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Tiffany's owwwww, it's beautiful! If you love it, go see it for yourself irl one day and if you still love it, then get it for yourself. It would make a beautiful gift for yourself.
So, i have a question, i don't know if anyone has asked you this or if you have answered, does he know that you know about the rings? I'm just wondering.[/quote]
I don't think he knows that I've seen them or been to their "hiding place." We were watching TV together once, and this cash-for-gold commercial came on, and I said something like, "Hey, scrap gold. You can sell you old wedding rings!" He didn't even react to that statement. I never told him that I saw them, but maybe he figured that I was just assuming he still had them.
I can certainly understand that. It seems to be a common sentiment. If he had tried to pass off her ring as my engagement ring, I would have had issues, but since I already have a ring that serves the same purpose as her old one, I guess I don't see it as a big deal.
That is another idea...but...for some reason, I'd kind of like to leave the ring as is. I don't know...maybe I should just point-blank ask him about it...or maybe I shouldn't.
I almost had my chance two nights ago, and I KICK myself because I didn't!
We were at margarita night, getting slowly buzzed. I spotted my cousin and her best friend, a lady who is a friend of the family. They're both around my BF's age, which is about 15 to 20 years older than me (I don't know their exact ages). My cousin's girlfriend hadn't really talked to me since I got engaged, but I know that she's SEEN me, because she was at the family reunion. Anyway, I walk over there to speak and hang out, and my cousin is all, "You know, ___________ is engaged!" So the friend was like, "Oh?" And then she GRABS my hand and looks at my ring. I have no clue why women do that. And she just smiled a little.
When I went back to sit with the BF, I kind of complained that I don't know why when you get engaged or announce your engagement, the first thing other women want to do is look at the ring! So we talked about engagement rings for a minute or so and I kept telling myself, "Bring up the ring. Bring up the ring!" I was gonna say something like, "When you got engaged to ______________ was it the same way? Oh? So, what are you going to do with her old engagment ring and wedding band?" It would have been such a good segue, but I couldn't bring myself to have that discussion.
), he might like to give them to his children. My husband still had his old wedding band when we got married. He put in my "pile of broken bits of gold jewellery, odd earrings etc" and next time I have something made it will melted down and added it to that. I absolutely agree. I would wait and give him a chance to chose a right ring for me (a right hand ring this time) and would never like to wear something that somebody else got. This ring probably means a lot of memories to him and it would be better if it stayed that way. Probably he intends to give it to his kids or something. Besides, think about the future you two have together and how many jewelry you can get that will mean and remind you a lot of your life as a couple and leave his past behind you,
