Jennifer Aniston
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I think people have a misguided sense that you must be loyal and keep trying to love your family. The reality is they are only your family by chance and not everyone is blessed with a good one. If they are toxic to you and make your life worse for being in it, then it's only right to cut them out. Just like you would anyone else who gives you that sort of misery.
Just because someone is family does not mean they will love you, treat you well or respect you in any way. It just causes more heartbreak to keep pursuing something the other person will never give you.
Just because someone is family does not mean they will love you, treat you well or respect you in any way. It just causes more heartbreak to keep pursuing something the other person will never give you.
If you are estranged from your parent(s), there is no reason to invite them. For most people, it is hard to understand unless it happens to them. Some parents/adults are very self absorbed through out their whole life and dont understand their children or what their children go through. Maybe Jennifer not inviting her mother is healthy for her. I am almost sure if her mother had shown change, Jennifer would have invited her. But her mother writing a whole book about her own struggle with Jennifer... it's hard to forgive. Writing a book is a long process and Nancy would have had plenty of introspect to realize her folly, but it went into publication. Her side of the story?! Not all mothers are saints... even if yours is.
This. Some people, the ones who got the good families, will never be able to understand it.
This.
Those who came from happy family would nvr undertand the struggle. It is important to surround yourself with positive influence and eliminate negativity.
All I can say is that my own mother didn't come to my wedding. I feel for Jennifer and my heart goes out to her.
Some of us have very difficult mother-daughter relationships that can be very hard for others to understand. [emoji20]
Some of us have very difficult mother-daughter relationships that can be very hard for others to understand. [emoji20]
I thought about this bolded part in particular, and I fully agree. They say you can choose your friends and your partner, but not your family. I admit a toxic family member is something I cannot relate to, and have no experience with it. But I can see that others may have made experiences which are irreconcilable.
It's sad when mothers and daughters can't get along. I sometimes wonder what the cause is - is there a problem in either one's personality, or are both good, functional people that just can't get along? I'm just genuinely curious as to how things like this can happen. I know that I've had serious fights with family members but when it really comes down to it the love is pretty much unconditional.
Some people are just not functional. Some moms are addicts and have ruined relationships w/ everyone. Others, like Jen's, are highly critical and mean and destroy the relationship.
There's a lot of reasons I think.
Look at Jon Voight and AJ, Bethenny Frankel and her mom, Drew Barrymore, etc. . .
There's a lot of reasons I think.
Look at Jon Voight and AJ, Bethenny Frankel and her mom, Drew Barrymore, etc. . .
Her mother would probably spoil it by sell info before, during, honeymoon location to the tabs
She did write a tell all book about their relationship
She did write a tell all book about their relationship
That's exactly right!
My own mother was extremely critical and controlling, yet distant and non-affectionate.
I remember leaving for school in the morning and saying to her, "today I'm going to tell you I love you first, and tomorrow i'd like you to tell that to me." I was only in second or third grade and I still distinctly remember this.
Oh for sure there are many ways in which relationships can be ruined! Though with parents (in the event they were your caretakers obviously), I believe there is a rather high treshold... It obviously differs for everyone, but I believe it takes a lot more to break contact with parents and siblings than it does with friends/acquaintances or distant family. There has to be one or a series of dysfunctional or even traumatic events. Hard for me to wrap my head around.