I'm throwing my mom a 60th b-day party later this year. She is a twin and originally we were going to do the party for both of them. We'll my cousin told my aunt about the party (it was supposed to be a surprise) and my aunt said she did not want a party and would not come. Now it is just a weird situation. My aunt and my mom haven't been very close lately and it really upsets my grandparents who are in their 80's. My mom would like to be close, but my aunt can be pretty stubborn. I talked to my cousin last night and told her if she changed her mind we would love to include my aunt in the party. I also told her we would really love to have her there. It would be on the weekend so everyone could attend. She lives about 3 hours away. Today, my sister got an e-mail stating my cousin and aunt would not be attending because the situation would be too akward for my aunt since they share a birthday and the party was not for her too. She stated my aunt hates parties. They are going to do something private with my aunt which now means my other cousin could not attend. The party isn't even going to be on their birthday. I talked to my grandmother and she was crying saying the family has split. I e-mailed my cousin requesting her and my aunt's attendance and that my mom loved them both very much and it would mean a great deal to our grandparents. I'm not going to beg anymore or try to reason. I just wish my aunt would stop being so selfish and try to make my grandparents happy. Anyways, I'm just my sister and I are just frustrated with the situation and I can't talk to my own mom because I don't want to burden her with this situation.