Would you please explain to me why you have a baby with your SO when you are not married? My male cousin is doing this and I just don't understand it. They just had a second baby last month. When I ask why they aren't married, he just says they don't feel like it and changes the subject. They live in a state that does not recognize "common law" marriage. The house is in his name only. That means if he breaks up with her, he gets the house and only owes her child support if he gets less than half custody. No alimony. Even if they have been together for years and years. I think I would understand if they signed a contract about what would happen if they split up. But they don't feel like doing that, either. I'm not asking about religious reasons to marry or not marry. If the couple is gay, that makes sense. They aren't allowed to marry in most states. But I would hope they would have some sort of "what if" contract. My cousing isn't a bad guy but he is lazy. So why would the SO/Mom put herself in that vulnerable position? I know that SOs having kids is getting more and more popular. So there must be a reason. It's like there is an elephant in my livingroom and I just don't see it. Would someone please explain to me why having a baby with an SO without being married is a good idea? Thanks!!!!!