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[MSO13]

Congratulations, MrsOwen3!

I remember when you were talking about submitting the proposal. You were really enthusiastic about their values as a business. It is probably in your best interests to have gotten only 1/4 of the job. Much easier to be successful and make a good impression for future work. And a good opportunity to get more of a feel for them so you can wow them even more when they give you a second job. Congrats.

Thanks to everyone for the good wishes. I'm excited!

 

[eagle1002us]

I would have probably said something worse, like " I AM a great client, just not to you!"

And now you know why i am not into cultivating relationships with SAs [emoji1]

My feeling about that manager was that he wanted the easy sale. Didn't want to work too hard. Preferred to sell to people with a chunk of change. He was lazy. He expected an easy sale and when he didn't get it he was rude.

 

[eagle1002us]

I don't buy a lot of items, maybe 1-2 pieces a year if that, so it's tough to develop a relationship with SAs unless they are ok with that. The ones that do, and aren't pushy, and still somewhat remember me are worth going back to.

I can't say anyone has been horrendously rude, except one SA at Gucci who snottily told me they never get any shoes below 38. I told her, that's why I shop elsewhere.

But I still recall my experience at Tiffanys about a decade ago. I was in the rattiest sweatshirt ever, and shabby jeans and decided to look at their silver jewelry. Along the way, a gorgeous Tahitian pearl and diamond necklace caught my eye and I stopped to admire it. I still remember how the SA took it out for me to try - it was insanely expensive, but she never made me feel like I couldn't afford it, even as it sat on the rattiest sweatshirt, she smiled and said, "perhaps someday"

That was a great experience with the SA! I remember being in Tiffany's and asking to see the pink sapphire and the SA told me that was the correct term for the stone (as I figured it was). He showed me the ring, no pressure, it was a very pleasant experience. Similar to yours, Genie.

 

[EmileH]

Still biting my tongue. Not because anyone has said anything offensive. But because I have mixed feelings on the topic.

Anyway, how about that Brad and Angelina.....

 

[Mindi B]

Not really a surprise, sadly. Does anyone give odds on prolonged marriages among celebrities? Their successful 10-year cohabitation was rather the surprise. Just hope they conduct themselves well for the childrens' sake.

 

[EmileH]

Not really a surprise, sadly. Does anyone give odds on prolonged marriages among celebrities? Their successful 10-year cohabitation was rather the surprise. Just hope they conduct themselves well for the childrens' sake.

Yeah. And even if they are not a celebrity a guy who cheats on one wife is highly likely to cheat on the next. Add in the fact that the guy is Brad Pitt and I think probability increases 100 fold.

 

[MadMadCat]

Yeah. And even if they are not a celebrity a guy who cheats on one wife is highly likely to cheat on the next. Add in the fact that the guy is Brad Pitt and I think probability increases 100 fold.

I met Angelina several years ago, because of my line of work and her humanitarian involvement.

We did not engage at length but the "vibe" i got from her was strange...she had an obsessive, "intense" approach to everything. At times it even felt not genuine, although i cannot say for certain that it was.

I have the same "vibe" when I deal with people who have a specific disorder associated to lack of empathy: when they are aware of it, they "overcompensate" without really having a measure of what "feels" right to other people.

I don't know him at all and i don't follow the gossips, but she always gave me the creeps. Again, very personal opinion that may be wrong.

 

[EmileH]

I met Angelina several years ago, because of my line of work and her humanitarian involvement.

We did not engage at length but the "vibe" i got from her was strange...she had an obsessive, "intense" approach to everything. At times it even felt not genuine, although i cannot say for certain that it was.

I have the same "vibe" when I deal with people who have a specific disorder associated to lack of empathy: when they are aware of it, they "overcompensate" without really having a measure of what "feels" right to other people.

I don't know him at all and i don't follow the gossips, but she always gave me the creeps. Again, very personal opinion that may be wrong.

Oh well, too bad for any family to go through a split. She has certainly not had an easy life.

 

[Mindi B]

I think it is safe to assume that Ms. Jolie is an outlier on the personality bell curve. I believe that the sorts of personalities that are (1) raised in celebrity families, as she was; and/or (2) are attracted to the performing arts--she's a double dipper here--have some personality traits (disorders?) that set them apart. Your observation of the overcompensation effect is fascinating, MadMadCat. That sort of interpersonal tone-deafness is seen among Narcissists. . . .
I'm not a practicing psychologist, but I play one on tPF.

 

[Mindi B]

I don't disagree that her life has been complex and not infrequently painful, emotionally and physically. But her fame and wealth and the power these convey has made her road, even when it is a bumpy one, much easier to navigate than the same path would be for an "ordinary" person. I'm afraid my sympathy for (most) celebrity travails is spread rather thin. . . .

 

[EmileH]

I don't disagree that her life has been complex and not infrequently painful, emotionally and physically. But her fame and wealth and the power these convey has made her road, even when it is a bumpy one, much easier to navigate than the same path would be for an "ordinary" person. I'm afraid my sympathy for (most) celebrity travails is spread rather thin. . . .

I have never been a big fan. I gained some respect when she came out and discussed her experience with her double mastectomy. True there was somewhat of a narcissistic tone but her speaking up about it was a big help to many women that I know.

 

[MadMadCat]

Oh well, too bad for any family to go through a split. She has certainly not had an easy life.

Absolutely, it is always sad.

 

[MadMadCat]

I think it is safe to assume that Ms. Jolie is an outlier on the personality bell curve. I believe that the sorts of personalities that are (1) raised in celebrity families, as she was; and/or (2) are attracted to the performing arts--she's a double dipper here--have some personality traits (disorders?) that set them apart. Your observation of the overcompensation effect is fascinating, MadMadCat. That sort of interpersonal tone-deafness is seen among Narcissists. . . .
I'm not a practicing psychologist, but I play one on tPF.

I am not a therapist, either. I wouldn't dare making a professional diagnosis, mine is just an impression based on life experience. Unfortunately someone who has a disorder associated to lack of empathy is the partner of a very close family member.. Lack of empathy also shows in the absence of sense of humor, which to me is a capital crime

 

[Mindi B]

Oh, MMC, I COMPLETELY agree with that. (Not that you could tell from my posts. . . .)
A friend, years ago, married a woman with NO. Sense. Of. Humor. And, of course, she also had no truck with humor's close associates--whimsy, sarcasm, irony, etc. I literally could not speak with her. We did not communicate in a mutually-comprehensible language. Encounters with her were bizarre. And terse.

 

[cremel]

Still biting my tongue. Not because anyone has said anything offensive. But because I have mixed feelings on the topic.

Anyway, how about that Brad and Angelina.....

They have half a dozen kids to take care and the kids come from various background. I really hope they take the responsibility and do well on that end.

I never thought things would work out between them. It was always shaky.