Maintaining an H relationship

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More of a vent than a question... Or maybe a question but rhetorical. In a sense that nothing to be done now. Or can it? Here it goes: I took a friend who really liked my H silver jewelry to shop with my SA. She bought a few pieces. She also has no interest in QBs so I thought I did a nice thing for all involved- my SA got a sale with no pressure of a bag expectation, I had fun with my friend and scored brownie points and friend got what she wanted and lots of guidance. My SA has great taste.
Womp womp womp. The friend now wants to return half and I feel embarrassed and a bit of a responsibility.
Ughhh I’m sorry 😣
You’re definitely not responsible for your friends change of heart. I can understand your feelings of embarrassment. Perhaps if she does return those items you can be honest with your SA and offer a sincere apology on your friends behalf? Anyway you can convince her not to return?
 
Ughhh I’m sorry 😣
You’re definitely not responsible for your friends change of heart. I can understand your feelings of embarrassment. Perhaps if she does return those items you can be honest with your SA and offer a sincere apology on your friends behalf? Anyway you can convince her not to return?
I have been trying! I did not sense any doubt about those pieces at the store and they do look amazing on her.
 
More of a vent than a question... Or maybe a question but rhetorical. In a sense that nothing to be done now. Or can it? Here it goes: I took a friend who really liked my H silver jewelry to shop with my SA. She bought a few pieces. She also has no interest in QBs so I thought I did a nice thing for all involved- my SA got a sale with no pressure of a bag expectation, I had fun with my friend and scored brownie points and friend got what she wanted and lots of guidance. My SA has great taste.
Womp womp womp. The friend now wants to return half and I feel embarrassed and a bit of a responsibility.
I’m so sorry, but this is not your doing, and your SA does know that ( I would feel badly too, but the actions of other adults is not your responsibility :facepalm:
 
More of a vent than a question... Or maybe a question but rhetorical. In a sense that nothing to be done now. Or can it? Here it goes: I took a friend who really liked my H silver jewelry to shop with my SA. She bought a few pieces. She also has no interest in QBs so I thought I did a nice thing for all involved- my SA got a sale with no pressure of a bag expectation, I had fun with my friend and scored brownie points and friend got what she wanted and lots of guidance. My SA has great taste.
Womp womp womp. The friend now wants to return half and I feel embarrassed and a bit of a responsibility.
This just reinforces my decision to not share SAs with friends unless I know for sure they will be really good clients. That is annoying but at the end of the day just let her do as she wishes. It’s not really on you and I wouldn’t persuade her to keep things she doesn’t want. It will taint your friendship. Just my opinion.
 
More of a vent than a question... Or maybe a question but rhetorical. In a sense that nothing to be done now. Or can it? Here it goes: I took a friend who really liked my H silver jewelry to shop with my SA. She bought a few pieces. She also has no interest in QBs so I thought I did a nice thing for all involved- my SA got a sale with no pressure of a bag expectation, I had fun with my friend and scored brownie points and friend got what she wanted and lots of guidance. My SA has great taste.
Womp womp womp. The friend now wants to return half and I feel embarrassed and a bit of a responsibility.
I would share your sense of embarrassment.
Unless you feel that somehow you influenced your friend to buy what she could not afford
Keep out of it now and don't get involved.
It is she who should be feeling awkward.
 
Thank you all, I will sleep better tonight. She can definitely afford it all. She is just a person who changes her mind a lot and I should’ve remembered that. It took her eight years to fill her house with furniture because she couldn’t decide. I thought this time it would be different because she’s awkward with fashion and really wanted me and the SA to help her out. As they say, past behavior is the best predictor of the future behavior.
 
More of a vent than a question... Or maybe a question but rhetorical. In a sense that nothing to be done now. Or can it? Here it goes: I took a friend who really liked my H silver jewelry to shop with my SA. She bought a few pieces. She also has no interest in QBs so I thought I did a nice thing for all involved- my SA got a sale with no pressure of a bag expectation, I had fun with my friend and scored brownie points and friend got what she wanted and lots of guidance. My SA has great taste.
Womp womp womp. The friend now wants to return half and I feel embarrassed and a bit of a responsibility.
Does your friend understand that returns are frowned upon for H? I guess my take is that if she never had any interest in QBs or the H game it's not uncommon to return thing and as long as its new/untouched it's pretty acceptable elsewhere. I wouldn't pressure her to keep things that she doesn't want, and I agree with the other posts that your SA wouldn't hold it against you. Net net I think it's still a benefit to your profile especially since H refund is typically store credit only.
 
Thank you all, I will sleep better tonight. She can definitely afford it all. She is just a person who changes her mind a lot and I should’ve remembered that. It took her eight years to fill her house with furniture because she couldn’t decide. I thought this time it would be different because she’s awkward with fashion and really wanted me and the SA to help her out. As they say, past behavior is the best predictor of the future behavior.
It would stress me out to shop with someone like this. I only shop with a small number of friends who have habits similar to mine. I do not shop with friends who have different approaches. I only make referrals if I believe it will be a value added proposition for my SA, and if my SA has indicated she is open to new clients. This might sound harsh so my apologies in advance. :smile:
 
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She is just a person who changes her mind a lot
Friends are our infinite treasure, but we must remember to remind ourselves who they are frequently. If we want a healthy and long-lasting relationship with them.

I think you've already written the key sentence. Under normal circumstances, your friend changing their mind shouldn't concern anyone, but in an environment as delicate as the H, asking you to be an intermediary should only be in the hands of very determined individuals.

If I had remained as the intermediary in such a situation, I would have told my friend that they could handle exchanging the item they wanted at any branch at any time without me.
 
Does it matter if she returns? It’s for store credit anyway so the SA shouldn’t feel the bite ???
IMO only, yes. I’m not talking about QB acquisition either. Returned merchandise even brand new runs the risk of being unsaleable going forward. It’s a waste of everyone’s time (that of @OnlyModa and the SA). The SAs have very large goal posts (if not commissions), and time is literally money. I forgot which premier brand it was, but I learned years ago a bizarre factoid rhat an SA is expected to earn at least 6K USD for every hour of work at a minimum… (that figure is definitely outdated now)

More importantly, one of my SAs told me that clients who return are a category that can cause an SA demerits on their performance reviews. The implication is not that the client is indecisive; rather, the onus is on the SA to prove she did not pressure or over sell to get the client to buy something that wasn’t right to begin with.

This is also the new clients introductory visit. And, if she cannot be counted upon to make up her mind, it becomes exhausting for the SA to try to help her achieve a certain look or an end result. If the client habitually returns merchandise, an SA will be less likely to request transfers or choose that client as a recipient of a popular item.

Finally, every SA I have ever worked with has said that it is important if a client returns to do so to the SA who sold the item. If the item is a coveted one, the SA and SM do not want it to appear back in some other store inventory. And, an SA wants the chance to make a client happy and to better learn what a client prefers. This may happen if she can ascertain why a return is made.

Of course, JMO, and YMMV. Apologies for the novel lol. Returns just happen to be a pet peeve of mine which is why I would rather visit an item in the boutique a few times; not shop with friends who merely rubber stamp everything I try on; and, listen to my DH and SA (both of whom have excellent taste) when coming to a decision as to whether to purchase :smile: My best purchases are often the result of enthusiastic consensus among SA, DH, and me.

ETA: all of the above applies to my H SAs as well as Dior, Chanel, Brunello, Loro P, and as basic as my neighborhood pharmacist.
 
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IMO only, yes. I’m not talking about QB acquisition either. Returned merchandise even brand new runs the risk of being unsaleable going forward. It’s a waste of everyone’s time (that of @OnlyModa and the SA). The SAs have very large goal posts (if not commissions), and time is literally money. I forgot which premier brand it was, but I learned years ago a bizarre factoid rhat an SA is expected to earn at least 6K USD for every hour of work at a minimum… (that figure is definitely outdated now)

More importantly, one of my SAs told me that clients who return are a category that can cause an SA demerits on their performance reviews. The implication is not that the client is indecisive; rather, the onus is on the SA to prove she did not pressure or over sell to get the client to buy something that wasn’t right to begin with.

This is also the new clients introductory visit. And, if she cannot be counted upon to make up her mind, it becomes exhausting for the SA to try to help her achieve a certain look or an end result. If the client habitually returns merchandise, an SA will be less likely to request transfers or choose that client as a recipient of a popular item.

Finally, every SA I have ever worked with has said that it is important if a client returns to do so to the SA who sold the item. If the item is a coveted one, the SA and SM do not want it to appear back in some other store inventory. And, an SA wants the chance to make a client happy and to better learn what a client prefers. This may happen if she can ascertain why a return is made.

Of course, JMO, and YMMV. Apologies for the novel lol. Returns just happen to be a pet peeve of mine which is why I would rather visit an item in the boutique a few times; not shop with friends who merely rubber stamp everything I try on; and, listen to my DH and SA (both of whom have excellent taste) when coming to a decision as to whether to purchase :smile: My best purchases are often the result of enthusiastic consensus among SA, DH, and me.

ETA: all of the above applies to my H SAs as well as Dior, Chanel, Brunello, Loro P, and as basic as my neighborhood pharmacist.
So much good info here! Nice Friday night read, I mean it
 
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