Lupita Nyong'o said it perfectly. These two parts especially.
"What I am most interested in now is combating the shame we go through that keeps us isolated and allows for harm to continue to be done. I wish I had known that there were women in the business I could have talked to. I wish I had known that there were ears to hear me. That justice could be served. There is clearly power in numbers. I thank the women who have spoken up and given me the strength to revisit this unfortunate moment in my past."
"I hope we can form a community where a woman can speak up about abuse and not suffer another abuse by not being believed and instead being ridiculed. That’s why we don’t speak up — for fear of suffering twice, and for fear of being labeled and characterized by our moment of powerlessness. "
These are the reasons why many women don't speak up. Because they felt isolated, powerless and the fear of not being believed. Telling these women why they didn't speak up to stop the abuse, I think, adds insult to injury. Instead of blaming the the predator, we also cast blame on women who ARE victims themselves.
