**Hermes Chat**

[pug*shoes]

Oh Mindi! (((hugs for you)))
Vibes for Henry≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈

I am not a dog person so I have no real words of wisdom other than some days are better than others. Take it one day at a time. Have you talked with the breeder about some of the behavior issues with Henry? Maybe he or she can give you some additional tips.

You are not a bad dog Mommie. I didn't know that raisins were poison to dogs. Chocolate, yes.

BTW, Winky vibes too.≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈≈

restricter, I hope you can find the cat food. Have you emailed the manufacturer? Perhaps they can point you to a country or store that still sells it.

I hope everyone has a great day. I am glad it's Friday.

I had a great dinner with my nice SIL. She told me that the upcoming bat mitzvah for our nasty SIL's daughter is black tie and black and white themed. The thing is that nasty SIL (NSIL) is completely pretentious, and she has (for close to 20 years) made my family and nice SIL's family feel slightly to completely unwelcome. I could share stories that you wouldn't believe. Nice SIL was joking that we should dress up our DH's in black and white jail garb and wecould be their jailers. We can put a black tie on em. Another idea that was floated by my DH was dressing in a Zebra costume.

YES! Wear a Zebra costume! Oh I love that idea!

Wear Red.

We have a relative who wore a soft cervical collar for years (disability?? perhaps from Fed Govt?) anyway at one of his kids' Bar Mitzvahs my mom decided that she, her DH and my cousin and his DW should all wear matching collars to the event. Tacky? Absolutely. Fun! A riot.
Does that relative speak to me? No and I wasn't even there.

LOL! Ok, even better. I like the wear red.

Hugs, Mindi. Poor Henry is so confused. He doesn't know what he is supposed to do. He is just a baby. It has taken two years for Coco to stop spritzing before she could get outside. Charley took forever. They all ate each others food. That was a losing battle so I just gave into it and they all ate whatever the oldest dog ate. They are all a little compact, less tall than the average standard poodle, and also less heavy. Anyway, Henry is still learning and so are you. He is a completely different puppy than Olive was. You don't know what he went through before you rescued him. Sometimes, when Charley was a baby, I would just talk to him like, Why do you pee all over people when they meet you? Why do we have to take new people out to the deck to say hello and, please spread 'em so you don't splatter them? Dogs are just so different from each other. You have taken on a responsibility with Henry and would you wish him on anyone else? What would happen to him if someone less patient and kind got him? No, you are the best puppy mama for him. Just chant this mantra when you put your leg behind your head: He's just a baby, he'll grow out of it.
Also, he shouldn't be jumping at food on the table. That's definitely a teachable thing.
It is not mean, it's preemptive first aid, LOL!

I agree 100%

Mindi, you're not a bad dog mom at all. You just seem to have your hands full with this one and it's really stressing you out. You were spoiled with Olive, and unfortunately HenHen is more of a challenge.

I'm sorry to say I totally disagree with your DH. Crating is a very important part of the dog's training and early development. Especially for a small dog. The entire house is a HUGE space for them, and way too much responsibility for them to manage and for you to monitor them in. If you cannot keep a close eye on him for longer than it takes to breathe, he should go in the crate. It will keep him safe, and you sane.

What should have happened with the bed pee incident is he should have been taken outside immediately to finish his business, with verbal reinforcement of "Good boy, Henry, good business." Crating him immediately post-pee (or mid-pee, in this case) tells him, "this is where you should go." You're giving the poor dog mixed signals in your stress and confusion about what is the right thing to do.

If you live in an apartment and it's impossible to take him outside immediately if necessary, you might want to consider a pee mat with a grassy surface.

My heart goes out to you, but you do need to consider that this whole situation is causing you an awful lot of concern and distress. You talk about it an awful lot, and I'm growing concerned that it's just getting too overwhelming for you. Perhaps he needs to go to a professional for a while.

Again, much better than I could have said. The crate was what helped the most with the puglets, but mainly consistency, with the crate, with commands, etc. And even if he was done pee'ing, I would race them outside as soon as I noticed it, so they would get, oh, I pee out here!

Hi LU!
I need to kvell for a moment. Yes, it is about DS.
I haven't heard from him in a week, so I called him yesterday. He called me back last night. We had a short chat; he has a job today, he is seeing an herbalist Monday, not much else. A half hour later he calls me back with a smile in his voice. What is it? He has a call from someone from the grad school to which he has NOT applied yet and she is saying that the 12 credits from the herbal course he just finished will transfer over. Yea!! Also, they sound so interested in him and say the essay is just an exercise for the student, not the administration. He is using this opportunity to write a book. Can't say what yet. It will be an ebook! Mom will have to teach him how. LOL. Anyway, he had emailed this person saying that he was waiting to hear from somebody else, but he never did. She called him from. Wait for it. Polynesia. I think they want him. Now, if they want him without the application, don't you think they might want to throw him some $$? I ask, he says he doesn't think so and the tuition is $73,000. My heart sank. Could he be as dyslexic as I am? Please? DS read that again? Oh, it is $7,300 a semester and it would only be three semesters. Oh Thank G-d. Anyway, let's have some scholarship vibes for him. He is really in demand now at two grad schools. I kvell with motherly pride. I can't stand it how proud I am of him.
Kvell is a yiddish word for being so proud that you sort of overflow with happiness.
This is the only way I can explain the word. Imagine a pot of chicken soup boiling over on the stove. That's how it is.
BBL, one proud mama.

Love hearing the proud mama stories Many congrats to your son BBL

 

[Brennamom]

Good morning Pugs and B'mom!

Awww, Maxx! What happened to his leg?

B'mom, there's a single motif MOP YG Alhambra on eBay from BrandOff for $1399. It's not necessarily "estate" but it is authentic and a smidge under retail with no tax or shipping. Just an FYI.

Thanks, Restricter. He was my Jingy! I'll never love another dog like that one. I forget why he was bandaged. He has skin allergies before we got them controlled through diet and Pred, so that may have been a paw-feast where he chewed and licked it to death.

Yes! I saw the Brandoff one! Which leads me to an ethics question (or just a ): I'm torn between buying it local b/c my SA is sooo sweet and helpful and I've never given her a sale (in which I would pay tax but no shipping) or buy it off Eb or out of state and save the tax and shipping and then start saving again and eventually buy something from her (because I've been assured that you can never have just one VCA..) Thoughts? Thumps? Shooz? (duck!)

 

[pursecrzy]

Howdy-do, pursey!

Morning Mindi!

Happy Friday Purse! What's shakin'?

Not much! LOL! Trying to get myself psyched up to tackle homework.
I looked online but didn't see Whiskas crunch in Canada.

Hey OB and Bmom!

Pugs

 

[pug*shoes]

Winky's Crunchies are on their way from Jolly Old England. I swear to you, he is the World's Most Spoiled Cat.

He's probably hunched over the iPad with Jinjy right now, working on a list of stuff for me to buy him. No doubt there will be a request for Taco Bell in my mailbox later.

Can I send you a request for Taco Bell too?

Mindi, I agree with cakey about crating. Put it to your husband this way: you wouldn't let a 2 year old go through a house unsupervised. Putting them in a playpen is for their protection. And dogs actually crave the security of a den or crate. If you can't get him to agree to that, try having him on a leash tied to your belt whenever he is roaming around. But I don't think he's capable of handling the run of the house.

I also think sometimes there is a poor fit between dogs and owners. And it is possible that you and Henry would both be happier if he was in a different home. It doesn't make him a bad dog, or you a bad owner.

very well said Mistikat! (and hi! *waves*)

Hey guys =D,

I'm new around here so I dont really know how to use this forum. I was wondering if you guys could help me find the current price of the 35 cm Hermes Birkin in epsom leather, preferably in the USA as im planning on sending money to a friend to hunt the bag down for me =D

Sorry to bother you all =D

Welcome to the forum Saralove, glad Purse got you the link, enjoy browsing all the wonderful reference threads!

Morning everyone!

Mindi, I was in your exact shooz years ago when I got my Akita. He was rescued, 6 months old (the pound said 1 yr.) and a handful! He pooped/peed in his crate every day and I almost lost my mind and my DH, made at least 2 Akita trainers bonkers and came close to giving him back numerous times. I know it isn't too much of an option now due to weather, but obedience classes really saved me, and I'm talking private, with an Akita person, classes, not group or Petco (though I tried those too). I know our Park & Recs offers privates, maybe in your area too? In the end, it was all worth it and he was my best bud for 12 years. Oh, at the same time, I was dealing with a Winky situation that didn't turn out as well, if you KWIM.

Lots of stress, lots of DH yelling, lots of tears and self-flagellation, but worth every minute in hind-sight. Hugs, dear, it will get better! Maxx says so!

Oh he is gorgeous B'mom!

Good morning Pugs and B'mom!

Awww, Maxx! What happened to his leg?

B'mom, there's a single motif MOP YG Alhambra on eBay from BrandOff for $1399. It's not necessarily "estate" but it is authentic and a smidge under retail with no tax or shipping. Just an FYI.

Morning Restricter!

Purse! Morning!

 

[Mindi B]

Oh, B-Mom, thank you. Major hugs to you and Maxx!
Pugsy, he is about 7 months. Really still a puppy. And he has made so many improvements since his arrival about 5 months ago. I need to remember what a whirling dervish he was then.
restricter: You are right that the occasional thwap upside the head is called-for and helpful. I still don't like 'em, though. We are all on a continuum of social vulnerability (sometimes in different places from day to day, of course, but I mean characterologically) and I tend to be a bit thin-skinned. It's hard for me to read even a whiff of criticism without feeling both ashamed and defensive. I'm getting better, though, and I honestly give the Chat Peeps the benefit of the doubt as to motive almost all of the time. This is a good place. And yes, I did know about your kitteh triumverate even before Winky's diagnosis! Jinjy is the undisputed star of your reveals, but the other two made themselves known from time to time as well. Lovin' lion plush toys, for example.

 

[pug*shoes]

Ok, I wasn't going to post this, but maybe it will help Mindi...

Mindi, when we brought home Charles the rescue told us he was about a year (we think he's older though ). He was unfixed, untrained, terrified and a marker. About a month into having him in our home, he was still scared, still peeing/pooping inside, howling if we left him alone, crying, and Seymour seemed to think, hey if this new dog doesn't have to go potty outside in the rain, why should I?

I would lay in bed at night crying, while there was a crate crying/howling pug in the living room. SO was at the end of his rope. He was yelling at me that we needed to find the dog a new home since it was keeping me from sleeping. But that made me realize that I couldn't let this lil dude be abandoned a second time. And I had to work on me being more consistent and patient so he could feel better about where he was. It took about a year of having to have zero accidents. Lots of tears, lots of screaming (me at SO and SO at me ), lots of sitting on the floor discussing with a puglet why he thinks that the human bathroom is the only place he wants to poop (yes, I must have looked nuts)... You get the picture.

But. I wouldn't trade the lil dude for the world. As much as I joke they're for sale for a quarter.

 

[Balto Bag Lady]

Thanks, Restricter. He was my Jingy! I'll never love another dog like that one. I forget why he was bandaged. He has skin allergies before we got them controlled through diet and Pred, so that may have been a paw-feast where he chewed and licked it to death.

Yes! I saw the Brandoff one! Which leads me to an ethics question (or just a ): I'm torn between buying it local b/c my SA is sooo sweet and helpful and I've never given her a sale (in which I would pay tax but no shipping) or buy it off Eb or out of state and save the tax and shipping and then start saving again and eventually buy something from her (because I've been assured that you can never have just one VCA..) Thoughts? Thumps? Shooz? (duck!)

B'Mom, is your VCA SA from NM or the boutique itself? Because if it was/were me, I would use NM because the savings from the website is not that much less and the benefit from shopping locally is obvious -- the points from the NM card, the loyalty to your SA means something, and the tax, well that just sucks, but what are you going to do. I'm always trying to work out a big purchase in the way that's most beneficial to me and the SA. Look, if something should be wrong with the piece, you would have no recourse from a place where you can't see and touch the piece. (If you found a piece near me, I'd go check it out and they have guarantees, anyway.) But it's all up to you. This is just me. Also, does your NM have an estate department??
Oh, and this is how much of a hayseed I am, does the boutique discount any? Are there any jewelry stores that carry VCA, because they would probably discount a bit... Here I go again. Always trying to make a deal.

 

[pug*shoes]

B'mom, I think I agree with BBL. If the savings is not huge, I would like the knowledge that if something went wrong with the piece I could go back to the SA and see if they could help me out. But we'll never throw shooz at you

 

[Brennamom]

B'Mom, is your VCA SA from NM or the boutique itself? Because if it was/were me, I would use NM because the savings from the website is not that much less and the benefit from shopping locally is obvious -- the points from the NM card, the loyalty to your SA means something, and the tax, well that just sucks, but what are you going to do. I'm always trying to work out a big purchase in the way that's most beneficial to me and the SA. Look, if something should be wrong with the piece, you would have no recourse from a place where you can't see and touch the piece. (If you found a piece near me, I'd go check it out and they have guarantees, anyway.) But it's all up to you. This is just me. Also, does your NM have an estate department??
Oh, and this is how much of a hayseed I am, does the boutique discount any? Are there any jewelry stores that carry VCA, because they would probably discount a bit... Here I go again. Always trying to make a deal.

Hi BBL! "My" Sa () is in the VCA boutique, but my NM also has a VCA dept (though they aren't as friendly). I've thought about NM and points, but I will never reach the status that gets you anything (10K) so that doesn't sway me one way or the other. You do make an excellent point about something going wrong, which keeps me from EB. The fine jewelry stores I've been looking at are all VCA-authorized, so no discount, which is why I wanted to try estate/pre-owned. If I've learned anything from H, it's that trade-ups are frequent, I just have to find one that was a casualty of that.

And trust me, nothing wrong with trying to make a deal! I don't operate any other way!

 

[Brennamom]

B'mom, I think I agree with BBL. If the savings is not huge, I would like the knowledge that if something went wrong with the piece I could go back to the SA and see if they could help me out. But we'll never throw shooz at you

Thanks Pugs!!

Saw this today, thought of you!

 

[pug*shoes]

Thanks Pugs!!

Saw this today, thought of you!
imgsrv.gocomics.com/dim/?fh=1a1de0ca049af635acb5a2882ba27298

LMAO! Oh I love it!!! Thank you!

 

[Balto Bag Lady]

Ok, I wasn't going to post this, but maybe it will help Mindi...

Mindi, when we brought home Charles the rescue told us he was about a year (we think he's older though ). He was unfixed, untrained, terrified and a marker. About a month into having him in our home, he was still scared, still peeing/pooping inside, howling if we left him alone, crying, and Seymour seemed to think, hey if this new dog doesn't have to go potty outside in the rain, why should I?

I would lay in bed at night crying, while there was a crate crying/howling pug in the living room. SO was at the end of his rope. He was yelling at me that we needed to find the dog a new home since it was keeping me from sleeping. But that made me realize that I couldn't let this lil dude be abandoned a second time. And I had to work on me being more consistent and patient so he could feel better about where he was. It took about a year of having to have zero accidents. Lots of tears, lots of screaming (me at SO and SO at me ), lots of sitting on the floor discussing with a puglet why he thinks that the human bathroom is the only place he wants to poop (yes, I must have looked nuts)... You get the picture.

But. I wouldn't trade the lil dude for the world. As much as I joke they're for sale for a quarter.

Would that be the pair or you wouldn't break up a pair of bookends, would you???
Just kidding.
My guys are crated when we leave the house. Just can't trust them alone. Well, there have been a few times that we forgot to latch the crate and we were welcomed home to nothing but two happy dogs. But once, we were gone an extremely long time, this was when we had Horatio and Charley was young. We pulled the car into the garage and the barking was too loud. They were right at the door. Charley was standing at the bedroom door (we had left it open) with a big yellow flashlight in his mouth and Horatio was just standing there looking guilty. Everything was fine. If you don't count the toilet papering the bedroom got! So, now, we make sure our bedroom door is closed, just in case we forget to latch the crate. Our little monkeys just go into the crate automatically if they sense that we are leaving the house. Sometimes we forget to lock the crate.
Just a silly crate story.

 

[pug*shoes]

Would that be the pair or you wouldn't break up a pair of bookends, would you???
Just kidding.
My guys are crated when we leave the house. Just can't trust them alone. Well, there have been a few times that we forgot to latch the crate and we were welcomed home to nothing but two happy dogs. But once, we were gone an extremely long time, this was when we had Horatio and Charley was young. We pulled the car into the garage and the barking was too loud. They were right at the door. Charley was standing at the bedroom door (we had left it open) with a big yellow flashlight in his mouth and Horatio was just standing there looking guilty. Everything was fine. If you don't count the toilet papering the bedroom got! So, now, we make sure our bedroom door is closed, just in case we forget to latch the crate. Our little monkeys just go into the crate automatically if they sense that we are leaving the house. Sometimes we forget to lock the crate.
Just a silly crate story.

LOL! Well catch me on certain days and it's a quarter for both

We're the same, we crate when we're gone still. They'd be fine, but they see us put on our shoes and they're already in their crates waiting for their cookies. It's become their lil safe haven.

 

[pursecrzy]

LOL! Well catch me on certain days and it's a quarter for both

We're the same, we crate when we're gone still. They'd be fine, but they see us put on our shoes and they're already in their crates waiting for their cookies. It's become their lil safe haven.

That's too cute!

 

[pug*shoes]

Purse, have you gotten your homework done?