Lifers, When Will You be Done With Hermes?

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I just discovered this thread and especially loved hearing from those who've respected, adored, and followed Hermes for decades. You have a unique perspective. This thread's question sure did resonate with me: "...when will you be done with Hermes?" At 66 yrs of age I just retired from a 35-year professional career. Over the months leading up to my retirement I made major, brutally honest edits to my wardrobe to reflect what would surely be very different lifestyle needs. I'm very satisfied with the outcome and the local consignment shop (and my wallet--the resulting incoming "pin" money) are quite happy! Those edits included handbags. I sold my only "had-to-have-it" Birkin 30 (2003 SO from Beverly Hills, finally arrived in 2006, still in the era of needing neither to spend certain $$$, nor have a "relationship with an SA") and a few other Hermes bags that just no longer worked for me. It was hard to part with them and the process required that I really consider why I'd hung on to them, but not often carried. I decided that they stayed on my closet shelf "because they were Hermes" and, ultimately, I came to my senses that that was no longer good enough reason. Off they went.
So, back to the original question about being "done" with Hermes. Back story, for what it's worth: I discovered Hermes around 1988, right after finishing graduate school. My first two purchases were gifts to myself for hard-won achievements: A red courchevel Rio clutch from San Francisco, and followed by a "Les Artificiers" 90 cm scarf from Beverly Hills. I wore both A LOT and loved them. Items were added regularly through the next 25 years. At the time we lived in Southern California with several boutiques available to visit easily. Everything I've ever purchased was done so from a boutique, never resale (have been too chicken). Hermes' quality, mystique, and true understated elegance was initially discovered completely on my own; I recall that while out shopping one day I just happened to wander into the BH boutique...the shop wasn't a destination and I'd never heard of the maison. In those days (no i-net, no H "processes," etc.) my immediate impressions of having arrived in "not just any other shop" were undeniable and would never be duplicated in any other shop, to date. I felt like I'd found something really wonderful. I didn't grow up in a family who had luxury items and I had no peers or colleagues patronizing a maison like Hermes. But, even without any previous awareness of the label, I knew intuitively that I'd found a truly exceptional heritage. And, over these past almost 40 years, several bags have come home with me and been loved, scarves worn with delight, RTW enjoyed. I've never bought jewelry other than one scarf ring--jewelry's never been my thing--and I've never been into their home goods or china. The bags have always been classics and the scarves, the same. I don't really care for many of the (around) post-2010 scarf designs. I've enjoyed wearing every treasure, every time, with or without any recognition or compliments from others....wearing a bit of Hermes has always had the effect of elevating my confidence in how I was presenting myself whether it was professionally or maybe just a quick stop at the grocery! Wearing Hermes just makes me feel good! It can put a bounce in my step. Simple as that. I'll bet that's a shared experience with other members on TPF. For me, nobody else needs to know who created the bag I'm carrying, or whatever else from the house I may be wearing, but I know and it's always brought me joy all through the various life stages/events during which they've "accompanied" me. With that said, I don't believe I've bought any Hermes for about ten years (we moved to a locale where the closest boutique is six hours away). But, that doesn't mean that I stopped enjoying following along about the house!
Now, fast forward 40 years from that first Rio purchase (rouge vif!) to this moment and I feel like I'm now re-connecting with Hermes in a fresh, new way. This may be in thanks to reading many members' reflections about Hermes...thank you!! Even in retirement, I will still enjoy my scarves (pared the number down to only SEVEN beloveds, if you can you believe it: Les Rubans Du Cheval, all black CW; Regina, navy cw w/gold border ruban; Les Artificiers, navy cw; Aux Champs, black cw; Les Folies Du Ciel, yellow cw; Les Fleurs et Fuschia, black cw; Mediterranee plisse, royal blue cw-which Hermes, Paris re-pleated for me last year for free!!...will wear them gladly with jeans and Repettos instead of professional attire!) and my couple of remaining bags (Kelly Mou, 28, black; Kabana, rouge H), and I've decided that I'd like to add a couple more bags since I now finally have the time to do the "bag change out" thing that's required (we all know that this takes time and, while still working and juggling other competing priorities, this change-out was definitely low on the totem poll resulting in my carrying the same bag for months at a time!). My bags will now get their equitable use and rotation deserved. I'd like the "quiet," elegant black negonda garden party 36 and black bolide 1923 30, both of which I've happily found "new/never worn" through a wonderful U.S. source---no gambling for me with all of the other reseller options. I just don't have the patience to cope with this risk. I know that it works well for many, but since I don't plan to keep buying, buying, buying, I'm okay with taking a path of lesser resistance so to speak.
So, you see, even with a long history with the maison, and recent absence from giving them my money, I'm not done with Hermes. She's like an old friend that one sees every five-ten years and the reunion is as though no time has passed at all. If it's right, it's just right. Each of us knows what our connection with Hermes means to us. It may be nostalgic, it may be status-based...only the individual can answer that. For me, it's part nostalgia for the era when I could phone a boutique, talk about a bag style I might be looking for and we'd talk about what they had available at the moment, I'd buy it and it would be shipped to me. So accessible! But it's also partly the pure pleasure of wearing such beautiful, quality, really elegant pieces. We all know that it's wonderful to wear Hermes. Each of us also has to determine how invested we become in the current "ways" of Hermes, whether we agree with them or not. Yes, the process has changed and if your goal is to have latest, most, etc. I can appreciate that it would be extremely off-putting. It's our choice as to whether we let it bother us or let it go. I'm going to choose to focus on the pleasure that Hermes has brought me over the years and, I hope, will continue to bring me, whether it's in the only occasional purchase or simply via reading about your experiences and learning about Hermes. It's all good! :smile: Thanks for reading! I feel like I've found kin, in this Hermes forum.
Love this post for so many reasons. Thank you! :heart:
 
I too am a old devotee of Hermes .Used to buy a lot 15 yrs back ,then I went through a phase of buying other brands and now in my 60s have returned back to Hermes as I still love the non logo ,and craftsmanship.
Yes! The discreet presentation style of Hermes' pieces along with their unparalleled quality (easily visible, but then to touch or smell, as with leathers....sublime) are a couple of Hermes nuances that kept me returning again and again. I've always valued my privacy and have never wanted what I'm wearing to announce my arrival; I'd rather communicate who I am purely with my own personality and then have what I'm wearing simply echo any impression I want to make. I always treasured that Hermes seemed to share that same life approach...beauty and quality in life are to be savored, but not in a boastful or "in your face" manner. Not an Hermes memory, but a Chanel one: I'd always loved wearing Chanel's ballet flats. Such gorgeous lambskin, the quilting!!, the comfortable fit--like wearing your slippers to work! And Karl Lagerfeld seemed to make the decision to slap "CC" on any and every thing the house put out including all shoe styles. That was so off-putting for me that I've only bought one pair of Chanel ballets since (replacement pair for a very, very well-loved (read: absolutely worn out) early 90's black quilted ones---so pretty!) that change and, yes, they have the "CC" on the toe, but I try to ignore it.
 
I feel like I'm now re-connecting with Hermes in a fresh, new way.

I'd like the "quiet," elegant black negonda garden party 36 and black bolide 1923 30

She's like an old friend that one sees every five-ten years and the reunion is as though no time has passed at all

I loved reading your entire post, thank you. I stepped away for almost ten years when my first SA left.
(Durung that time, I did purchase vintage heritage leather at resale bc the boutique experience was no longer as fun, and I became interested in other things. I’m happy to be back, and reconnect, as you say, in a fresh, new way. Fresh new way, for me means RTW, bc it’s taken me many years to diet back down to a size where I’m happier to spend on clothes. Lol

My recent favorite new bag is also a 1923 bolide 30 :smile:

if I were to advise anyone new to Hermes, I would say, go slowly and mindfully. The most popular new thing on social media may not be the perfect thing for you. And, let your SA show you things that you might not normally consider. You could be surprised
 
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I loved reading your entire post, thank you. I stepped away for almost ten years when my first SA left.
(Durung that time, I did purchase vintage heritage leather at resale bc the boutique experience was no longer as fun, and I became interested in other things. I’m happy to be back, and reconnect, as you say, in a fresh, new way. Fresh new way, for me means RTW, bc it’s taken me many years to diet back down to a size where I’m happier to spend on clothes. Lol

My recent favorite new bag is also a 1923 bolide 30 :smile:

if I were to advise anyone new to Hermes, I would say, go slowly and mindfully. The most popular new thing on social media may not be the perfect thing for you. And, let your SA show you things that you might not normally consider. You could be surprised
Hello 880:
You make such good points regarding one's relationship with Hermes...rather than jump in with both feet, try to be thoughtful about one's investments (and they are all investments regardless whether they are leather goods or RTW!). It would be interesting to know if anyone out there has every single item they've ever purchased from Hermes, particularly handbags, or whether we all evolve, over time, and say good-bye to one-time "friends" and re-order what we've acquired. For me, now, I believe I can be very content with my recent editing, getting down to a very small core of beautiful (and truly useful and comfortable to wear) Hermes bags. Age, if we're lucky, brings a sense of contentment about things like this and we no longer have the "itch of the chase."
 
Hello 880:
You make such good points regarding one's relationship with Hermes...rather than jump in with both feet, try to be thoughtful about one's investments (and they are all investments regardless whether they are leather goods or RTW!). It would be interesting to know if anyone out there has every single item they've ever purchased from Hermes, particularly handbags, or whether we all evolve, over time, and say good-bye to one-time "friends" and re-order what we've acquired. For me, now, I believe I can be very content with my recent editing, getting down to a very small core of beautiful (and truly useful and comfortable to wear) Hermes bags. Age, if we're lucky, brings a sense of contentment about things like this and we no longer have the "itch of the chase."
I think I still have every single H item I’ve ever bought, right down to the forgotten cashmere muffler I must have picked up 30 years ago, that I recently rediscovered during a wardrobe review! I certainly still have every bag (and even every SLG, including those worn out from years of use), although I am considering whether to rehome my Jypsière. You and @880 are so right about not getting caught up in the chase and the SM trends - so easy to accumulate “stuff“ we don’t really want or need or that isn’t right for us. To me that chase is the antithesis of Hermès. I increasingly find myself drawn to exceptional vintage these days. There are not many new bags that I truly covet, but oh my, some of those gorgeous patinated heritage leathers….
 
I have a few good pieces, but over the years I realized I'm not really an Hermes person. I prefer Chanel, Gucci, Dior, and LV.
I have had the opposite journey - and only have a couple of Chanel pieces left, of which I am not sure I will keep one.., but with Hermes, I am indeed a lifer - with no hope for parole. Every so often I think now I am done, that is the perfect set of handbags (I am not collector, I only buy what I use) but then I realise that something isn't perfect for xyz and so it continues...
 
I have been an Hermes customer for 30 years but only started buying their bags in 2014. I started purchasing QBs in 2016 after DH established a relationship with an SA in Paris. Of course each time I purchased one I also purchased many other things. I never bought anything I didn't really want and I also purchased gifts for family. I was in Paris recently and wasn't able to visit FSH as our SA was on vacation so I didn't even go into the store. And I think that I have had the revelation that maybe I am kind of done with Hermes. I have so much stuff. All of it lovely. But I rarely to never wear a lot of it. I have multiples of quota and non quota bags. I do carry them on and off but I also carry Goyard often and in fact find it easier to use. Of my bags I use GPs the most, Kellys sometimes, and Birkins the very least (two I've only used once!). Sometimes I ask myself why I even bought them. And if I am honest with myself I think I bought them because I COULD. So now my closet is groaning under the weight of it all. As we age what is important to us can change and has in my case. I will hang on to all of it for now but I just can't justify acquiring more. The vast majority of their items are just the same, with new designs, but the same. How many shawls/scarves/twillys/bracelets/sneakers/silver items/wallets/purses (QB and otherwise) do I need? I have never liked their RTW and don't need any more housewares from any brand! Fortunately the brand does hold value for resale and I have DILs and future granddaughters to pass some of it on to. Turns out as the cliche goes "The journey WAS the destination" for me...
 
I have been an Hermes customer for 30 years but only started buying their bags in 2014. I started purchasing QBs in 2016 after DH established a relationship with an SA in Paris. Of course each time I purchased one I also purchased many other things. I never bought anything I didn't really want and I also purchased gifts for family. I was in Paris recently and wasn't able to visit FSH as our SA was on vacation so I didn't even go into the store. And I think that I have had the revelation that maybe I am kind of done with Hermes. I have so much stuff. All of it lovely. But I rarely to never wear a lot of it. I have multiples of quota and non quota bags. I do carry them on and off but I also carry Goyard often and in fact find it easier to use. Of my bags I use GPs the most, Kellys sometimes, and Birkins the very least (two I've only used once!). Sometimes I ask myself why I even bought them. And if I am honest with myself I think I bought them because I COULD. So now my closet is groaning under the weight of it all. As we age what is important to us can change and has in my case. I will hang on to all of it for now but I just can't justify acquiring more. The vast majority of their items are just the same, with new designs, but the same. How many shawls/scarves/twillys/bracelets/sneakers/silver items/wallets/purses (QB and otherwise) do I need? I have never liked their RTW and don't need any more housewares from any brand! Fortunately the brand does hold value for resale and I have DILs and future granddaughters to pass some of it on to. Turns out as the cliche goes "The journey WAS the destination" for me...
If I had a grandmother with Hermès products I would jump in the sky :flowers:.
 
My journey has been mixed. I've been an H customer for about 20 years and have the whole mix of the brand from bags (mostly QB and a couple non), shoes, belts, furniture, lighting, dishes, scarves, RTW - you get the picture...if H made it, then at some point I probably bought something in the category :angel: As with many in this group I appreciate the quality and also the lack of in-your-face logo. Over the years I have tried other brands both in RTW and bags - Celine, Loewe, LV, Tom Ford, etc - but find I end up keeping some of the RTW but not the handbags as I don't find them to be as classic or finding something without a logo from some of the brands like LV, Dior, Chanel has recently become a near impossible feat. (This isn't to say that H doesn't have its fair share of "H's" on products but I stay aware from those like H belt buckles or the Constance. I have consigned some H bags that I no longer use (and likely should do that more) and they vary from a Her bag to Halzan to even my first B and have sold some bags to friends when I end up with something similar - black B left when I got the So Black, or gold Kelly left when I got a gold Touch. I have come to realize that I love H bags and in trying to find another brand that bests its quality or longevity that comes with a classic is a exercise in futility for me and honestly a waste of money when I don't use them. To ensure I use what I buy I set a rule a couple years ago, that every time I go out, be it lunch, dinner or on a trip, I will bring out a different bag to both remind myself that I have it and also to consider if I should keep it.
 
My relationship with H started when my grandmother gifted me a pink BdeG for my 16th birthday. Many years went by before I started to collect scarves, then added shawls, and attended super fun Paris sales/dinners with scarfie friends. I have a good dozen H bags, but no K or B or C. Just under the radar great bags that I love and use daytime to night. I edited my scarf collection over the years to deal with excess and my changing tastes. I am still enthralled by the new collections but much more selective in purchasing. I did buy three CWs of one scarf in 2022 because I loved it so much. So I imagine I will never really be done, but the big acquisition phase is very much over. The love affair has become a gentle friendship...
 
I joined this forum in 2008 ...WOW...have had years where I was obsessed with H and was chase after chase after chase...and then would step away for a few years. The last few years I got a bit tired of the same bags and thought "oh I am finally done!" but found myself in the last year or so completely obsessed with box leather and now the obsession is real again.
 
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