Maintaining an H relationship

[papertiger]

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[Siha77]

What’s done is done. Letting your SA know was absolutely the morally correct thing to do, regardless of any possible impact on you getting a silly leather purse. It’s literally a matter of life and death, if not just for your SA, potentially for your SA’s loved ones. If you think you feel badly now, think of how badly you would feel if their mother mysteriously got covid and passed away because you didn’t warn her. Your informing the SA will allow them to take whatever necessary precautions to keep themselves safe and they can likely still work remotely to take clients’ orders and make transfers even if it’s from home. Hope you and your husband, and everyone in your orbit, recovers swiftly!

You consistently have the best, most helpful replies on this forum and this one was no exception. Thank you for this. I absolutely needed that perspective. Thank you so much for the well wishes, too. Luckily we don’t have anyone in our orbit, other than her. Let’s all hope and pray she’ll be ok.

 

[closetluxe]

You absolutely did the right thing by informing your SA. I wouldn't worry about her losing income because she can certainly work from home. I speak from experience as I was supposed to pick up my quota bag and my SA had to cancel the day before suddenly. It turns out that there was an exposure at work so everyone had to quarantine and work from home for 2 weeks. Don't worry about it. I'm sure the SA appreciates you telling her. I hope you and your husband recover quickly.

 

[Siha77]

You absolutely did the right thing by informing your SA. I wouldn't worry about her losing income because she can certainly work from home. I speak from experience as I was supposed to pick up my quota bag and my SA had to cancel the day before suddenly. It turns out that there was an exposure at work so everyone had to quarantine and work from home for 2 weeks. Don't worry about it. I'm sure the SA appreciates you telling her. I hope you and your husband recover quickly.

Thank you for sharing your experience. Do you know if the exposure was from a client or from an SA? I guess if I were a client or even an SA there, I would most certainly appreciate the precaution taken. I just hate being the cause of it. Thank you for the well wishes as well! I hope so too.

 

[closetluxe]

Thank you for sharing your experience. Do you know if the exposure was from a client or from an SA? I guess if I were a client or even an SA there, I would most certainly appreciate the precaution taken. I just hate being the cause of it. Thank you for the well wishes as well! I hope so too.

I didn't ask for the particulars, but I just know that my SA was able to work at home during his quarantine.

 

[WhiteBus]

Siha77

Firstly I hope you and your husband recover quickly.
I completely understand how you might feel guilt, but I hope everyone's supportive and sensible words will help you to realise that you had not been behaving wrecklessly and really have nothing to blame yourself for, so you should not feel guilt.
You reacted in the most responsible way and did your best to prevent further infection - some people would have chosen to ignore their responsibility to inform with very serious consequences.

 

[Fan2020]

Hi, does anyone know anything about wish list being suspended during lock down?

 

[Siha77]

Siha77

Firstly I hope you and your husband recover quickly.
I completely understand how you might feel guilt, but I hope everyone's supportive and sensible words will help you to realise that you had not been behaving wrecklessly and really have nothing to blame yourself for, so you should not feel guilt.
You reacted in the most responsible way and did your best to prevent further infection - some people would have chosen to ignore their responsibility to inform with very serious consequences.

Thank you very much for your very kind and supportive words. It truly means a lot and does give me peace of mind. I love how loving this community is.

 

[cravin]

I’m not sure if this is the right thread to be posting this in, but I feel terrible and could use everyone’s advice, encouragement and support. Let me just preface by saying my husband and I have been VERY good and careful during the pandemic. We never see anyone, we always wear masks even on walks around the neighborhood, and we hardly go anywhere except to pick up essentials, and even then we try to get most things delivered. The one store I do allow myself to go to every couple months is Hermès since I have always felt safe there. On Thursday, I paid a visit to my Hermès SA. Over the weekend, my husband started feeling fatigued so he quickly went to get tested and the doctor just called to let him know the test came back positive. We have no idea HOW! (We think it may have been a trip he took to Rite Aid to pick up a prescription). I started feeling symptoms yesterday and today, so the dr said to just assume I have it as well. Both of us are in our late 30s and our symptoms are mild so far. I just texted my SA to let her know of his diagnosis (he wasn’t there, but since I was exposed to him...) but I just feel sooooo guilty. I was double masked when I saw her so I REALLY hope she’ll be ok. I also just feel so guilty about her potentially having to stay home for 14 days and lose out on precious pay. My husband says I’m overthinking and I did the right thing, but why do I feel so awful about it? I haven’t heard back from her yet as it’s Sunday evening and I’m sure she’s enjoying her off time, but I’m so terrified she’ll hate me and I’ve ruined our relationship. Did I do the right thing in telling her? It also just feels so ironic and frankly pretty frustrating that we were so careful and still got it. Our family and friends have all been shocked to hear the news because they say we’re the safest people they know. Sigh, you just never know. Be safe, everyone.

First, I hope you and your husband recover quickly and completely.

You were double masked and I assume the SA was masked as well so the chances of spread were minimal. Also chances of your husband getting it from a quick run into the pharmacy are extremely low as well.

You did the responsible thing and there is zero reason to feel guilty. Get better.

 

[mursepurse]

How soon after receiving a quota bag is it acceptable to ask for another? I just got my first Birkin last week and I want to signal to mY SA that I also want a Kelly. But I don't want to appear too high maintenance lol

 

[acrowcounted]

How soon after receiving a quota bag is it acceptable to ask for another? I just got my first Birkin last week and I want to signal to mY SA that I also want a Kelly. But I don't want to appear too high maintenance lol

Unless you are a mega spender, they are unlikely to offer you another quota bag until at least a couple of months go by, especially this early in the year. Bringing it up before then will likely just make you look ungrateful without any benefit toward actually receiving a bag.

 

[cravin]

Unless you are a mega spender, they are unlikely to offer you another quota bag until at least a couple of months go by, especially this early in the year. Bringing it up before then will likely just make you look ungrateful without any benefit toward actually receiving a bag.

This. Also may raise concern that you’re trying to re-sell the bags. Enjoy your bag and the offers will come.

 

[Chrismin]

first of all, hope you guys recover quickly
you definitely did the right thing
unfortunately, there is a lot of shame/ stigma associated with covid positivity -- its not like you were being careless --but unfortunately these things can happen
im sure the SA and the whole store appreciate your notification
hang in there!

I’m not sure if this is the right thread to be posting this in, but I feel terrible and could use everyone’s advice, encouragement and support. Let me just preface by saying my husband and I have been VERY good and careful during the pandemic. We never see anyone, we always wear masks even on walks around the neighborhood, and we hardly go anywhere except to pick up essentials, and even then we try to get most things delivered. The one store I do allow myself to go to every couple months is Hermès since I have always felt safe there. On Thursday, I paid a visit to my Hermès SA. Over the weekend, my husband started feeling fatigued so he quickly went to get tested and the doctor just called to let him know the test came back positive. We have no idea HOW! (We think it may have been a trip he took to Rite Aid to pick up a prescription). I started feeling symptoms yesterday and today, so the dr said to just assume I have it as well. Both of us are in our late 30s and our symptoms are mild so far. I just texted my SA to let her know of his diagnosis (he wasn’t there, but since I was exposed to him...) but I just feel sooooo guilty. I was double masked when I saw her so I REALLY hope she’ll be ok. I also just feel so guilty about her potentially having to stay home for 14 days and lose out on precious pay. My husband says I’m overthinking and I did the right thing, but why do I feel so awful about it? I haven’t heard back from her yet as it’s Sunday evening and I’m sure she’s enjoying her off time, but I’m so terrified she’ll hate me and I’ve ruined our relationship. Did I do the right thing in telling her? It also just feels so ironic and frankly pretty frustrating that we were so careful and still got it. Our family and friends have all been shocked to hear the news because they say we’re the safest people they know. Sigh, you just never know. Be safe, everyone.

 

[HAllDay]

first of all, hope you guys recover quickly
you definitely did the right thing
unfortunately, there is a lot of shame/ stigma associated with covid positivity -- its not like you were being careless --but unfortunately these things can happen
im sure the SA and the whole store appreciate your notification
hang in there!

I completely agree with this comment. There is a lot of shame/stigma associated with covid, but the fact is I have friends, who have been the poster children of being super careful with covid, who got it. It was responsible of you to tell your SA and I'm sure your SA understands the risks that come along with her retail job. Don't beat yourself up too hard @Siha77 and I hope you and your husband have a speedy recovery.

 

[Siha77]

first of all, hope you guys recover quickly
you definitely did the right thing
unfortunately, there is a lot of shame/ stigma associated with covid positivity -- its not like you were being careless --but unfortunately these things can happen
im sure the SA and the whole store appreciate your notification
hang in there!

I completely agree with this comment. There is a lot of shame/stigma associated with covid, but the fact is I have friends, who have been the poster children of being super careful with covid, who got it. It was responsible of you to tell your SA and I'm sure your SA understands the risks that come along with her retail job. Don't beat yourself up too hard @Siha77 and I hope you and your husband have a speedy recovery.

Thank you both so very much for this, you are so right. There is SO much shame/stigma associated with having COVID and that's exactly why I (and I'm sure others in similar situations) would feel so much guilt in notifying their close contacts. It's crazy that this is stressing me out more than the actual having of the virus!

Again, thank you to this wonderful community for the love and support.

 

[maxroxxherhandbags]

Thank you both so very much for this, you are so right. There is SO much shame/stigma associated with having COVID and that's exactly why I (and I'm sure others in similar situations) would feel so much guilt in notifying their close contacts. It's crazy that this is stressing me out more than the actual having of the virus!

Again, thank you to this wonderful community for the love and support.

I work in sales and before we were in Lockdown here in the UK I was still seeing clients (masked socially distanced etc..) If one of them had contracted Covid within a few days of seeing me I would be SO grateful if they contacted me to tell me so that I could then go take a test and protect my loved ones and other clients and colleagues.
You definitely did the right and honourable thing.
Don't feel bad. You didn't know you had the virus when you saw your SA.
And the moment you had your diagnosis you contacted the store You did 100% the right thing.