Since you stated that you are somewhat new to buying Hermes, presumably you have bags from other designers.
Think about your current bags. Do you gravitate towards tote styles or shoulder strap styles? Do you tend to use your neutral colors more and prefer to have your clothing tones match with your bags, or do you like to have a contrast color? Do you like having multiple styles in the same color tone or do you like to have more color variety?
It does not sound like either of the bags your friend is offering you are perfect for you, because you are uncertain about them. You might first decide on exactly what you want, then you will know when it comes your way.
First, think about how large of a collection you want; do you want a smaller capsule collection or a larger collection eventually?
Start making a list of the categories you want to fill, either a hole in your collection or a current bag that you would replace with a Hermes bag. For example: 1) larger neutral tote - check 2) small/medium neutral shoulder bag- check 3) small pop color shoulder bag 4) medium pop color tote bag 5) small neutral cross body bag ...etc, filled out for your preferences.
If you want a new bag right now and are ok with the idea of possibly having a few superfluous bags in your collection down the road, then that’s fine too.