I totally agree. I never lend out anything to my friends. I dont' think that it's because I'm selfish, but over past experiences I've found that people are just inconsiderate and do not take care of the piece of clothing because it's not their own. It's definitely important to make it clear to your friend that you are not comfortable with the situation--just because you're friends doesn't mean you have to share all your clothes with her.
How do you feel about friends borrowing your clotes repeatedly?
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I totally agree. I never lend out anything to my friends. I dont' think that it's because I'm selfish, but over past experiences I've found that people are just inconsiderate and do not take care of the piece of clothing because it's not their own. It's definitely important to make it clear to your friend that you are not comfortable with the situation--just because you're friends doesn't mean you have to share all your clothes with her.
hmm. i think borrowing things & lending things can become a sticky situation. my friends & i haven't borrowed each other's clothes since high school and i am totally fine with that. however, if they did need to borrow something, i would hope that they're comfortable enough with asking me and have enough respect to clean it before giving it back.
I never let anyone borrow my clothes...due to previous experiences...they would tell me they lost it...so they could keep it...or it would come back smelly...and not dry cleaned...I've had cigarette burns...rips...snags...stretched out...stained...and I've had to hunt friends down for my own clothes...so it's not worth it...and don't let anyone borrow...ever!!!
I don't (lend out clothes) anymore-I used to, but not very often-if I had a friend who had abused her "borrowing credits", so to speak, next time she asked, I would just say, with a smile, "Sorry, I've gone out of the lending business." If pressed, keep repeating...and stick to it-any bad reaction to this should cause you to rethink the type of friendship you have-seriously, if it is so one-sided, what would your friend do if you didn't have what she needed, or if you wern't around? Just stick to your guns, and good luck!
I don't really like it when they ask as it puts me in an awkward position, I look after my clothes and if I go out have too much to drink and something happens to somthing I'm wearing then thats my fault but if my friend did it I would be so so mad! So if it is something I really love I don't offer to lend it to my friends
I have a friend who always borrowed my stuff and never returnd them. I am friends with both her and her sister. Her sister borrowed stuff before but last time she borrowed an H and M blazer cheap but it was so cute I love it and I ahd to ask for it back. i feel like they think I have a lot of stuff so why should I miss but I work hard for my stuff and I am not rich. Samething with my coworker I lent her some shoes I had to ask her after two months. She lent me a shirt she asked me for it that night! The friend who bororwed my stuff and never returned them kept a DVF dress she wore for a wedding but I "borrowed" two designer ones and they are not going back until I get my dress. That was 2005! I rarely borrow form people and I usually give people stuff I get ttired of but I feel you on the taking advantage. Jsut dsay no. I wish I had now they are all in the habit of "shopping" my cloiset. luckliy they live in the city and I live upstate. Not so easy anymore to raid my closet.
I feel guilty too but sometimes people take advantage even unknowingly.
I feel guilty too but sometimes people take advantage even unknowingly.
[vogue];1983199 said:
Same thing with me. Luckily none of my friends are the same size or build as me so it's never really come up. The closest I've gotten is a friend picking up the same tops I was but they didn't work for her body type and she didn't buy them.
For shoes I have pretty long feet so luckily no one I know except my father-in-law is my shoe size. I don't think he'll want to borrow my heel any time soon.
Oh my goodness! 
I'm lucky in that no one (except maybe my sisters) want to borrow my clothes. I do ask my friends if I have something that I think would be appropriate for whatever occassion they are looking for an outfit for ... but, save a couple occassions, they always say no. We just have very different tastes. And I have never offered any of my designer clothes to my sisters (besides designer shoes), just BCBG dresses mostly, which I end up giving to them. (They're easy to buy, good for the night, and "non-controversial" in that they're "pretty" and people don't get weirded out by them.)
I'm lucky in that no one (except maybe my sisters) want to borrow my clothes. I do ask my friends if I have something that I think would be appropriate for whatever occassion they are looking for an outfit for ... but, save a couple occassions, they always say no. We just have very different tastes. And I have never offered any of my designer clothes to my sisters (besides designer shoes), just BCBG dresses mostly, which I end up giving to them. (They're easy to buy, good for the night, and "non-controversial" in that they're "pretty" and people don't get weirded out by them.)
