Husbands quest to get Wife a bag

[LoyalHusband]

Hey everyone!

Husband here. My wife's birthday is coming up and she is just crazy about Hermes - obviously about the hard to get bags but she loves everything about Hermes and has so many things from there like jewelry, scraves, small bags, etc. She constantly talks my ear off about Hermes and the things she wants. It hurts to think about our finances every time she bring homes an Hermes bag... I know nothing is cheap from there. In lieu of that I support her love for Hermes at the cost of buying things for the house or for myself lol.

I have read about how hard it is to get a bag like a Birkin which she is most interest in, and it does suck to hear her talk about not getting one despite building a relationship with an SA and having bought plenty of items. It leaves me pretty heart broken about how hard these bags are to get especially when it's coming from your wife's disappoint. With that said, I would love to surprise her with one of these Birkin bags. I know that they are extremely hard to get and you usually need to build a reputation per the wife. I want to walk into a store and inquire about buying one for my wife - is this something even worth trying? If so, is there a way I should approach whoever is helping me when asking?

 

[doni]

I would approach her SA. Just be honest with her, tell her about your wife’s birthday and how much she loves the brand and so on. You have nothing to loose. The other option is to gift her a trip to Paris where you can have a go at the mothership. No guarantee but you got yourself a trip to Paris to make up for all that Hermes induced sacrifice!

 

[QuelleFromage]

Go to the boutique and tell them how much you want to surprise your wife, who is a very good customer and loves the brand. In my experience husbands do quite well doing this. Good luck!

 

[BagLady164]

I’m not sure why exactly but your post makes me think you want to surprise your wife so I’m answering you in that context. I don’t know your wife’s preferred boutique but assuming she bought most of her things in the same country, Hermes will know her buying history. If I were you, I would go to the boutique, make your way to the bag section, explain your wife’s appreciation for all things Hermes and that you want to make her dream come through with a Birkin. Be charming, be nice (should be easy for such a devoted husband) and be prepared to ask for a specific size, color, leather and hardware. If you don’t know those specifics (my husband doesn’t know croc from chèvre or a Birkin from a Kelly though I have at least 25 of them) if the SA is willing to offer you a bag, you won’t know what to do and the return policy is harsh. One way to learn what her dream bag might be is to sit down with your wife, invent a reason to talk about Hermes and then have her take you to her favorite sites to look through them while you pay attention to your wife’s preferences. Chances are the SA won’t have your wife’s first, second or even third preferred specs so, if you are offered a bag, you will probably have to make an executive decision on the spot. The other alternative is to go the reseller route. If you’re doing the boutique yourself in order to surprise your wife, she will miss out on the experience of her first boutique Birkin anyway. If you’re going together all these problems are solved but your wife may well come away empty handed and disappointed. You will pay more at a reputable reseller but you will also instantly get what you want and if you hear your wife explain to the SA what that is, you can always get it after your visit. There are a lot of fakes out there though so be careful. If you decide to go with a reseller there is a ton of advice on this forum. Good luck!

 

[LoyalHusband]

@doni Thanks for the advice. That is exactly what I plan to do and a trip to Paris is actually in the works already but hopefully plan B won't be neccesary

@QuelleFromage Thanks! I didn't think about explaining how much my wife loves the Hermes brand rather than just aiming for simply a bag

@BagLady164 That sounds very good! I didn't even realize about the buying history. I'm looking out in California where she has purchased all of her stuff from so they should have that on some kind of history. I am not too worried about buying something on the spot if offered anything as long as it is on her wish list. She showed me her wish list that apparently is on her profile? Something like this.. husbands don't listen too well some times! I am assuming the SA would be able to take a look at her profile which should have her wish list? Thank you for the very detailed post! I learned a lot already in my approach which will happen in a day or two

 

[BagLady164]

@doni Thanks for the advice. That is exactly what I plan to do and a trip to Paris is actually in the works already but hopefully plan B won't be neccesary

@QuelleFromage Thanks! I didn't think about explaining how much my wife loves the Hermes brand rather than just aiming for simply a bag

@BagLady164 That sounds very good! I didn't even realize about the buying history. I'm looking out in California where she has purchased all of her stuff from so they should have that on some kind of history. I am not too worried about buying something on the spot if offered anything as long as it is on her wish list. She showed me her wish list that apparently is on her profile? Something like this.. husbands don't listen too well some times! I am assuming the SA would be able to take a look at her profile which should have her wish list? Thank you for the very detailed post! I learned a lot already in my approach which will happen in a day or two

Well...maybe. Sometimes SAs don’t listen too well either. Best to get your hands on a copy of that wish list before you go!

 

[BagLady164]

@doni Thanks for the advice. That is exactly what I plan to do and a trip to Paris is actually in the works already but hopefully plan B won't be neccesary

@QuelleFromage Thanks! I didn't think about explaining how much my wife loves the Hermes brand rather than just aiming for simply a bag

@BagLady164 That sounds very good! I didn't even realize about the buying history. I'm looking out in California where she has purchased all of her stuff from so they should have that on some kind of history. I am not too worried about buying something on the spot if offered anything as long as it is on her wish list. She showed me her wish list that apparently is on her profile? Something like this.. husbands don't listen too well some times! I am assuming the SA would be able to take a look at her profile which should have her wish list? Thank you for the very detailed post! I learned a lot already in my approach which will happen in a day or two

Also, it sounds like your wife has had “the conversation” already with her SA. Try to find out who that is.

 

[xincinsin]

Hi, LoyalHusband. It's very sweet of you to want to get a Birkin for your wife. Please don't take this wrong, but if you are already having to sacrifice your own needs as well as things for the house, then maybe think about whether you want to do this now. An expensive handbag will make her happy but it won't keep you warm.

If you have already saved up to splurge on this, good for you! Accompany your wife on her H trips and check out what she looks it and sighs over. Take note of who her SA is. Then go back on your own and talk to the SA. As another poster pointed out, the return policy is nothing to laugh about, so if you're not sure, please don't buy. My own hubby, after 20 years of marriage, still buys me things about which I am totally clueless as to his choice.

If you want to play it safe, buy her a wallet or other small gifts and save the Birkin for a major anniversary. It sounds like you are already paying for all her H purchases, so that should give you time to do your research by discreetly noting her buying preferences. Research of course includes reading all the threads here where H fans angst over purchases like "does the leather on this bag have too many veins". Good luck!

 

[aisham]

I agree with every thing that been said above . In addition to that , you can ask her to accompany you one day with the an excuse " I need a new belt/tie , lets go and check what hermes has to offer " also tell her that you don't know how to approach any SA so she should ask hers to be there and help you. In there after meeting her SA , please remember her/his name and face you can also take for a business card . While waiting, walk to the leather/bags department and make small talk with you wife what is your dream bag ? she will go in details , act confused and ask her to google it so you can imagine what it might look like . Now you know what your wife likes and you know which SA to approach next time you come and ask for a birkin .

Then make an appointment with her SA, talk to him/her about your planes to surprise your wife with her dream bag and ask if they have what she told you she wants . If they have it , You can buy the bag yourself and deny her the pleaser of her first store fresh bag experience ( it is important to us ). OR - what I want my DH so do - complement the bag and say that this is what she dreams about , and that you don't want her to miss out on the excitement of her first bag reveal in store and you know how this is important to her . If he/she understands that , then ask if they can hold the bag until the next day so you can bring her with you and surprise her in store and make an appointment with the SA for that. The next day , make another excuse to go to hermes the next day with your wife , look at your excuse belt\tie\wallet . Give her SA a look and they can bring the birkin and surprise her .

This way you can make sure that this is what she wants before paying for it and without denying her the experience .

good luck

 

[c18027]

You might find these previously posted threads helpful in your quest. Good luck!
https://forum.purseblog.com/threads/help-a-clueless-husband-navigate-getting-a-birkin.629940/
[URL]https://forum.purseblog.com/threads/the-newbies-how-do-i-get-a-birkin-or-other-bag-reading-room.505926/[/URL]

 

[lxrac]

Yep I agree to posters above. They usually offer to guys.

 

[cravin]

Fellow Husband here. I agree with what has been said above. Walk in and speak with the SA and just be honest. Wife has many Hermes things and adores the brand. Her dream is a Birkin. Is there anything that you can do to help?

I am sure that much of the game is to prevent people walking in from buying a quota bag and selling them off to a reseller. If you show that you’re trying to make the wife happy, they tend to bend over backwards to try and help you out.

One warning: once you get a quota bag, more offers will come so it will be a slippery slope of temptation. Make sure you can afford it.

 

[ladysarah]

Hey everyone!

Husband here. My wife's birthday is coming up and she is just crazy about Hermes - obviously about the hard to get bags but she loves everything about Hermes and has so many things from there like jewelry, scraves, small bags, etc. She constantly talks my ear off about Hermes and the things she wants. It hurts to think about our finances every time she bring homes an Hermes bag... I know nothing is cheap from there. In lieu of that I support her love for Hermes at the cost of buying things for the house or for myself lol.

I have read about how hard it is to get a bag like a Birkin which she is most interest in, and it does suck to hear her talk about not getting one despite building a relationship with an SA and having bought plenty of items. It leaves me pretty heart broken about how hard these bags are to get especially when it's coming from your wife's disappoint. With that said, I would love to surprise her with one of these Birkin bags. I know that they are extremely hard to get and you usually need to build a reputation per the wife. I want to walk into a store and inquire about buying one for my wife - is this something even worth trying? If so, is there a way I should approach whoever is helping me when asking?

ooh - the unicorn husband! There is some very good info here and I can’t imagine you will have a problem buying what you want. I can’t wait to read the update ( preferably with photos) keep us posted, it’s always exciting to read the outcome, but sadly not everyone bothers to report back.

 

[ChanelCelineLaurentLover]

I agree with a lot on here...go in and speak to her SA but definitely know what she wants and what she doesn’t. You need to know size, leathers, hardware, and colors. I hope she has a few in mind as you may be offered one on her list but you could also get offered a color you’re not familiar with. Maybe ask her what colors she wouldn’t like so you know not to purchase one by accident. Maybe you could have her friend or relative waiting by the phone to ask for a second opinion as well, I like to have someone ready to take my call if I’m alone and need to make a decision quickly on the spot.

 

[LoyalHusband]

Thank you everyone for the great advice! I will actually be trying tomorrow and will post an update (hopefully a good one).
I've talked to my wife a bit and I'm hesitant to go to her SA. I actually plan to go to another store that she has not gone to.
My wife's SA doesn't seem like a good SA. That's my reason for going to a different store in our area. She's spent close to 7k with her current SA and he doesn't seem to be taking her wish list seriously and is not really responsive to her text messages.