I can't. Just never mind.
I never said she was the victim nor did I say he was 'bad,' nor does it really make any difference.
Someone saying that "it couldn't have been that bad" because she was doing... whatever the next day is so ridiculous. That's why we don't just judge people based on their reactions to things...
Kids who don't disclose sexual abuse, is it 'not that bad' because they didn't tell? Women who move on with their lives after not reporting rape - well, that must be 'not that bad' also. I'm glad we have someone to let us know when something crosses the threshold into an appropriate level of trauma.
Agree with both of your posts, mrsinsyder. And people wonder why many women don't come forward with domestic violence. Amber showed courage when she took on one of the most powerful men in Hollywood, knowing the repercussions of what would happen, ie a witch hunt, pretty much.