hubby doesn't get hint on bracelet gift

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I would flat out go and buy one myself. Look, I :heart: my husband more than anything in the world (aside from my son), but he is the WORST gift giver on the planet! And I do mean the WORST! Mostly because he forgets everything, but that's another story for another time.

So we made it VERY simple and while this may take some of the mystery out of gift giving, I always end up with what I like and he ends up with what he likes.

I've made this list of things I want (he has an identical list) in order of Want, Have to Have, and I NEED IT NOW!! Each time a holiday comes up a gift if chosen from the "I NEED IT NOW!!" category. And trust me, with a husband that loves gadgets, a son who loves video games, and a wife/mother that loves anything that sparkles that category is always full!!

As each item is purchased or given as a gift, it is crossed off the list. I ALWAYS know what I'm getting and I love it just the same as if I never knew I was getting it. This year it's slightly interesting because there was a charge on our credit card from our jeweler, but I haven't purchased anything from there in almost a year. My jeweler won't tell me anything and my husband has kept mum, however, he did assure me it wasn't a fraudulent charge, so I suppose, I will be surprised this year. However, I do know the rest of my gifts, so there is always that! :p

In your case though, if he doesn't get it for you for Xmas, then I would go and buy it after Xmas. Because if he did get it for you, then that's wonderful, and if he didn't, you can buy it for yourself after as a gift for surviving the holidays!!
 
kohl - I think we're a lot alike in the fact about obsessing about something until we have it! But I just pampered myself with a Cartier YG Love cuff. I think I got into Pandora from all the threads on the forum. I don't think you are into them it but if you were.... Do you prefer original style filled with charms or new strand style with 1 clip? Or should I just get a Tiffany DBTY bracelet with 1 little diamond?
 
Hokaplan said:
kohl - I think we're a lot alike in the fact about obsessing about something until we have it! But I just pampered myself with a Cartier YG Love cuff. I think I got into Pandora from all the threads on the forum. I don't think you are into them it but if you were.... Do you prefer original style filled with charms or new strand style with 1 clip? Or should I just get a Tiffany DBTY bracelet with 1 little diamond?

Hi hokaplan, saw you on the pandora thread and came across this accidentally. I know what you mean, getting the idea and then you can't let it go. I decided I wanted one nearly 2 years ago for my birthday (which wasn't even a milestone one). I just told him flat out that I wanted one , and let's go shopping! In the past I got crappy gifts like DVDs of old shows and stuff like that, lol! It would be good for future birthdays etc so they can give you charms, whereas with the other ones, even the multi strand pandora there's nothing more to do with it. And if he doesn't get you one, I agree with the others. Go and get your own. And come and visit us sometime on the pandora bracelet thread!!!!!!!!! Warning, they are addictive though! ;)
 
Hokaplan said:
kohl - I think we're a lot alike in the fact about obsessing about something until we have it! But I just pampered myself with a Cartier YG Love cuff. I think I got into Pandora from all the threads on the forum. I don't think you are into them it but if you were.... Do you prefer original style filled with charms or new strand style with 1 clip? Or should I just get a Tiffany DBTY bracelet with 1 little diamond?

You didn't tell us this part. This makes me change my thinking a little. How long ago did you buy the cuff and had you been hinting for that before? If you'd been hinting for that maybe he was planning on getting you that and now is mad/pouty (men pout too!) that you bought it yourself. There's quite a difference between starting a Pandora and a Love cuff (even a Tiffany dbty). A Pandora gets expensive as you add to it but the other two I think are special gifts. Maybe he thinks you got your special gift. I'm just going on how my husband would think.
 
kohl - I think we're a lot alike in the fact about obsessing about something until we have it! But I just pampered myself with a Cartier YG Love cuff. I think I got into Pandora from all the threads on the forum. I don't think you are into them it but if you were.... Do you prefer original style filled with charms or new strand style with 1 clip? Or should I just get a Tiffany DBTY bracelet with 1 little diamond?

Congrats on the one-clip bracelet, it is very pretty. Wear it for a while and then decide of you want the original with many charms (and extra charms/glass to change it up). Or the DBTY (I do not know what this is). Or, get all three! :graucho:
Enjoy your new bracelet, Christmas is very close now, see what happens.
 
Done! Just purchased myself the new strand Pandora with one clip. I still want and ho[pe for the original style. I will wait until closer to Valentines Day and tell my husband clearly! That is an interesting point that he might not want me to have the same as his mom. But my charms would be totally different. DBTY is diamonds by the yard. Tiffanys sells them and it is widely copied using white gold, yellow gold, silver or platinum. Maybe someday I will get a DBTY necklace cause I'm good on bracelets now!
 
We celebrate Hanukkah which begins in 2 days! I don't think we're exchanging this year as we just booked a trip for February with warmer climate. And I said that was my Valentines gift. perhaps I'll get an originial Pandora for Mothers Day!
 
I almost bought the new style Pandora today that is strands of bracelet and takes one clip only. That way, if my husband eventually gets me the original, I can wear the 2 side by side. But the store only had the 7.5 size which was way too big. The next smaller one is a 6.7 which they did not have. I'm fine in the original in a 7.1. Maybe it is just not meant to be..... I called another Pandora store and they said they have the new strand one in all the sizes. I have the cash and might go over tomorrow. The strand one is $115 and the rose zirconia clip is $95. Still a lot of money. I don't know what to do.
you can always wear 2 normal pandora bracelets together. i think it looks cool
 
Hokaplan my husband is exactly like yours. Does not get hints. He is simply too manly and not into sentimental stuff. He is great husband and father though. At first his lack of romance was bothering me, one year after way too many hints about diamond right hand ring, I didn't find it under the tree, and started crying. He was geniunely stunned and could not understand what's going on. Next day of course, we went out and he bought me the ring I wanted.
May be your husband is just not the type, KWIM? Anyway, I learned my lesson, and started buying my jewelry myself - he always approves of everything! :laugh: HTH!
 
lol this is cute. Maybe he's trying to surprise you. I hope I don't sound bratty but if I find something cute online, I turn to him and say "this is so cute. will you buy it for me :P"
99% of the time I'm kidding, but he really considers getting it. When gift time comes around, like christmas or birthdays, he remembers all the times I kiddingly asked him that question and remembers all the things I wanted and picks one. If he bought me everything for no occasion, I would feel too guilty and make him return it. Like I said, I'm usually kidding and just like to fantasize about having the goods for fun. Don't worry about it I'm sure its coming soon!
 
Hokaplan my husband is exactly like yours. Does not get hints. He is simply too manly and not into sentimental stuff. He is great husband and father though. At first his lack of romance was bothering me, one year after way too many hints about diamond right hand ring, I didn't find it under the tree, and started crying. He was geniunely stunned and could not understand what's going on. Next day of course, we went out and he bought me the ring I wanted.
May be your husband is just not the type, KWIM? Anyway, I learned my lesson, and started buying my jewelry myself - he always approves of everything! :laugh: HTH!

My DH is very much the same. All the hints in the world he just doesn't get. Yet he wants so very much to make me happy. It just seems that what he hears and what I think I say are so incredibly different that neither of us can understand how the other didn't think the same thing. But when I buy something for myself or tell him flat-out what I want, he is genuinely happy. Because, really, he DOES care and he does want to make me happy, but gift-giving is simply not his forte.

So try taking him with you to the store and having him help you choose your first charm along with the bracelet. Then you will have the memory of going to get it together, which is second-best to him and buying it himself. Then let him know that another charm for Valentine's Day would be great and point out some that you like.

And maybe he really is trying to surprise you, but if it were my DH we were talking about, I'd bet not! :laugh:
 
I understand how you feel! I have been seeing alot of things I want, but I made it pretty clear that I want something from Tiffany's (due to the price increase in January). He prefers that I give him a list of things I want, so this year I sent him an email with all the tings I wanted...
I prefer to figure people out, but he is particular, and if I don't get him something exactly what he is looking for, he won't like it.
Good luck with your bracelet! You should post pics!
 
I wonder why you didn't buy the regular bracelet when you brought your MIL to the store... I think that might have been a fabulous reason to shop together and dh wouldn't have been able to say no? Or was it not an option? I think you ought to get yourself the one you want and take your MIL shopping again next time ;)

This is only my experience and every one's mileage varies. I usually give my dh plenty of notice if I'm going to buy something and remind him just so our wires don't get crossed :) I have a small budget for my obsessions and need to be honest and upfront about what I plan for my Pandora obsessions. If my dh isn't willing to swing it (most of the time!), I resort to save/earn the funds for it. There are times when a woman just has to do what a woman's got to do.... waiting for a man to create the "romance" isn't all that it's cracked up to be, sometimes ;) I learned the long way, I must have yearned for a designer bag for over 2 years and I finally purchased one with my own funds. It was a really pivotal point for me, I had a great experience! I realized I was plain miserable waiting on dh LOL
 
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