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[Notorious Pink]

I found it interesting that BCC has bought between 240-300 scarves and has sold almost as many reducing her collection to about 10 scarves. Since I am trying to keep my collection small, I felt inspired that someone who could have 300 scarves has 10 in order to make sure she only has stuff she wears. But it was also a touch scary to hear her say that some of them she wished she still had.

I really started buying scarves when I graduated from law school and didn't have a whole lot of variety when it came to clothes, jewelry, bags and other accessories. At the time the scarves filled both a wardrobe void for appearing professional and also something pretty and fun to wear. After having children and changing wardrobe priorities over the years, I don't need them as much. I love wearing jewelry, especially necklaces, and often the scarves will compete. And then also sometimes I sell in order to fund other purchases.

My regrets are very few and often due to a bit of forgetfulness. For example, my first impulse is to say I regret selling the Toutsy Central Park, but really I shouldn't wear much green around my face. Indeed HAVE made the mistake of rebuying something I sold, realizing why I sold it in the fist place, and selling it again!!! I am not a collector and at this point I don't need many - I am actually selling a few now and when I am done I will be down to one cashmere, one of the men's wool/silk GMs (Route 24 [emoji177]) two scarves (both Jardin Anglais) and a maxi Twilly, plus eight pairs of Twillies which I use for my bags. Especially as it's summer I really don't wear my scarves much, if at all.

I am nearly done with bags as well....I love nice things but I really don't need too many of anything. Next I am focusing on jewelry! [emoji33]

PS about the red headed centipede - I did click on the link - did no one notice the comment where someone said something like "my daughter picked one up, as she mistook it for her headband"??!?!??

 

[Mindi B]

I didn't read that, BBC. I was too fixated on the beastie itself.
Gawd, that poor child is probably still fighting the PTSD. But I can understand her mistake. It abolutely looks like a plastic thingamie from the novelty store. From Hell.

 

[EmileH]

BBC I didn't read that but I have a hard time believing that anyone picked one up. Each leg is a stinger and as soon as you pick it up it wraps around whatever you use to pick it up. But enough about bugs.

It really makes sense to rehome things that we don't use any more. Even better not to buy them and waste the money for me.

Cordie I sold most of my gavroches. I tell myself that the twillies are useful for my bags but in reality I never Twilly my bags with the exception of my GT if I'm afraid to get it dirty. I suppose I'm a minimalist in that way.

I probably have $4000 in twillies [emoji849]

 

[Genie27]

Twilly hell. Is it part of your retirement fund?

I found that I prefer scarves as outer wear accent rather than part of an outfit. Back in the 90s I had a navy jacket and pants and I used a green/yellow silk chiffon scarf as an accent. I thought it looked great. If I wore plain suits, I would wear scarves to soften them. But I'm a separates or dresses kinda gal and I don't need any extra filling on my upper torso.

I've used a 90 as a belt and I liked it but the rest of the outfit was very plain.

 

[EmileH]

Twilly hell. Is it part of your retirement fund?

I found that I prefer scarves as outer wear accent rather than part of an outfit. Back in the 90s I had a navy jacket and pants and I used a green/yellow silk chiffon scarf as an accent. I thought it looked great.

I've used a 90 as a belt and I liked it but the rest of the outfit was very plain.

[emoji23]

 

[prepster]

I really started buying scarves when I graduated from law school and didn't have a whole lot of variety when it came to clothes, jewelry, bags and other accessories. At the time the scarves filled both a wardrobe void for appearing professional and also something pretty and fun to wear. After having children and changing wardrobe priorities over the years, I don't need them as much. I love wearing jewelry, especially necklaces, and often the scarves will compete. And then also sometimes I sell in order to fund other purchases.

My regrets are very few and often due to a bit of forgetfulness. For example, my first impulse is to say I regret selling the Toutsy Central Park, but really I shouldn't wear much green around my face. Indeed HAVE made the mistake of rebuying something I sold, realizing why I sold it in the fist place, and selling it again!!! I am not a collector and at this point I don't need many - I am actually selling a few now and when I am done I will be down to one cashmere, one of the men's wool/silk GMs (Route 24

) two scarves (both Jardin Anglais) and a maxi Twilly, plus eight pairs of Twillies which I use for my bags. Especially as it's summer I really don't wear my scarves much, if at all.

I am nearly done with bags as well....I love nice things but I really don't need too many of anything. Next I am focusing on jewelry!

PS about the red headed centipede - I did click on the link - did no one notice the comment where someone said something like "my daughter picked one up, as she mistook it for her headband"??!?!??

I love hearing about everyone's streamlining experiences, as I've been doing that myself for a few years.

 

[Cordeliere]

I probably have $4000 in twillies [emoji849]

If you are ever trapped upstairs in a fire, you will be able to make an escape rope from your twillies. That is a good excuse to keep them.

 

[prepster]

I think one of the tricks to keeping scarves current is to wear them in an off-hand way with modern shapes so they don't look too precious. Mai Tai is a good example.

On the other hand, I have a friend that looks like Princess Grace and she just rolls with it--very ladylike and regal. She doesn't wear tunics. She is always seen in pearls, a chignon, a jacket or vest and a brooch. She usually has a scarf tucked into her blouse or jacket or wears them ala Jackie Kennedy around her head with gigantic sunglasses. In the Fall and Winter she wears tweeds. She would never wear boots or brown leather in town or diamonds before six. Everything is tucked, pressed and starched, and she looks amazing (and imperturbable). She makes no effort to look young or modern. There's something very appealing and oddly relaxing about that.

 

[Cordeliere]

I think one of the tricks to keeping scarves current is to wear them in an off-hand way with modern shapes so they don't look too precious. Mai Tai is a good example.

On the other hand, I have a friend that looks like Princess Grace and she just rolls with it--very ladylike and regal. She doesn't wear tunics. She is always seen in pearls, a chignon, a jacket or vest and a brooch. She usually has a scarf tucked into her blouse or jacket or wears them ala Jackie Kennedy around her head with gigantic sunglasses. In the Fall and Winter she wears tweeds. She would never wear boots or brown leather in town or diamonds before six. Everything is tucked, pressed and starched, and she looks amazing (and imperturbable). She makes no effort to look young or modern. There's something very appealing and oddly relaxing about that.

Does she have a maid that does the starching and pressing? I wish I had the gene that motivates people to impeccable grooming.

 

[eagle1002us]

I figured out several formulas that work well for me. It's a work in progress.
1. Distinctive jacket and a large format silk or cashmere in a simple low contrast design for work in fall or winter.
2. Dress with a 90 or a mousseline for spring and summer.
3. Jeans, cardigan and a large format silk or cashmere for casual winter wear. Add an Hermes belt.
4. Maxitwilly to define my waist on the underlayer of a cardigan set.
5. Large format scarf in a long bias fold over almost anything for any season. It gives me the long look that I crave.

And gasp: [emoji33] sometimes it's just a better look without a scarf at all or just needs a solid colored cashmere scarf which I generally buy from Eric bompard.

I really tend toward the large format scarves now. 90s are very tricky to wear without being aging. And I love the 70s but I find myself just not wearing them. Twillies and gavroche s are a complete waste of money for me.

Not to disagree but simply to inquire how the 90's can be aging?

 

[EmileH]

Google Jackie the mother in law from the good wife.

 

[eagle1002us]

I think one of the tricks to keeping scarves current is to wear them in an off-hand way with modern shapes so they don't look too precious. Mai Tai is a good example.

On the other hand, I have a friend that looks like Princess Grace and she just rolls with it--very ladylike and regal. She doesn't wear tunics. She is always seen in pearls, a chignon, a jacket or vest and a brooch. She usually has a scarf tucked into her blouse or jacket or wears them ala Jackie Kennedy around her head with gigantic sunglasses. In the Fall and Winter she wears tweeds. She would never wear boots or brown leather in town or diamonds before six. Everything is tucked, pressed and starched, and she looks amazing (and imperturbable). She makes no effort to look young or modern. There's something very appealing and oddly relaxing about that.

No boots or brown leather in town? That's a sartorial convention or "rule"? Other than that, it's really nice to see people who have put some care into their appearance. That's why I like going to NY. Everything tidy and well-thought out is, frankly, inspirational.
I try to put together what I'm going to wear to work the evening before. It's complicated: it can include coordinating tights (if dress is short or weather is mild), purse color (if I get to it, that's usually last on the list and never gets done), shoes (not too much choice here, thankfully), beaded necklace and/or scarf, etc.

 

[lulilu]

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Love. I'd wear them with leather pants and a flowy white shirt with no jewelry. They would be the accessory. Lol! With 4" heels I'd also be sitting a lot! Not exactly a work look, but fun for weekends. They would also look great with a super slim skirt and sleek black turtleneck. Lafayette148 has slim black suede cropped pants on clearance. Maybe those and a more simple black silk shirt left out...

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This similar white shirt just came across my FB feed: https://www.thisisaday.com/?utm_sou...medium=ps#!/products/something-borrowed-shirt

 

[gracekelly]

Not to disagree but simply to inquire how the 90's can be aging?

I don't feel that way and I think it all depends on how you tie it and how it is working with the rest of your outfit, hair and make-up. French women wear them every day young and old.

Google Jackie the mother in law from the good wife.

Oh you mean Jackie! Jacket had every hair in place and was a woman who represented a certain period of time i.e. Leave it to Beaver June Cleaver who vacuumed in her shirtwaist dress and heels. They wanted a stultified look for her.

Insouciance!!! is the key word for scarf wearing. Don't make it look as if it is the most important piece you have on and you won't look old or like you are trying to hard. It has to look like you opened your drawer, grabbed a scarf and threw it on and of course it worked! Voila C'est fini!

 

[gracekelly]

This similar white shirt just came across my FB feed: https://www.thisisaday.com/?utm_sou...medium=ps#!/products/something-borrowed-shirt

I just have difficulty with the way they are tucking in shirts today. It is supposed to look casual, but to me it looks very studied and artificial like you spent an hour in front of the mirror figuring out how to wear it . I think I am too old for this. I guess I come from the the wear it out, or tuck it all the way in school.