Maintaining an H relationship

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Please focus on the title of this thread rather than each other, TY

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WhiteBus said:
I think that you should be mindful that you could be talking of spending on luxury items what could be multiples of an SAs annual salary.
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I was young and insensitive when I started my H journey some time back. I kept carrying Chanel bags and SM wanted to see me with a H bag and I was given a chance to request for a B.

I didn't know which colour to request for my first B and silly me asked my SA which Birkin she likes most from her bag collection. She replied softly and well in gist I realised that most SAs including her do not even have a Birkin. I apologised for that and it was all good. I was more sensitive from then on.
 
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WhiteBus said:
I think that you should be mindful that you could be talking of spending on luxury items what could be multiples of an SAs annual salary.
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bichdreams said:
Although the SAs know you can spend more than what their monthly pay is, it's always good to be considered about what they might not be able to spend. And I see many ways to make your wishes clear without giving your SA a spend indication.
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Interesting...
What's their average monthly/annual salary?
 
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880 said:
Mine is not independently wealthy but he saved for a gorgeous AP royal oak
I don’t think that commissions are as high as in the mid aughts, but they probably considerably add to an SAs income
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That is a good saving! Yes , the commissions do add up. But it don't seem to be very high in the NL. Also I don't think the location is very competitive compared to those in the US.
 
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I can't believe people are so open about their finances with their SAs. I mean, I can. People don't keep their mouths shut about anything. But I also can't believe that people feel like including their SAs in their budget chat. For so many reasons. Until H starts adding financial advisors to store teams, I'll be keeping my personal stuff personal, thank you very much.

As I said in the other thread, I will tell my SA "that's more than I want to spend" and leave it at that. It effectively ends the conversation without insulting anyone and doesn't shut the door on anything permanently.
 
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Anyways, I spoke to one of the store managers today (not the sales manager) and she reassured me that my pre spend isn’t going to waste because my purchases are tied to the store and not the SA. She ended up pairing me with someone else who was also very pleasant and nice to work with. My new SA asked me what my wishlist was and then she brought out a Della cavalleria bag for me because I had mentioned I wanted something in a neutral color. She really reassured me that she was going to work on getting me a QB eventually, but she said it does take time. :heart: I’m just glad that I don’t have to reset and start at zero!

She also told me to text her any time to make appointments or find items but she said to please not be offended or worried if she doesn’t reply because they are always so so busy. So yes, your SA isn’t ghosting you intentionally.
 
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luxe_lover23 said:
I just found out my SA of 7 months just left last week. I know that’s not necessarily a long time but I really enjoyed working with him, I purchased things from him very consistently at least 1-2x a month. He offered me an ostrich C18 last week and I think that was probably him trying to get me something before he left?

Anyways, I spoke to one of the store managers today (not the sales manager) and she reassured me that my pre spend isn’t going to waste because my purchases are tied to the store and not the SA. She ended up pairing me with someone else who was also very pleasant and nice to work with. My new SA asked me what my wishlist was and then she brought out a Della cavalleria bag for me because I had mentioned I wanted something in a neutral color. She really reassured me that she was going to work on getting me a QB eventually, but she said it does take time. :heart: I’m just glad that I don’t have to reset and start at zero!

She also told me to text her any time to make appointments or find items but she said to please not be offended or worried if she doesn’t reply because they are always so so busy. So yes, your SA isn’t ghosting you intentionally.
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May I ask what store you shop in? My lovely SA of 7.5 years was recently promoted to assistant manager! So proud of him and he totally deserves it, but will also miss our relationship. He has a wonderful colleague who will be adopting me. How does this work going forward? I'm sad for myself but also happy for him...bittersweet emotions. He's such a wonderful person and will miss working with him.
 
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DDCHA said:
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May I ask what store you shop in? My lovely SA of 7.5 years was recently promoted to assistant manager! So proud of him and he totally deserves it, but will also miss our relationship. He has a wonderful colleague who will be adopting me. How does this work going forward? I'm sad for myself but also happy for him...bittersweet emotions. He's such a wonderful person and will miss working with him.
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If the real QB allocation decisions rest with the managers, that should put you in good stead because you will be known as a loyal customer of long-standing. That holds more weight than pre-spend ratios.
 
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DDCHA said:
Hello all

May I ask what store you shop in? My lovely SA of 7.5 years was recently promoted to assistant manager! So proud of him and he totally deserves it, but will also miss our relationship. He has a wonderful colleague who will be adopting me. How does this work going forward? I'm sad for myself but also happy for him...bittersweet emotions. He's such a wonderful person and will miss working with him.
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7.5 years is a very long time to know anyone, so I really don’t think you have anything to worry about! I’m sure you’ll be taken care of / in good hands.

I’m at SCP. I think I will have to “restart” somewhat because I have to get to know my new SA. But both the SA and manager I spoke to reassured me that they value me as a customer of the boutique. And I thought it was a nice gesture that my new SA offered me a non QB bag the same day
 
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