Fake Birkin for Christmas

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U r using yr behaviour & expectations on yr husband. U expect him to know fakes vs real, Google etc on smart phone.
Did he said he get u a Birkin or he said a bag?
Chances is he isn’t aware it’s fake or he sees no big deal,abt bags.

We always get angry or disappointed over expectations .....

But end of the day I think it’s not wise to be angry or spoil a relationship because of a bag.


....oh it’s fake thread?
 
Umm...the OP put down that he has a 2019 Porsche, which starts at $91,000 in the US. A 30 Birkin, even a brand spanking bought-at-the-flagship one, goes around $12-20,000. I think he'd be able to afford it.

OP needs to take previous posters' advice on this one and be grateful for the blessings available to her, and realize that he may or may not know the intricacies of shopping for Hermes. Perhaps have him read up on it on this forum?.

very few people go and plunk down 120k for a new car. They generally finance them just like the masses finance a Toyota or a Chevy. Yes, there are people who pay cash for their luxury cars, but just seeing someone’s car doesn’t mean they can afford a 15k purse, they could very well be living paycheck to paycheck, crazy as it sounds.
 
I think there’s an unwarranted harshness against OP here. Her real concern isn’t the bag. She said herself it’s about her SO’s actions and feelings towards her (as if he was trying to fool her). Is he trying to manipulate or deceive her by giving her a fake? Or does the fact that he gave her a fake means that he values her less if he did it knowingly? Those are entirely valid concerns. She just wanted to know the best way to approach him about it.
Thank you for understanding. That’s exactly what I wanted to know.
Her concern is more about the price tag and value she feels her husband has associated with her based on the items he buys her.

That's problematic on so many levels.
Her concern is more about the price tag and value she feels her husband has associated with her based on the items he buys her.

That's problematic on so many levels.

That’s exactly what doesn’t concern me. I never asked about that purse, nor do I care about the price tag. The reason I got so offended is because I would never buy a fake item for anyone including myself, I believe you have to own who you are. If I can’t afford to buy a Chanel purse at the moment, I won’t buy a fake one just to “impress” others I’m fine with Zara purse.
If you want a Birkin, buy it yourself. You've got your Columbia degree, make it happen. You shouldn't expect to be gifted one.

I'm curious, what would happen if you buy your husband something he wants but is fake? How would he react?

Would never buy a fake item. I’m fine with being who I am and if I can’t afford something then I don’t need to make a fool out of myself trying to “impress” others. I’m fine rocking a Zara purse.
 
OP. So glad you
Thank you for understanding. That’s exactly what I wanted to know.



That’s exactly what doesn’t concern me. I never asked about that purse, nor do I care about the price tag. The reason I got so offended is because I would never buy a fake item for anyone including myself, I believe you have to own who you are. If I can’t afford to buy a Chanel purse at the moment, I won’t buy a fake one just to “impress” others I’m fine with Zara purse.


Would never buy a fake item. I’m fine with being who I am and if I can’t afford something then I don’t need to make a fool out of myself trying to “impress” others. I’m fine rocking a Zara purse.

OP. So glad you returned to this thread. I think your husband does not know you well enough and this may be a good time to educate him on your value system.

TBH. I would be pissed too especially if I thought my husband was intentionally trying to fool me. I would also be pissed if I knew he could afford one and was being stingy with my gift while being generous with himself (like buying expensive cars).

Have you spoken to him yet about it? What did he say?
 
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Merry Xmas Madamvong - I can understand your disappointment in being given a fake Birkin by your husband but instead of looking at this from a negative perspective, try and see some positives in this situation 1)Your husband listens. Half of the husbands of the women on this forum wouldn’t know Birkin from Firkin. 2) He has probably heard you detailing your frustration in trying to get a Birkin and he went out of his way to solve the problem. 3) He may not have realized that you would detest a fake so intensely. 4) Those Super fakes are so good, he probably thought he was saving you a lot of money. Unless there are other problems, stay positive and keep plotting like the rest of us on how to get your Birkin. Good Luck!
She just mentioned that she doesn't even want a Birkin but a LV duffle.
 
It seems to me to be a very clear issue.

If he could afford the real thing and knew the difference between real and fake but actively chose to buy a fake, then you have every reason to be hurt. He was being selfish and inconsiderate. Tons of red flags there.

If he didn’t know it was a fake / didn’t understand how you feel about fakes / didn’t get the issue with fakes / bought a fake because he couldn’t afford the real thing and - most importantly - was trying to make you happy, then you are a jerk to be angry. These scenarios call for a loving thank you and then education about bags.

In either case, why aren’t you talking to him instead of us? You’re (seemingly newly) married. Time to develop the healthy lines of communication that will sustain a marriage over a lifetime
 
Madamvong, given what you say about living in Tribeca (I know the area well), I think it is possible that he knew it was fake and understand why you feel disappointed. I would be in the same situation, and I think some others have a been a bit too harsh on you. From experience, though, I can say that your husband may not have realized how upsetting a fake would be to you. I bought a Delvaux on eBay a couple of years ago that turned out to be a fake. It was so good that the people at Delvaux marveled at the quality; the problem was that Delvaux never actually made the color and style that I bought. When I told my SO about this, he truly didn't understand why I wouldn't keep the fake. If it looks so good that people can't tell, he thought, then I should be happy that I found such a great replica at a fraction of the cost of the real thing. He didn't get why I would spend thousands more for the real thing, and frankly, it is pretty hard to explain. eBay acknowledged that it was a fake after I verified that fact and I had to destroy the bag. My SO thought it was a shame that I couldn't at least donate it to my local Salvation Army or give it away to a friend and I get that--it was stunning! At bottom, it may not reflect his feelings about you, but rather his feelings about what a nice handbag should cost.

If I were in your shoes, I'd be upset because my SO knows that luxury handbags are something that I love and spend a fair amount of time trying to find pre-loved or otherwise discounted, but AUTHENTIC, and he knows this. He also knows from my fake Delvaux experience how upsetting fakes are to me. If you haven't had an experience or conversation like my SO and I had, then he really may not get it. You wanted advice--I recommend explaining to him how upsetting fakes are to you and why. If he does it again, then I'd be peeved. But not yet. You can't expect him to feel the same way, but you can expect him to accept how you feel and respect your feelings about it. Kind of like you probably do re: his Porsche :).
 
Yet another "911" thread where OP never returned, never updated, never answered questions, never clarified re: husband (intent, communications, expectations, etc), never addressed how she used suggestions she found helpful to resolve her "crisis". Ridiculous these people.
 
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