I’ve definitely learned that. I’d much rather wait 3-6 months to get something rather than overdoing it like I was. It makes the experience more enjoyable… I started taking pictures of the item on me to remember I liked the item. Right now, I feel like the only items I like are the Perlee clover + Perlee single Diamond row bracelet. So, I’m going to just wait to purchase those… Then, in time, rinse and repeat but in YG.
How many times have you exchanged something?
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I never really understood why people would exchange something unless it arrived damaged via mail. I've purchased things both online and in person and each one of them were thought out for weeks to months. I understand not everyone has access to stores to try things in person, but it always felt weird to me to buy like 5 things to pick something out and then return most of them. It's also the reason we get damaged and scratched items when "buying new" due to constant returns from other people. (I know some people use them with tags on for a few days before returning...)
I constantly read about people's buyer's remorse as well, which is even more baffling to me since math can be done prior to purchasing. Like, you know you were going to spend so much, why are you feeling bad after it's been done? Clearly you didn't want it that badly and didn't put that much thought into it. I've never had buyer's remorse, even if I ended up buying something over priced, discounted further later, etc. I wanted the item bad enough to buy it when I bought it, therefore I am happy that I have it.
This goes for every item I've purchased in my list of hobbies. My husband is the same as well. We've just never had regrets. Even if the item we buy comes in and is performing less than ideal, we never feel "regret". We'll either sell it or simply live with the lesson learned. It's still usable, whatever the item may be.
I constantly read about people's buyer's remorse as well, which is even more baffling to me since math can be done prior to purchasing. Like, you know you were going to spend so much, why are you feeling bad after it's been done? Clearly you didn't want it that badly and didn't put that much thought into it. I've never had buyer's remorse, even if I ended up buying something over priced, discounted further later, etc. I wanted the item bad enough to buy it when I bought it, therefore I am happy that I have it.
This goes for every item I've purchased in my list of hobbies. My husband is the same as well. We've just never had regrets. Even if the item we buy comes in and is performing less than ideal, we never feel "regret". We'll either sell it or simply live with the lesson learned. It's still usable, whatever the item may be.
I never have buyers remorse, the issue is mainly being unhappy with the item due to X reasons. You never get to know an item with the 10-30 minutes you have experiencing. The only resolution is thinking about it for a few months, and if you still want it, get it
I’ve returned Tiffany’s studs long time ago because it infected my piercings. An anomaly, I am sure.
You’ve mentioned you’re 23 and when I was that age, I’ve made some impulsive decisions, one of which was buying a Fendi 2jours bag and getting it monogrammed! I couldn’t return a monogrammed bag, could I?
Many members here have given you great advice and anecdotes. You’ve also mentioned you’ll be on ban island and I hope you stick to it.
Being financially successful in your early 20s is something to be proud of and I am glad you are on your way to learning how to make large purchases responsibly.
Best of luck to you!
You’ve mentioned you’re 23 and when I was that age, I’ve made some impulsive decisions, one of which was buying a Fendi 2jours bag and getting it monogrammed! I couldn’t return a monogrammed bag, could I?
Many members here have given you great advice and anecdotes. You’ve also mentioned you’ll be on ban island and I hope you stick to it.
Being financially successful in your early 20s is something to be proud of and I am glad you are on your way to learning how to make large purchases responsibly.
Best of luck to you!
Yep, and that's why I watch as many Youtube reviews etc, as I can to see how tight the zipper is, what pockets it's missing, how the strap fits on tall/short people, etc. The more expensive the item, the more research and time to decide for sure. But I've still never returned an item that did not live up to my expectation, rather just note that flaw for my next purchase. This goes for my handbag purchases as well as my other non handbag purchases.
In the event there are zero reviews out there to help me make my decision, I do buy the piece, only if I've tried it in stores. I did that recently for shoes. If they end up hurting my feet, well then... I'll have to find more places to sit to wear them.
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Haha I have the opposite problem, I have a hard time returning/exchanging jewelry pieces even if I end up not loving them as much as I thought I would've. Growing up, I associate jewelry shopping as a special occasion thing, to celebrate birthday, a memorable trip, or hitting a major milestone. As soon as I paid for the item I feel emotionally attached to it. But it seems like you've gotten some very practical advice from the members here, I follow the same logics nowadays, think long and hard before I commit to a purchase, take a ton of photos, and only buy what I truly in love with so I don't end up regretting it. It has been working out pretty well for me so far 
Exchanged.....no. Returned, yes. My SA insisted I'd love Letterwood. I didn't. This was when NM carried VCA.
Well for me personally there are no stores where I live so unless I buy clothes and shoes when I travel , I need to buy online for myself and my family and they don't always fit or look as we envision.Yep, and that's why I watch as many Youtube reviews etc, as I can to see how tight the zipper is, what pockets it's missing, how the strap fits on tall/short people, etc. The more expensive the item, the more research and time to decide for sure. But I've still never returned an item that did not live up to my expectation, rather just note that flaw for my next purchase. This goes for my handbag purchases as well as my other non handbag purchases.
In the event there are zero reviews out there to help me make my decision, I do buy the piece, only if I've tried it in stores. I did that recently for shoes. If they end up hurting my feet, well then... I'll have to find more places to sit to wear them.
Many brands aren't consistent with sizing, or some styles end up less flattering than imagined so returns are a necessity.
Hm, I’m definitely different in that regard. If I don’t like something, I just end up returning it because I know I’d end up not using it. With me, I’m a perfectionist and need correct coloring, proportions, etc. and when something is slightly off, it kills it for me.Yep, and that's why I watch as many Youtube reviews etc, as I can to see how tight the zipper is, what pockets it's missing, how the strap fits on tall/short people, etc. The more expensive the item, the more research and time to decide for sure. But I've still never returned an item that did not live up to my expectation, rather just note that flaw for my next purchase. This goes for my handbag purchases as well as my other non handbag purchases.
In the event there are zero reviews out there to help me make my decision, I do buy the piece, only if I've tried it in stores. I did that recently for shoes. If they end up hurting my feet, well then... I'll have to find more places to sit to wear them.
I agree. I remember when I got an XS from Aritzia and it fit like a M, but the returns policy is so much better online. I want to be ordering online from VCA but the stock online is another level of bad, sometimes I wonder why they even have an online boutique when there’s usually nothing in stock!
I think it's different if we're talking about clothes. Clearly those have to fit. I was mostly focusing my thoughts on bags and other things that don't need to fit tightly on the body. Some of my other hobbies don't even have a return policy because of the types of items they are... (Nerd statues and firearms.)
Wouldn't you know this upon finalizing the purchase though? I get that for remote clients since they don't get to see and try on the pieces first hand, but if you've been to the boutique trying on different creations and make sure you're getting the correct size, you still end up feeling conflicted about your purchases? I'm also a perfectionist and OCD, I bring a loupe with me just to make sure I don't leave the boutique with a defective/less than perfect jewelry piece
I think sometimes it's hard to know if a piece really works for you until you try it on at home and see it in different kinds of lighting etc. I'm having this dilemma with this year's HP. I want to see it in natural lighting rather than store lighting and I want to see how it actually looks with my clothes because I don't wear gray. So I don't know if I want to get it because I wasn't sure about it when I saw it in person and I don't like to return thingsWouldn't you know this upon finalizing the purchase though? I get that for remote clients since they don't get to see and try on the pieces first hand, but if you've been to the boutique trying on different creations and make sure you're getting the correct size, you still end up feeling conflicted about your purchases? I'm also a perfectionist and OCD, I bring a loupe with me just to make sure I don't leave the boutique with a defective/less than perfect jewelry piece
In that scenario I think similar to what others have already pointed out and try to avoid, sounds like you weren't 100% convinced that you want the HP - it's not a color you'd normally go for and you don't know if it'll work with your wardrobe, you bought it anyway then try to figure out if you like it enough to keep it because you don't like to return things.
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question… a way that i personally plan out purchases is to keep an excel document with all my pieces listed by category and metal type.
then I have a tab for anything I ordered (like special order, mto or something out of stock), and then a wishlist tab. The wishlist tab is then in order of priority.
this all sounds very extra, but it may help in your future purchase decisions no matter what brand. first of all it can show you “gaps” in your collection, and it means things are a bit more planned, at least for me.
question… a way that i personally plan out purchases is to keep an excel document with all my pieces listed by category and metal type.
then I have a tab for anything I ordered (like special order, mto or something out of stock), and then a wishlist tab. The wishlist tab is then in order of priority.
this all sounds very extra, but it may help in your future purchase decisions no matter what brand. first of all it can show you “gaps” in your collection, and it means things are a bit more planned, at least for me.