Fake Birkin for Christmas

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Madamvong

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Merry Christmas and happy holidays everyone! It’s Christmas and I’ve never felt more sad, disappointed and angry. My husband bought me a fake, used Birkin bag for Christmas. It’s wasn’t a rocket science to notice that the bag is fake, despite its being a real leather etc. After watching a few YouTube videos, I stumbled across a couple of forum dissatisfaction, where other ladies advice not to tell anything to your husband about the bag being fake and even worst, some advice to wear the bag to show “appreciation” of the “effort”. I don’t know who those women are but I can’t stop feeling angry, disrespected, unappreciated. How in the world can someone gift a fake to anyone. I definitely don’t see it as an effort to show his affection to me, if anything it shows how low he values me. Am I being too demanding? I don’t know how else to react. Please help with an advice.
 
I can’t stop feeling angry, disrespected, unappreciated. How in the world can someone gift a fake to anyone. I definitely don’t see it as an effort to show his affection to me, if anything it shows how low he values me. Am I being too demanding? I don’t know how else to react. Please help with an advice.

And I'm sure you're the most appreciative, thoughtful and respectful significant other out there.

Calm down. You're pinning a lot on a material item. I'm inclined to think that he does not know much about handbags, and does not know there's such things as fake vs. real handbags. Appreciate that he took the time to figure out you like a certain handbag and went and bought one for you (as misguided as it may have been).

You want that Birkin? Go hustle for it yourself like most others on this forum.
 
And I'm sure you're the most appreciative, thoughtful and respectful significant other out there.

Calm down. You're pinning a lot on a material item. I'm inclined to think that he does not know much about handbags, and does not know there's such things as fake vs. real handbags. Appreciate that he took the time to figure out you like a certain handbag and went and bought one for you (as misguided as it may have been).

You want that Birkin? Go hustle for it yourself like most others on this forum.

Thanks, at the moment I’m looking for a constructive advice, definitely not criticism. We live in Tribeca (Manhattan) few blocks away from Canal street where people sell fakes 24/7. I believe you don’t need a PHD to be aware of fakes giving the price factor. Besides the point, my husband owns a smartphone, it takes seconds to google. I bet he won’t be happy if I take his 2019 Porsche and replace the engen with a cheap used knockoff (not even Toyota). I think what’s really wrong is to act like it’s not a big deal (the thought, what counts the most), which will make him believe that it’s okay to buy discounted (fake) tings from now on, in a wag underlining his true feelings towards me. And to make tings clear, I never asked for that bag in the first place ( if anything I wanted LV duffle bag).
 
Wow.
Unclear from this if he knew it was fake, but if he did - he probably had no concept that a bag could cost $10,000 and meant well. If he didn't, he overpaid and you're being mean to him on top of it.

To the average person that's unfathomable.

Accept it, explain that you aren't comfortable using a fake bag, and closet it. There's really no reason for this level of vitriol.

Sorry that's not what you want to hear.
 
And I'm sure you're the most appreciative, thoughtful and respectful significant other out there.

Calm down. You're pinning a lot on a material item. I'm inclined to think that he does not know much about handbags, and does not know there's such things as fake vs. real handbags. Appreciate that he took the time to figure out you like a certain handbag and went and bought one for you (as misguided as it may have been).

You want that Birkin? Go hustle for it yourself like most others on this forum.

Thank you, I understand that I shouldn’t get that emotional over receiving a fake used bag for Christmas, but I can’t stop the feeling. I truly don’t care about the bag itself and in fact I never asked for one. I just graduated from Columbia University and don’t have much disposable income, so I choose to save in advance and bought something that I knew would make my husband happy (considering my financial constraints). I didn’t buy him a fake Richard Mille watch to impress him, I bought something that I can afford and something that’s real. Instead of buying me that fake used purse I would rather him buying bunch of sandwiches and giving away to homeless people. That’s why I’m upset. I feel like he tried to fool me.
 
Once you are certain he did not buy what he believed to be a real bag ( because some men truly ARE THAT DENSE)

I would simply say, I appreciate the thought but would not be comfortable with using a "inspired by" handbag. I would love to show you some bags that are available that are authentic though. It was kind of you to see that I like this style.

Thank you so much! This is the best advice. Happy holidays!
 
Wow.
Unclear from this if he knew it was fake, but if he did - he probably had no concept that a bag could cost $10,000 and meant well. If he didn't, he overpaid and you're being mean to him on top of it.

To the average person that's unfathomable.

Accept it, explain that you aren't comfortable using a fake bag, and closet it. There's really no reason for this level of vitriol.

Sorry that's not what you want to hear.

Thank you!
 
Merry Xmas Madamvong - I can understand your disappointment in being given a fake Birkin by your husband but instead of looking at this from a negative perspective, try and see some positives in this situation 1)Your husband listens. Half of the husbands of the women on this forum wouldn’t know Birkin from Firkin. 2) He has probably heard you detailing your frustration in trying to get a Birkin and he went out of his way to solve the problem. 3) He may not have realized that you would detest a fake so intensely. 4) Those Super fakes are so good, he probably thought he was saving you a lot of money. Unless there are other problems, stay positive and keep plotting like the rest of us on how to get your Birkin. Good Luck!
 
Some men like the "sport" of buying an expensive item for a bargain, not thinking that it is sign of disrespect, doesn't enter their mind. My spouse once bought me a fake Hermes scarf in NY and was patting himself on the back for the deal he got and how it looked like the original.
" Unless there are other problems, stay positive and keep plotting like the rest of us on how to get your Birkin." If there are other problems in the marriage, then the bag is the least of your concerns.
 
May be he wanted to make you happy but could not afford the real thing. It is disappointing but he loves you. Also, there is a theory that a person can not have 100 percent of what he or she wants. If someone has perfect job, perfect beauty, perfect bank account, he or she may be lacking in a health area or family area... and so on .. By this theory, you got your share of disappointment and other areas of your life , things should be fine. May this Birkin be your only disappointment this holiday season. May you and your family be healthy and happy. ❤️
 
May be he wanted to make you happy but could not afford the real thing. It is disappointing but he loves you. Also, there is a theory that a person can not have 100 percent of what he or she wants. If someone has perfect job, perfect beauty, perfect bank account, he or she may be lacking in a health area or family area... and so on .. By this theory, you got your share of disappointment and other areas of your life , things should be fine. May this Birkin be your only disappointment this holiday season. May you and your family be healthy and happy. ❤️
 
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