Let me expand my previous reply to more details
I realize that while all the information is somewhere on tPF, our threads get incredibly long and can be hard to search. The most on topic one for your question it the "maintaining H relationship" thread. Note, the following is how things normally happen today but of course there are always exceptions.
My store / SA actually chooses to not use the word "waitlist" because it definitely is misleading, making people think that they can simply put their name down, buy nothing and just wait. That is not how it works 99.999999% of the time (exceptions are FSH appointments, and I think also Tokyo, and other very rare miracles that is basically like winning the lotto).
Some boutiques / SAs will use the "waitlist" word just to placate you and make you go away (if I were to guess, this is what's happening with you). In many places (US being one of them) they tend to not come out and say "you should purchase some other things" because I guess that's too crude or something (they are more direct elsewhere, for example in some Asian countries, the SA will straight up tell you to buy other stuff). But the reality is, there is no such "waitlist" where you just wait for a bag by doing nothing. You have instead a "wishlist", which is a list of the bags you want, and in order to get one of them, two things generally need to happen: your SA needs to propose to the store manager for a bag for you, and SM needs to give their approval. This means
1) Your SA has to think of you when she/he sees a bag and puts your name (out of the many, many clients they have) as the one to put in the proposal for.
2) Your SM has to approve your SA's proposal. The SM does this mostly by looking at your profile a.k.a. your purchase history.
As you can guess, the way to achieve (1) and (2) is to shop with your SA (so they think of you), normally recommended to be across different product categories if possible (so the SM looks at your purchase history and likes what they sees), and this whole process is what we call "the H game" and it is not for everyone. If you are unwilling to do this - completely understandable and you are definitely not alone - then go pre-loved for the specific bag you want, or try your luck at FSH when you can (there is a dedicated Paris thread in the shopping sub-forum that explains that process, which is unique to FSH. You will need to be lucky to first get an appointment, then be lucky again to get a bag at your appointment. Note that this means there is absolutely no guarantee that you get the bag you actually want but it's worth a try if you are in Paris anyways).
If you are willing to give it a chance and explore other H items, even just a little bit, I would suggest going in for an appointment with your SA, with an open mind, and see if you can actually purchase stuff with them. Best of luck!
ETA: thanks
@labelo and
@acrowcounted for linking the two threads that I mentioned (the Paris one and the relationship) one
I didn't even need to go pull their URLs!
