Friends Chat Thread: Wardrobe, Fun, and Whatever

[Genie27]

So how do you ladies respond when someone (a polite stranger/acquaintance) comes over and compliments you on something you’re wearing (that is expensive but not brand-identified) and *asks where it’s from?*

Does one deflect? Does one inform? Does that end up coming across as snobby or snooty?

(We ask provenance here on TPF all the time, but I feel that is more a technical question)

 

[gracekelly]

So how do you ladies respond when someone (a polite stranger/acquaintance) comes over and compliments you on something you’re wearing (that is expensive but not brand-identified) and *asks where it’s from?*

Does one deflect? Does one inform? Does that end up coming across as snobby or snooty?

(We ask provenance here on TPF all the time, but I feel that is more a technical question)

It depends on where you found it. If a dept store, that is easy and just tell them. eBay or another pre-loved site is more problematic. People tend to look at you cross-eyed when you tell them eBay or wherever. I would just say that I found it during one of my trips and you don't recall the name of the boutique. I doubt the person will push you for more.

 

[pigleto972001]

Interesting question genie. Today someone at work asked me what watch I was wearing. I didn’t feel comfortable answering it was Cartier so when I was asked if it was bulova I said yes.

I have had quite a few compliments on my vca bracelet and many people ask if it came from “my home country.” I tell them neimans.

 

[gracekelly]

Interesting question genie. Today someone at work asked me what watch I was wearing. I didn’t feel comfortable answering it was Cartier so when I was asked if it was bulova I said yes.

I have had quite a few compliments on my vca bracelet and many people ask if it came from “my home country.” I tell them neimans.

According to one of my nieces, Neiman Marcus is my home country

If someone asks me and they are totally off the mark and offer a brand other than the one I am wearing and it is at a lower price point, I tend to just smile and nod my head. As a result, there are a group of people out there who think that a Kelly is made by Coach.

 

[klynneann]

I wore a black Chanel jacket to work a few weeks ago. The receptionist, who apparently has an eye for these things, complimented me on how well the jacket fit and asked what it was. She already knows I do some high-end shopping as our packages come across her desk and she always wants to know what I got from NM (that's a whole other story). Anyway, I didn't want to tell her as she is known to run her mouth, so I said I wasn't sure and that I had gotten it from a consignment store. She said it must be good it fits so well, let's see, and before I could react, she reached around and flipped over my collar!! She gushed for a minute over it being Chanel to which I replied that I had gotten really lucky at that consignment store and then walked away. This woman has a known problem with boundaries, but I never expected that.

 

[Moirai]

You got the knit set! So glad it worked out You look very pretty.

Thank you, Nicole. I remembered pigleto had a set and I was glad to hear she liked hers. I had forgotten you have a set too. Now that I think about it, quite a few lovely tpf Chanel ladies do too. If you have other ideas on wearing the set, let me know.

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Love the skirt with the shoes.

Are you joking?! I’m turning 48 this year, Duran Duran was my teenage years

Thank you for the nice words ladies. I’m relieved that someone likes my shoes because my family hate them. I love the soft fox lining, they are so kind to my feet and so comfortable

Dharma, love the coat. Will need to look closer at DVN
PT, I always admired people who could put together outfits in such a stylish way. I could never do this

Haha, I'm not too far from you. You look great!

Really? Very proud you think so.

On the way to work a Russian insisted and gave me his seat.

Horrible man pushed me and tried to trip me on the way home at the station. He was even more upset when I was too quick for him and jumped over his leg. So he called me a 'female dog' and once at a safe distance (coz I was feeling this guy's crazy vibes) I went "woof, woof".

Looking a certain way affects others in strange ways.

Incredible how rude people can be! I'm glad you're not hurt, and that was a smart comeback.

PT, glad you're ok!!! In my younger braver days I would have (and did [emoji51]) engage with crazy....probably lucky that nothing ever happened. I do admire your reaction though and wish I was there with you to woof along!!!

I really appreciate all the lovely compliments on my opera outfit. Like I said, I LOOOOOOOVE an opportunity to dress, and yes there were a few 'schlubs' in the audience but most were dressed nicely and some quite fancy like me.

Sheikha I love your outfit (gorgeous as always) and definitely your shoes and of course Duran Duran!!! My first favorite band when I was 12 [emoji173]️[emoji177][emoji173]️

Tired this morning...Jack had a full-body allergic reaction to amoxicillin in the middle of the night last night. Poor kid was itching and red all over from scratching, so we took a 3am drive to the pharmacy for Benadryl. Ugh. His method for waking me is to hit the alert button in "Find My IPhone" so from a dead sleep I jump up to a loud series of pings from my iPad....well, it is effective. But I think today we will both be a mess.

Glad he's doing better. That is scary. I am paranoid about not being able to immediately treat an allergic reaction and prevent it from progressing, so I always have benadryl in the house and carry a couple pills in my bag.

Interesting question genie. Today someone at work asked me what watch I was wearing. I didn’t feel comfortable answering it was Cartier so when I was asked if it was bulova I said yes.

I have had quite a few compliments on my vca bracelet and many people ask if it came from “my home country.” I tell them neimans.

LOL! Good one!

According to one of my nieces, Neiman Marcus is my home country

LOL! Another good one!

 

[nicole0612]

I wore a black Chanel jacket to work a few weeks ago. The receptionist, who apparently has an eye for these things, complimented me on how well the jacket fit and asked what it was. She already knows I do some high-end shopping as our packages come across her desk and she always wants to know what I got from NM (that's a whole other story). Anyway, I didn't want to tell her as she is known to run her mouth, so I said I wasn't sure and that I had gotten it from a consignment store. She said it must be good it fits so well, let's see, and before I could react, she reached around and flipped over my collar!! She gushed for a minute over it being Chanel to which I replied that I had gotten really lucky at that consignment store and then walked away. This woman has a known problem with boundaries, but I never expected that.

That is appalling! Was it your gorgeous black jacket with white trim?
I have had people do the same to me, but only when the jacket is draped over my arm or a chair, and it still feels very violating!
Of course people also reach over and touch my hair which is also hard to wrap my mind around.

 

[Moirai]

I've had friends and strangers ask about my B and H bracelets. I tell them it's H. They give me a blind stare and I just smile.

 

[Moirai]

I wore a black Chanel jacket to work a few weeks ago. The receptionist, who apparently has an eye for these things, complimented me on how well the jacket fit and asked what it was. She already knows I do some high-end shopping as our packages come across her desk and she always wants to know what I got from NM (that's a whole other story). Anyway, I didn't want to tell her as she is known to run her mouth, so I said I wasn't sure and that I had gotten it from a consignment store. She said it must be good it fits so well, let's see, and before I could react, she reached around and flipped over my collar!! She gushed for a minute over it being Chanel to which I replied that I had gotten really lucky at that consignment store and then walked away. This woman has a known problem with boundaries, but I never expected that.

She was very rude. Sorry that happened to you.

 

[nicole0612]

When people ask me where something is from, I’m with Grace; I usually say Nordstrom or Neiman Marcus. Then I turn the topic to a compliment on what they are wearing and people are usually glad to change the subject to themself. I don’t usually substitute in a different brand, because I have been surprised by how often people know these brands, regardless of their income level. I think it might be due to social media or fashion magazines. I was riding up in the elevator the other day wearing a VCA pendant and the woman riding with me *grabbed it* and said it was beautiful and asked where it was from. I said thanks and that I got it from Neiman Marcus. She smiled and said, “It’s VCA!” I just smiled back, but I’m glad I didn’t say some other brand in that case.

 

[katekluet]

I say it was a gift, that ends it.

 

[klynneann]

That is appalling! Was it your gorgeous black jacket with white trim?
I have had people do the same to me, but only when the jacket is draped over my arm or a chair, and it still feels very violating!
Of course people also reach over and touch my hair which is also hard to wrap my mind around.

Yes! Isn't that crazy? I can't believe people reach over and touch your hair!! I mean, I'm definitely a tactile person, but if I want to touch something, I always ask first. It's like when people reach over and touch a pregnant woman's stomach - boundaries people!

 

[klynneann]

She was very rude. Sorry that happened to you.

Thanks, Moirai. It was really surprising.

 

[cafecreme15]

I say it was a gift, that ends it.

This is my go-to as well!

 

[Genie27]

I wore a black Chanel jacket to work a few weeks ago. The receptionist, who apparently has an eye for these things, complimented me on how well the jacket fit and asked what it was. She already knows I do some high-end shopping as our packages come across her desk and she always wants to know what I got from NM (that's a whole other story). Anyway, I didn't want to tell her as she is known to run her mouth, so I said I wasn't sure and that I had gotten it from a consignment store. She said it must be good it fits so well, let's see, and before I could react, she reached around and flipped over my collar!! She gushed for a minute over it being Chanel to which I replied that I had gotten really lucky at that consignment store and then walked away. This woman has a known problem with boundaries, but I never expected that.

Omg!! My situation was not this crazy! The woman was a vendor at a trade show, so I will never see her again, but she admired my dress and asked where I got it. I never thought of saying something like Saks or NM, as those stores have a wide range of brands. I will have to remember that. I was like “oh, it’s Chanel/LV/Prada, from a few years ago” but I always feel weird when I’ve used that line with a comparative stranger. With friends, depending on their interest in fashion I either say what it is, or deflect.

The Saks/NM line is a good viable one.