Fake Birkin for Christmas

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Are you certain it is a fake? Have you had it authenticated? Or posted in the Hermès “authentication” thread?

Could be a pre-loved bag, perhaps not in “new” condition.. but perhaps it is authentic.

I wouldn’t jump all over him.. find out whether it is fake.. then ask whether he knew...(he may not have.. do NOT assume, men can be clueless), if it is fake, and he did know, be gracious.. you can just say, “Thank you for your thought, but I am not comfortable wearing dupes, in the future I would be happy with something much less expensive”

Then move on. Don’t come off as a petulant child by blowing up on him. It’s christmas, you have your health, your education (which congrats btw!) and your loved ones. Use it as a learning experience for your DH (if it is a fake).. he just may be so clueless.
 
I'm wondering where he bought the used bag. I mean it's easy to buy new fake bags at China town or somewhere else, but those fake sellers don't carry used fake bags. I think he went to either a thrift shop or an upscale secondhand store. If it came from a upscale secondhand store, he most likely didn't doubt the authenticity.

I second other members to make sure about the authenticity first. If it is actually a fake, you should talk with him. If he paid a lot of money to buy it, you both don't want to get stuck with the fake bag.
 
May be he wanted to make you happy but could not afford the real thing. It is disappointing but he loves you. Also, there is a theory that a person can not have 100 percent of what he or she wants. If someone has perfect job, perfect beauty, perfect bank account, he or she may be lacking in a health area or family area... and so on .. By this theory, you got your share of disappointment and other areas of your life , things should be fine. May this Birkin be your only disappointment this holiday season. May you and your family be healthy and happy. ❤️

Perfect answer! you win Miss Universe sis!
 
I can understand your disappointment but what I don’t understand is not communicating with him directly about this as he may not even have a clue. You’ve shamed him on a public forum over a handbag on Christmas. :confused1:

I know... at least the forum is anonymous. Imagine how it would make me feel, frolic around Manhattan with a fake purse, where most people can easily tell the difference. That would be a real shame.
 
I learned when very young that there was no way my husband could surprise me with jewelry, accessories, clothing, etc. After a couple of early mistakes, I told him that I liked particular things and I would be happy to pick out items and give him the info on them and where to buy them. That way he'd have the satisfaction of giving a gift I love and I'd be much happier, too! Later on, I just started ordering them myself and let him put them in gift bags. That way I get exactly what I want and he doesn't waste money.

I do think most men are clueless. I wouldn't in any way think he was valuing you personally any less with this purchase. Most men would think $1000 was a lot for a purse, and most would not even know there were $10-20K+ purses. He may have thought he was getting a good deal on a second hand Birkin or else he was proud to get a good fake for a nice price not understanding your dislike for fakes. This requires some discussion and hopefully an agreement to NEVER buy a gift over a certain amount without getting approval from the other. Better yet, have a SA at various shops with a list of exact things you want, and send him that way. Then he can surprise you with something you really want.

I'd be kind and just say something is bothering you...you think the purse might be a fake and is he aware of that? Then you can either get it authenticated or else you can explain that while you appreciate his effort, you would not be comfortable using a fake bag especially since it is illegal and other women can recognize the fake bags. My guess is that it isn't returnable, but it would be great if it could be returned.
 
I know... at least the forum is anonymous. Imagine how it would make me feel, frolic around Manhattan with a fake purse, where most people can easily tell the difference. That would be a real shame.

This is supposed to be the season of giving, love, and joy.

Since you obviously don’t want his gift, maybe you could tell him it’s not your taste & give it to charity. Someone out there in need will happily use this bag.

The real shame here is putting so much emphasis on a material thing instead of focusing on your blessings this holiday season. It comes across as very selfish.
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Beware OP is only looking for “constructive advice” and want none of your “criticism” :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

She has not thought of anything besides how this bag makes others look at *her* and how that is embarrassing to *her* and
have not answered any of the true and great advice people have been kindly giving her - starting with get it actually authenticated and then *talk and communicate* with the husband to understand what *he* was thinking. But noooo all that’s important is how it makes her look (oh and let’s throw in what car he has and what prestigious university she graduated in to imply status). It is honestly sad to see. If this is any indication there are bigger problems in this relationship than a handbag.

ETA: Now that I’ve got it out of the way, I agree with what many others have said and will echo the following
Step 1) confirm authenticity. This also makes it easier to show your husband when you talk about it
Step 2) talk with the husband and confirm which case this is - he knows it’s a fake or he doesn’t
Step 3) if he doesn’t know it’s fake: find any way to return / get money back
If he does know, ask him why he did this and let him know you would prefer him not do this.
 
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My boyfriend got me a single Gucci lipstick for Xmas. He tried really hard, and knows I like luxury. He got the only thing he could afford from the website. Reading this thread makes me realize how silly I was being for not finding it to be enough. He told me he spent hours choosing a color best for my skin, and Gucci packaging I would like best. I was disappointed it was so small, but now I see how materialistic that was. I would have rather had 10 cheap lipsticks for the same price of one Gucci, but he tried. I hope you’ll realize the same too. Love is always at the core of our dumb SO’s choices, they’re just men. They really tried though, and that means a lot.
 
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