Babydoll I was not referring to your mother, at all. I was generally speaking. It was NOT directed to you.
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Babydoll I was not referring to your mother, at all. I was generally speaking. It was NOT directed to you.
I am lucky enough to have a good family, but I see far too many that don't in my line of work. You honestly wouldn't believe how emotionaally cruel some parents can be. It astounds me why they even had children.
I wasn't shocked, just happy that they decided to honeymoon someplace special, a place I have always dreamed of visiting.
I understand completely Jen's choice not to have her mom at her wedding. There are some people who have horrible original parents and family. It's not something I think anyone should judge, about who people choose as their adult family. At least as adults we get to make the choices.
I'm glad this long engagement ended in marriage. A lot of times it seems like people don't want to admit that they don't want marriage, don't believe in it or don't believe it is right for them. So there is this endless engagement that doesn't make sense to me. In this day and age, we don't have to get married, we don't have to get fake engaged, but celebrities have different pressures and the expectations for them seem higher than for regular people. I don't envy them that.
Bora Bora is fabulous. Great diving. I backpacked around French Polynesia for a month then later went on my honeymoon there.
Bora Bora is very overcrowded with hotels though. Moorea is far more exciting and picturesque with half the crowd. Out of the two I'd choose Moorea.
Re: her mother. You aren't required to use your wedding day to build bridges nor have people there who make you feel uncomfortable or "less". My husband and I excluded a trouble making Aunt of mine for the same reason.
No Ma'am, not today. Not on our day.
Bora Bora is very overcrowded with hotels though. Moorea is far more exciting and picturesque with half the crowd. Out of the two I'd choose Moorea.
Re: her mother. You aren't required to use your wedding day to build bridges nor have people there who make you feel uncomfortable or "less". My husband and I excluded a trouble making Aunt of mine for the same reason.
No Ma'am, not today. Not on our day.
Just wondering does hollywood usually bring all their friends along to their honeymoon? Is that typical?
You probably can't empathize because you love your mom and she loves you. And lucky you, seriously. For those who have toxic, dramatic, hateful mothers, it's just best to not invite negativity into your life. You can forgive
Someone for their actions without allowing yourself to be an emotional punching bag over and over.
^this...Sometimes a daughter can only take so much and the hardest part is the guilt we feel because of the truly beautiful mother/daughter relationships so common and apparent all around us. Sometimes the only healthy road a daughter can travel is the one where we muster the strength and courage to say thank you, I love you, good bye.
So happy for those of you with healthy, loving, supportive mothers💕 you are truly blessed and lucky...
So happy for those of you with healthy, loving, supportive mothers💕 you are truly blessed and lucky...
I thought she and her mom had repaired it a bit. Maybe not a total reconciliation but they are no longer estranged. I think she had some health problems in the last few years.
I agree with all the posters that said sometimes you have to sever ties for your own sanity. My mom and are are very different and she can drive me insane at times but we are close. However, I have an aunt and cousin who are very deceptive and capable of truly horrible behaviour who I have had to cut out my life completely. I have nothing to do with them and it makes my life much better and more peaceful. I don't know what Jen's mum did to her other than she was very critical of her looks growing up. As somebody who also experienced that, I know how damaging it is and I completely understand her decision. The fact that her mom belittled her looks and then the media as well when she and Brad broke up is proof to me that she is a very strong, well-adjusted woman. I think anybody else would have had seriously off the deep end from being subjected to this
Here's an article about it, it's old so unfortunately it talks about BP in it too. . . we can ignore that.
Jen's bitter rift with her mother
by ALISON BOSHOFF, Daily Mail
With a beautiful face, Brad Pitt as a husband and a lucrative contract with Friends, she would appear to be the woman with everything.
But in an extraordinary interview, Jennifer Aniston claims that she has just had the hardest year of her life.
The 31-year-old actress tells the May edition of Vanity Fair magazine that she has been dogged by 'low self-esteem' and 'a sense of shame'.
She puts much of the turmoil in her life down to the bitter rift with her mother, Nancy, a former model, adding: 'This is my last chunk of disease in my life - my mom.'
The pair have not spoken in four years and the actress snubbed her mother by not inviting her to her wedding on a Malibu clifftop last year, which she described as a 'tortuous decision'.
Of her years growing up with her mother, she recalled: 'I don't know if I would have known how beautiful she was if she wasn't always pointing out how unbeautiful I was.'
Her mother brought her up alone after her actor father John walked out on the family when Jennifer was nine.
But in recent years the actress and her father have been reconciled.
She added: 'That's the irony. My father and I are friends and my mother and I don't speak. It's a bummer. I miss her. You just want to share it.
'But this is a necessary break we need to take. Let it heal. This is my last chunk of disease in my life - my mom. I'm still trying to understand those years of my life and figure out what's real. As an adult, I can't blame my parents any more.'
They fell out when her mother gave a television interview about their relationship in 1996.
Miss Aniston called her afterwards in a rage and allegedly told her: 'I'll never forgive you. Never.'
Her mother later wrote a revealing book about their problems, absolving herself from blame.
Miss Aniston, who cried as she discussed the relationship breakdown, said: 'I still can't believe I got married and my mother has never met this person I married. I never would have believed it, when I was 17, if you had told me that would happen.'
She went on to tell Vanity Fair that her marriage to Pitt was helping them both to 'get rid of that piece of **** feeling we carry in ourselves'.
She added: 'This has been the hardest year of my life, as well as the best year of my life. The period after my wedding was extremely intense, for a lot of reasons.
'This was the year when I took the deepest look inward that I ever had and asked a lot of questions for the first time.
'There's been a real internal overhaul, about family, work, everything. Marriage brings up all the things I pushed to the back burner - the fears, the mistrust, the doubts, the insecurities. It's like opening Pandora's box. Every question comes out.'
She described how half of the time she feels like an insecure teenage girl and complains that the media spotlight feeds on women's low self-esteem.
Insecurities over her looks appear to prey on her mind. 'I think I'm just starting to feel I can stop apologising to the world - to myself, my family, to my friends, to the world, and live in my body and be okay with that,' she said.
She even hates her hair-style, which she had cut from the much-copied long layers into a shorter bob in October.
'I did it mainly to relieve me of the bondage of self,' she said. 'It was the right time to do it - shed the skin - but I couldn't hate it more.
'It's just not me. I hide behind my hair, it's my shield. I'm taking every horse vitamin there is to make it grow faster - blue-green algae, you name it.'
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-35482/Jens-bitter-rift-mother.html#ixzz3iKVYm76g
Jen's bitter rift with her mother
by ALISON BOSHOFF, Daily Mail
With a beautiful face, Brad Pitt as a husband and a lucrative contract with Friends, she would appear to be the woman with everything.
But in an extraordinary interview, Jennifer Aniston claims that she has just had the hardest year of her life.
The 31-year-old actress tells the May edition of Vanity Fair magazine that she has been dogged by 'low self-esteem' and 'a sense of shame'.
She puts much of the turmoil in her life down to the bitter rift with her mother, Nancy, a former model, adding: 'This is my last chunk of disease in my life - my mom.'
The pair have not spoken in four years and the actress snubbed her mother by not inviting her to her wedding on a Malibu clifftop last year, which she described as a 'tortuous decision'.
Of her years growing up with her mother, she recalled: 'I don't know if I would have known how beautiful she was if she wasn't always pointing out how unbeautiful I was.'
Her mother brought her up alone after her actor father John walked out on the family when Jennifer was nine.
But in recent years the actress and her father have been reconciled.
She added: 'That's the irony. My father and I are friends and my mother and I don't speak. It's a bummer. I miss her. You just want to share it.
'But this is a necessary break we need to take. Let it heal. This is my last chunk of disease in my life - my mom. I'm still trying to understand those years of my life and figure out what's real. As an adult, I can't blame my parents any more.'
They fell out when her mother gave a television interview about their relationship in 1996.
Miss Aniston called her afterwards in a rage and allegedly told her: 'I'll never forgive you. Never.'
Her mother later wrote a revealing book about their problems, absolving herself from blame.
Miss Aniston, who cried as she discussed the relationship breakdown, said: 'I still can't believe I got married and my mother has never met this person I married. I never would have believed it, when I was 17, if you had told me that would happen.'
She went on to tell Vanity Fair that her marriage to Pitt was helping them both to 'get rid of that piece of **** feeling we carry in ourselves'.
She added: 'This has been the hardest year of my life, as well as the best year of my life. The period after my wedding was extremely intense, for a lot of reasons.
'This was the year when I took the deepest look inward that I ever had and asked a lot of questions for the first time.
'There's been a real internal overhaul, about family, work, everything. Marriage brings up all the things I pushed to the back burner - the fears, the mistrust, the doubts, the insecurities. It's like opening Pandora's box. Every question comes out.'
She described how half of the time she feels like an insecure teenage girl and complains that the media spotlight feeds on women's low self-esteem.
Insecurities over her looks appear to prey on her mind. 'I think I'm just starting to feel I can stop apologising to the world - to myself, my family, to my friends, to the world, and live in my body and be okay with that,' she said.
She even hates her hair-style, which she had cut from the much-copied long layers into a shorter bob in October.
'I did it mainly to relieve me of the bondage of self,' she said. 'It was the right time to do it - shed the skin - but I couldn't hate it more.
'It's just not me. I hide behind my hair, it's my shield. I'm taking every horse vitamin there is to make it grow faster - blue-green algae, you name it.'
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-35482/Jens-bitter-rift-mother.html#ixzz3iKVYm76g
Thanks for the link. You know, this makes me dislike Brad even more. Because everything surrounding his cheating on her would have played right into these hang-ups and insecurities Jen had. I feel like giving her a hug.