She’s gorgeous. Congratulations!Thank you all for the advice!! In the end...I got her! (And she is etain, not etoupe)
So I think she meets all my criteria for now. If I had to absolutely pick, I may have gone w another colour if I'm honest, a slightly lighter more feminine one. If that day ever comes, I feel I have enough friends who'd relieve me of this bag so I feel this is a good decision.
Thank you all for the advice! It's crazy what Hermes can do to a girl's head!

Some Hermès colors are very chameleon-like and change with the light and your surroundings, so don’t discard the color yet. I think you’ll wear her a lot.
I’m not a Twilly person, but that one looks very chic on her. Enjoy!