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Does she have a maid that does the starching and pressing? I wish I had the gene that motivates people to impeccable grooming.

She does. And that certainly helps! Along with ramrod straight posture.

No boots or brown leather in town? That's a sartorial convention or "rule"? Other than that, it's really nice to see people who have put some care into their appearance. That's why I like going to NY. Everything tidy and well-thought out is, frankly, inspirational.
I try to put together what I'm going to wear to work the evening before. It's complicated: it can include coordinating tights (if dress is short or weather is mild), purse color (if I get to it, that's usually last on the list and never gets done), shoes (not too much choice here, thankfully), beaded necklace and/or scarf, etc.

Lol! I think there are quite a few of those obscure conventions that no one knows about anymore.


Great shirt!
 
I just have difficulty with the way they are tucking in shirts today. It is supposed to look casual, but to me it looks very studied and artificial like you spent an hour in front of the mirror figuring out how to wear it . I think I am too old for this. I guess I come from the the wear it out, or tuck it all the way in school.

Insouciance! Great word. Such a French thing.
 
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I just have difficulty with the way they are tucking in shirts today. It is supposed to look casual, but to me it looks very studied and artificial like you spent an hour in front of the mirror figuring out how to wear it . I think I am too old for this. I guess I come from the the wear it out, or tuck it all the way in school.

I can't do the 1/2 tuck, it reminds me of the 80s. And I have no desire to revisit it. :no: :giggle:

Do you think all 90s are aging? I probably shouldn't worry about silks being aging as I am old. But I am the youngest old person here in senior nirvana. I am a fan of in-your-face color in more modern styles. I am hoping the bright colors in this tropical weather don't look so aging. The in-your-face color is a bit much for CSGMs on me. And the weather really limits when CSGMS can be worn, although I do love them. What I am getting at, and I do want your honest opinion--not just reassurance, is the question "are all 90s aging and if the answer is no, what do you not consider to be aging".[/user]

I don't find my 90s to be aging, although if I wear them with a scarf ring they look a bit more polished and formal. I agree with the comments stating that your overall style will definitely influence how the 90 comes across.

We're still packing and moving, I'm going to take this opportunity to count my scarves and will post later with the results. My guess is 15 or so 90s, 4 shawls, 2 pareos, 2 mousseline, 1 giant silk, and few smaller silks. Let's see how close I am.

My other 2 dresses arrived, I am now waiting on a Maison Mayle dress from Barney's. I went a bit cuckoo for dresses. I'll try to post some small pics here, the first dress is Antik Batik, 2nd is Apiece Apart (worn over an off-white J Crew tank), 3rd is Des Demoiselles, the 4th is a swimsuit coverup also by Des D, for the sake of modesty I have shown it worn over the slip that comes with dress #3. The slip is actually cute enough to wear on its own as well. Please excuse the cropping and blurring, it's a mess here at the moment. IMG_5411.jpg IMG_5412.jpg IMG_5416.jpg IMG_5417.jpg IMG_5418.jpg
 
Lovely dresses rainneday. Happy unpacking,

I agree that if your style leans toward boho, artsy etc, the scarves have less of a chance to come off as frumpy. It's very much a danger for those of us with classic somewhat conservative styles.

The snake repellant looks familiar.

Thank you! :flowers: We are still between houses until tomorrow. This is our 7th move in 5 years, you would think we would have a plan by now, ha.
I agree, exactly. When I dress in a more classic style my scarves also take on a more formal appearance. In my case, maybe a way to balance this would be to tie a more casual knot and to not use a scarf ring. I think that the entire style of a person; hair style, jewelry, make-up, posture, etc., it all adds up to become the image that we are projecting.

I counted my scarves. Eight 90s, Two 70s, 3 Gavroche, 2 Mousseline, 2 Pareos, Four 140s, 1 men's 140, One 140 Silk, 1 Bandana Twill. 24 pieces total. Here are some pictures of my H boxes packed, not only the scarf boxes but also accessories and china. The bag on top is a gift for my mom. IMG_5439.jpg IMG_5440.jpg

Ok, I need to focus on packing now, ugh. Talk to you all soon!
 
Insouciance!!! is the key word for scarf wearing. Don't make it look as if it is the most important piece you have on and you won't look old or like you are trying to hard. It has to look like you opened your drawer, grabbed a scarf and threw it on and of course it worked! Voila C'est fini!

Brilliant. I suspect I will look like I am trying to hard. But that is an improvement over looking like I am not trying at all.

I just have difficulty with the way they are tucking in shirts today. It is supposed to look casual, but to me it looks very studied and artificial like you spent an hour in front of the mirror figuring out how to wear it .

In college I was an early adopter of the torn jeans look. And fellow students would come up to me an quietly tell me my jeans were torn. If I wore my shirts tucked this way, DH would be unable to stop himself from telling me my shirt tale was out, no matter how many times we went through it.
 

Hi cordie! Firstly I have to say, I laughed out loud at the end of your post since the whole time I was reading it I was wonder why it was red and bold :lol: I felt like I was in trouble from the teacher!
A direct answer: No, not all 90's are aging. Grace said it best, throwing them on in a careless but confident manner is great at any age. Lovely color near the face can be better than foundation and lipstick. A quick peruse through the scarf of the day thread proves that many members here look fantastic in their 90's at any age. I do think that there is this nebulous time in a woman's life when you are older but not old, and younger but not young. Ines de la Fressange explains it in her book much better than I ever can, how this is a time when perhaps matching tweed suits, scarf rings and crocodile Kellys shouldn't be worn :lol:. Personally, I think I look older/frumpy when I'm out of my comfort zone and attempting to look "polished". I adore clothes and dressing well but I wouldn't say "polished" is my thing and when I try it out and tie a scarf neatly, with a colorful top, I feel like I'm dressed for Halloween.
Examples of outfits that do not work easily with H silk are the deconstructed looks I love so much from the previously mentioned Rick Owens and Ann Demeulemeester and more artistic prints from Dries Van Noten. Dip dyes are easier with these outfits and dark colors. Folding into a long bias and tying into a chocker with one long tail is a look that works well with some of these outfits, or a very loose triangle. My favorites are Mythiques Phoenix, Sieste au Paradis, Metamorphosis Le Robinson Chic and Astrologie dip dye. They get used quite often along with the solid bee jacquard losanges. A recently acquired Iris will get thrown into this well used pile soon I hope.
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I hope I'm making sense and answering your question. I'm on pain meds from oral surgery and trying to stay awake for Game of Thrones tonight.
Here are scarves I adore but literally never wear. I can't imagine parting with them though, they make me incredibly happy, they are so beautiful. One day when I am very old and want to keep my neck under wraps, they will have a chance :cool: You can see they are brighter and "prettier", (except for the two black ones, not sure why I don't wear those).
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Anyway, I hope this was helpful. Scarf journeys and collections are so personal, I think it's hard to come up with rules. It's all so emotional and intuitive.
 
the whole time I was reading it I was wonder why it was red and bold :lol: I felt like I was in trouble from the teacher!

I do think that there is this nebulous time in a woman's life when you are older but not old, and younger but not young. Ines de la Fressange explains it in her book much better than I ever can, how this is a time when perhaps matching tweed suits, scarf rings and crocodile Kellys shouldn't be worn :lol:.

Examples of outfits that do not work easily with H silk are the deconstructed looks I love so much from the previously mentioned Rick Owens and Ann Demeulemeester and more artistic prints from Dries Van Noten.

One day when I am very old and want to keep my neck under wraps, they will have a chance :cool:


What awesome answers. Thank you for taking the time to think about my questions and compose an answer. And post pictures. So sorry about the red. I am glad you got a laugh out of it.

Yes the deconstructed styles are so stylish in the minimal chic way. I can't figure out how a scarf would work with them since I am not into the dark subtle scarves. You nailed one of the problems. Maybe if I have a chat with the scarf and tell it we are going for Insouciance.

Here in heat country, not a lot of tweed and croc kellys. More sleeveless shirts, capris and orthopedic sandals. I am starting to pay attention to my neck. I figure it is good to develop the ability to wear scarves causally before I need the camouflage.

At least I have made some progress in figuring out 3 or 4 categories of style uniforms for myself for different occasions. Ordered some sleeveless sheath dresses from the Nordstrom sale. They are at our post office box waiting to be picked up Monday. The bright colored dress and a matching scarf is one category.

BTW, my next door neighbor really rocks the June Cleaver look. She has a tiny waist and a not so tiny bum and washable shirtwaist dresses is what she wears to walk the dog or to pry up tile in her son's new house. The style is cool and comfy in the heat and it hides her least favorite part of her body. She is 59 and does not look old at all. Polished and causal. Since I have a big waist and small hips, that look doesn't work for me.
 
Dharma I love these shoes! I have been looking for a comfortable lace up style. These might be perfect. Do let me know if you see them in the US. I still love the 3.9 inch ones too.
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You are probably right that I could recreate this look in five minutes with what I already have. For sure I wouldn't look like the model but it would be a good look for me. My pieces probably don't have as much flare as her white shirt. I should probably stop looking for the plain vanilla versions of classic pieces thinking they will be the most versatile. I have enough plain vanilla.

The scarves really are such beautiful temptations but in the end maybe not the best choices. Time for me to step away from the scarf counter.
Have you looked at Church's shoes for lace ups? Incredibly comfortable and beautifully made. And easy on the wallet compared to H and Chanel. I might look at them for monk straps if I don't get the H ones.
What a twilly collection !!! My goodness!! Those little buggers are hard to get and generally seem to sell for more than retail on the second hand market. I have only just discovered this fact as I've been looking for the perfect twilly for my new barenia. As a person that dislikes dressing up bags, this is a tough process for me, try to find a twilly for someone that dislikes twillys:lol: I would like to keep this handle from getting too black, too fast, so I would like one for half the time:rolleyes:
Do you have suggestions based on what works for your Gold bag?
 
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