May be he wanted to make you happy but could not afford the real thing. It is disappointing but he loves you. Also, there is a theory that a person can not have 100 percent of what he or she wants. If someone has perfect job, perfect beauty, perfect bank account, he or she may be lacking in a health area or family area... and so on .. By this theory, you got your share of disappointment and other areas of your life , things should be fine. May this Birkin be your only disappointment this holiday season. May you and your family be healthy and happy. ❤️
Umm...the OP put down that he has a 2019 Porsche, which starts at $91,000 in the US. A 30 Birkin, even a brand spanking bought-at-the-flagship one, goes around $12-20,000. I think he'd be able to afford it.
OP needs to take previous posters' advice on this one and be grateful for the blessings available to her, and realize that he may or may not know the intricacies of shopping for Hermes. Perhaps have him read up on it on this forum?.