I do spend respectable amounts consistently and am a polite and easy client.

The problem is that I think the recommended SA is also a sales supervisor. It’s a pretty good-sized store so I think there are at least two supervisors and an SM. I probably should have payed more attention to the hierarchy there, but it was never an issue. So—Considering what has transpired, is it going to be a problem if I wander in and link up with a different SA? There are a lot of people I like there so that’s fine, but how much influence will he (the rejecting SS SA) have over someone else and my future bag offers?

Maybe go in the store and ask for him and see how it goes?

 

[Etriers]

Maybe go in the store and ask for him and see how it goes?

Lol! Oh you’re one of those level-headed people. Thanks for your thought. Agree, that would certainly be reasonable. I’m just feeling like this might not be the best start out of the gate. I feel like I might only get one crack at this. If I go in and he is there and ends up assisting me, then I’m kinda stuck with him. When I was a newbie, I had no issues with working through the process. While my old SA wasn’t what I would call effusive in the beginning, he was a go-getter and was at least responsive. At this point in my “H journey” I’m not going to be willing to tolerate getting stonewalled. I don’t expect my SA to be my best friend, but I do expect professionalism. And it would be nice if we could at least have a warm relationship. I think I know the new guy and he was never particularly friendly. But you know, that’s life. Some people hit it off and some people just don’t, but if we have personality issues and can’t get our interactions off the ground, I don’t think I can stop working with him after a couple of visits and find someone new in the same store, especially considering his position/senority. I’m not expecting diva treatment, but this also isn’t my first rodeo. (Lol! Or Rodeo either.)

 

[addiCCted]

Lol! Oh you’re one of those level-headed people. Thanks for your thought. Agree, that would certainly be reasonable. I’m just feeling like this might not be the best start out of the gate. I feel like I might only get one crack at this. If I go in and he is there and ends up assisting me, then I’m kinda stuck with him. When I was a newbie, I had no issues with working through the process. While my old SA wasn’t what I would call effusive in the beginning, he was a go-getter and was at least responsive. At this point in my “H journey” I’m not going to be willing to tolerate getting stonewalled. I don’t expect my SA to be my best friend, but I do expect professionalism. And it would be nice if we could at least have a warm relationship. I think I know the new guy and he was never particularly friendly. But you know, that’s life. Some people hit it off and some people just don’t, but if we have personality issues and can’t get our interactions off the ground, I don’t think I can stop working with him after a couple of visits and find someone new in the same store, especially considering his position/senority. I’m not expecting diva treatment, but this also isn’t my first rodeo. (Lol! Or Rodeo either.)

How did he come recommended? By your old sa? What made your previous sa recommend this person?

If you already mentioned who referred you and there was no respect for that mutual connection then you’re probably right in your assessment.

Maybe he just doesn’t do texting?

Anyways. Doesn’t hurt to just pick some other SA and just see how you like them.

 

[Bdbunny]

Lol! Oh you’re one of those level-headed people. Thanks for your thought. Agree, that would certainly be reasonable. I’m just feeling like this might not be the best start out of the gate. I feel like I might only get one crack at this. If I go in and he is there and ends up assisting me, then I’m kinda stuck with him. When I was a newbie, I had no issues with working through the process. While my old SA wasn’t what I would call effusive in the beginning, he was a go-getter and was at least responsive. At this point in my “H journey” I’m not going to be willing to tolerate getting stonewalled. I don’t expect my SA to be my best friend, but I do expect professionalism. And it would be nice if we could at least have a warm relationship. I think I know the new guy and he was never particularly friendly. But you know, that’s life. Some people hit it off and some people just don’t, but if we have personality issues and can’t get our interactions off the ground, I don’t think I can stop working with him after a couple of visits and find someone new in the same store, especially considering his position/senority. I’m not expecting diva treatment, but this also isn’t my first rodeo. (Lol! Or Rodeo either.)

Ugh sorry. I’ve had SAs leave and it’s not always easy transitioning to the new person and getting to know them and their style etc, so I feel your pain. It sounds like you know and like other SAs at your boutique… I think you could just go with your plan of wandering in one day and if you recognize one of them just say hello. I’m sure they will remember you as well and this could be an opportunity to start shopping with them. I don’t think you have to worry about the other SA influencing your bag offers. It’s not up to him anyways. I guess the tricky part will be trying to avoid the other guy.

 

[addiCCted]

I guess the tricky part will be trying to avoid the other guy.

But the other guy doesn’t even care to respond to texts so probably won’t be an issue.

 

[Etriers]

How did he come recommended? By your old sa? What made your previous sa recommend this person?

If you already mentioned who referred you and there was no respect for that mutual connection then you’re probably right in your assessment.

Maybe he just doesn’t do texting?

Anyways. Doesn’t hurt to just pick some other SA and just see how you like them.

Thanks! I’m sure you’re right.

He was recommended by my old SA. I think they were friends.

I agree, it’s possible that he doesn’t text, which would definitely not work for me going forward. I have a very small brain with very few brain cells these days, so I need things not to be unnecessarily complicated.

I went back and looked at some of my old advice from a hundred years ago in this thread. I think what I would tell me is don’t sweat it. Go to the store and shop with the first SA who seems friendly but don’t feel obligated at this point to choose anyone. I have a history, so at this point the relationship works both ways. Looking at me objectively as a client, I am not a high flyer, but I’m also not high maintenance. Certainly no SA needs my business, but I’m a steady client that can be counted on for meeting sales goals because I buy across departments. I’ll just enjoy this period of footloose-ness and continue to build my profile and take my time finding someone I really enjoy working with. The right SA will probably bob to the surface sooner or later.

 

[Etriers]

Ugh sorry. I’ve had SAs leave and it’s not always easy transitioning to the new person and getting to know them and their style etc, so I feel your pain. It sounds like you know and like other SAs at your boutique… I think you could just go with your plan of wandering in one day and if you recognize one of them just say hello. I’m sure they will remember you as well and this could be an opportunity to start shopping with them. I don’t think you have to worry about the other SA influencing your bag offers. It’s not up to him anyways. I guess the tricky part will be trying to avoid the other guy.

Thank you! I appreciate the support. All very good advice.

 

[880]

I’ll just enjoy this period of footloose-ness and continue to build my profile and take my time finding someone I really enjoy working with. The right SA will probably bob to the surface sooner or later.

Agree 💯 . No obligation to work with one person even if you were a direct referral. Even in the same store, an SA knows you can sho0 with whomever you like. And, it can take more than one or six visits to figure out whom you want to shop with. Having said that, SAs also get so many texts, that I don’t take it personally if they don’t respond.* They could simply have meant to and then gotten overwhelmed with something IRL at the store. Or be on vacation. Or other. Of course, to be top of mind for any desirable item including bags, it is more helpful (and efficient) to have a strong relationship** with one SA who can be your advocate, but things have a way of unfolding naturally if you let them.

*im used to this given that my own mom can go days without responding to my urgent texts too (on,y half joking lol)

ETA: ** by strong relationship, I don’t mean chatty, best friend types or even someone who makes bag offers (though these would naturally follow). I mean someone who understands your taste; who suggests items that you might not have picked or known about that you love; and, who is responsive to your needs without being pushy.

 

[Logic]

When my SA left, she handed me over to another SA who was a trainee, I didn’t mind because when I met her, she was also a trainee but was able to help me with my purchases. She also said that I can come in the store and shop around to see if there’s any other SA I might like. Lucky I stuck with the referral SA and got a QB.

 

[Love Of My Life]

In my on-going “find a new SA saga.” It appears I have been rejected by the recommended new SA! I received the new SAs number and texted him at the end of June to make an appointment and followed up in early July. Crickets. This is of course his prerogative, and granted I haven’t exactly worked hard at this. I could take my lazy b-(irken) over to the store, and would have no problem finding someone to help with my purchase, but I assumed that since I am not a store newbie, and come recommended, I wouldn’t be starting from square one. This would not the end of the world. I’m not a VIP spender, but I do spend respectable amounts consistently and am a polite and easy client.

The problem is that I think the recommended SA is also a sales supervisor. It’s a pretty good-sized store so I think there are at least two supervisors and an SM. I probably should have payed more attention to the hierarchy there, but it was never an issue. So—Considering what has transpired, is it going to be a problem if I wander in and link up with a different SA? There are a lot of people I like there so that’s fine, but how much influence will he (the rejecting SS SA) have over someone else and my future bag offers?

Thanks! I’m sure you’re right.

He was recommended by my old SA. I think they were friends.

I agree, it’s possible that he doesn’t text, which would definitely not work for me going forward. I have a very small brain with very few brain cells these days, so I need things not to be unnecessarily complicated.

I went back and looked at some of my old advice from a hundred years ago in this thread. I think what I would tell me is don’t sweat it. Go to the store and shop with the first SA who seems friendly but don’t feel obligated at this point to choose anyone. I have a history, so at this point the relationship works both ways. Looking at me objectively as a client, I am not a high flyer, but I’m also not high maintenance. Certainly no SA needs my business, but I’m a steady client that can be counted on for meeting sales goals because I buy across departments. I’ll just enjoy this period of footloose-ness and continue to build my profile and take my time finding someone I really enjoy working with. The right SA will probably bob to the surface sooner or later.

Shopping should be a pleasure not a chore.
I'd go into the store & just see who you connect with. One doesn't always have to be a high flyer nor
high maintenance to connect with an SA, but like yourself you'd want a SA that is courteous & respectful.
At times, I think there is so much unecssary pressure on the client.
This could be a good time to meander in & just see what happens. Good luck!