I have tears in my eyes reading this thread.
This was one of the things that strained my relationship with my (now ex) BF to the breaking point.
Is he overworked? You bet. He's in retail management so the hours are tough and so is the work. He works hard, excels in his position, awards, etc, but frankly the work is far, far beneath him. I'm a M-F corporate girl.
When we first started dating he would work one late night during the week (meaning, not home till 9pm or so) and also work Saturdays so we only had Sundays off together. At first it worked out OK...I would play hockey the night he worked late and would have Saturday as a day to get errands done, shop, see girlfriends, etc so he and I would have Sunday free.
Then his schedule changed where they wanted mgrs working Sundays too! This meant we would have NO days off together (and we don't live together). Meanwhile, I had found a new job which doubled my salary and also required me to work overnight occasionally (IT deployments) and travel a bit too. He was supportive but I think in the end he resented it too. I started kicking into high gear with my job and meanwhile he was so burnt out on his but not doing anything about it (no interviews, no networking, etc). No interviews, no networking for over a YEAR
. As much as I tried to be empathetic I grew increasingly resentful that HE wasn't taking any steps to find something that paid better, had better hours, blah blah blah.
Anyway, sorry this was long.