Fake Birkin for Christmas

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May be he wanted to make you happy but could not afford the real thing. It is disappointing but he loves you. Also, there is a theory that a person can not have 100 percent of what he or she wants. If someone has perfect job, perfect beauty, perfect bank account, he or she may be lacking in a health area or family area... and so on .. By this theory, you got your share of disappointment and other areas of your life , things should be fine. May this Birkin be your only disappointment this holiday season. May you and your family be healthy and happy. ❤️

Umm...the OP put down that he has a 2019 Porsche, which starts at $91,000 in the US. A 30 Birkin, even a brand spanking bought-at-the-flagship one, goes around $12-20,000. I think he'd be able to afford it.

OP needs to take previous posters' advice on this one and be grateful for the blessings available to her, and realize that he may or may not know the intricacies of shopping for Hermes. Perhaps have him read up on it on this forum?.
 
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I think there’s an unwarranted harshness against OP here. Her real concern isn’t the bag. She said herself it’s about her SO’s actions and feelings towards her (as if he was trying to fool her). Is he trying to manipulate or deceive her by giving her a fake? Or does the fact that he gave her a fake means that he values her less if he did it knowingly? Those are entirely valid concerns. She just wanted to know the best way to approach him about it.
 
I understand what you are saying; it would be really hard for me to feign excitement over I bag I thought could be fake. But he may not know it’s fake, not know how common fakes are or to even know that he needs to google what to look for.

If he doesn’t know it’s fake, it would be worth talking to him about it to see if it came from one of the ‘reputable’ resellers, to see if it could be returned.

But unless there are some underlying issues going on, I wouldn’t be disappointed based off this. He got you something that he thought would make you happy, not meaning any harm.
 
I think there’s an unwarranted harshness against OP here. Her real concern isn’t the bag. She said herself it’s about her SO’s actions and feelings towards her (as if he was trying to fool her). Is he trying to manipulate or deceive her by giving her a fake? Or does the fact that he gave her a fake means that he values her less if he did it knowingly? Those are entirely valid concerns. She just wanted to know the best way to approach him about it.

Almost every piece of advice has been suggesting that she first confirm if husband is doing this knowing it’s fake or not. It will not go anywhere unless that very important piece of information is clear...if for some reason she feels like she can’t have that conversation or trust his answers? Then yeah there are much bigger issues than a handbag.
 
Feel for you!!!

We have a firm rule in our family that after receiving ANY gift, the receiver always looks the person that gave the gift in the eye and says a variation of “Thanks I love it” with a smile

That being stated, yes, I - rightly or wrongly in the moral sense - would be p@ssed as sh$t if anyone gave me a fake B as a present, especially if it was a significant other and a Christmas present to boot

So in this case, I would wait a full 24-48 hours until my seething rage had subsided and I would have a firm quiet and pleasant talk - no, a short monologue - and I would let the person know that the gift could not be accepted by me for many, many reasons

Mainly bc the pirate market of selling luxe fakes is essentially against my core values and I would also at the same time provide a short hard copy list of tPF approved H resellers in order for my gift to be replaced with an authentic item

Of course, the above monologue would be proceeded by a huge thank you for “reading my mind” the sixth addition to my B/K family is a perfect gift this holiday season [emoji813]️

I would not argue about one thing and I would NOT ask any DETAILS about the fake B

So, although this might rub some posters here the wrong way:
- yes, I would be very angry
- yes, I would address it asap
- yes, I would not ever make anyone feel uncomfortable or embarrassed so I would make any discussion about the fake B gift, sweet, short and non-confrontational

[emoji813]️
 
I would think that he actually doesn’t know its a fake.. since you said it is a used bag. As you live nearby a fake sellers area, if he wanted to get you a fake it would be a new fake one.
He probably bought a pre-owned birkin thinking it was authentic and a good price.
I wonder though since you seem raging right now .. did it not show when you open up the present?
 
This whole mess reminds me of why I swore that vow of celibacy after my divorce. My partner was clueless about fashion, wouldn't know the difference between a $15,000 Birkin and one of my $200 Kate Spade bags. It sounds like bought the bag off a website, I sincerely doubt he would be able to tell it was fake.

I hope he gets the hell out and straight to a divorce attorney.
 
There is nothing posted here about hour husband's intent? Does he know your style? Does he typically buy you nice or expensive things? Do you guys have a healthy relationship where you actually communicate about non-material things?

You've dropped a lot of names here - Birkin, Porsche, Tribeca, Columbia University etc - which leads me to believe it's important for you to let US know that you are important? Perhaps the significance you tie to your self-worth might be mirrored in material items, which of course would send you into a rage if you think your husband bought you a "fake used" bag for Christmas (= you are the value equivalent of that). Maybe a better approach would be to assess why a material item of ANY kind would cause such a stir?

If my husband did this I would think it's adorable (the attempt itself would be endearing) and then just go buy whatever I wanted myself. I tell him not to buy me gifts, I honestly don't care as I am just grateful to have a wonderful marriage. So he writes me beautiful cards. I treasure those far more than any material item :)
 
Umm...the OP put down that he has a 2019 Porsche, which starts at $91,000 in the US. A 30 Birkin, even a brand spanking bought-at-the-flagship one, goes around $12-20,000. I think he'd be able to afford it.

OP needs to take previous posters' advice on this one and be grateful for the blessings available to her, and realize that he may or may not know the intricacies of shopping for Hermes. Perhaps have him read up on it on this forum?.
You can lease a Porsche and keep up appearances for $1000/mo. Lot of money? Yes, but not the same as laying out $91,000 on a purchase by a long shot.

It's best for the OP to learn now that nobody cares about her nearly as much as she thinks they do. I doubt anyone is even looking at her bag beyond the people she actively shows it to and maybe a shopgirl or two. The rest of the world keeps on spinning and everyone is wrapped up in their own lives.

Also would do to remember that TPF is not a representation of the real world by any stretch of the imagination.
 
I think there’s an unwarranted harshness against OP here. Her real concern isn’t the bag. She said herself it’s about her SO’s actions and feelings towards her (as if he was trying to fool her). Is he trying to manipulate or deceive her by giving her a fake? Or does the fact that he gave her a fake means that he values her less if he did it knowingly? Those are entirely valid concerns. She just wanted to know the best way to approach him about it.
Her concern is more about the price tag and value she feels her husband has associated with her based on the items he buys her.

That's problematic on so many levels.
 
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