Evolving to More Expensive Purses - Help!!
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This obsession is really starting to scare me. It's only been 8 days since my first purchase, 4 days since my last (second) purchase, and I'm already eye-balling the Damier Trevi PM. How can I keep this in check? I know I have to control myself. Any advise would be welcomed?
Just take a step back and really look at what you have. There's nothing wrong with buying bags as long as you can appreciate them! Since your tastes now run towards more expensive bags, you should consider selling your older bags that you may not use anymore. I've sold maybe four or five bags and don't regret a single one yet!
I can understand your concern about what others at work will think. I am a social worker (which is a very low paying field) and I work with a lot of women who are single moms who struggle to pay their bills and feed their children. I also work with the poverty sticken population. I go through a lot of guilt when I buy my purses. I always think about how much that money could do for one of my coworkers or clients who can't even afford basic clothing. I try so hard to keep a low profile at work with my purses but it is impossible because I work in a small office and the girls know about designer bags even though they can't afford them. I tried to tell them they were fakes but somehow they knew I was not telling the truth. They always notice my new bags (which I buy often, I am lucky that my hubby is not a social worker and makes way more than I do). They have never said anything rude about my bags at all, but I feel guilty none the less. I often give my clients what money I have in my purse when they need diapers, bus fare and the like, and I always get a bit sick at my stomach when I reach in my high dollar bag to get my high dollar wallet to give them a measly $5 or $20 knowing that the money I spent on my purse and wallet could truly change their life and yet I "throw" the money around on bags. I love my bags so much though. I don't know why I love them so much. I don't buy clothes or shoes or jewelry, but I can't get enough bags.
Oh dear! I am afraid you have been bitten. You have most definatly passed the point of no return. Get ready sweetie it's gonna be a wild ride
I justify expensive purchases by shopping "in comparison." For instance,
Me: Wow, I really like this $750.00 Vuitton bag.
Me (in my head): Hmm, that seems expensive.
Me: Look at this Suhali bag, it's so pretty! $2500? That's quite a lot.
Me (in my head): $750 is like three times cheaper than this Suhali bag -- it's practically a bargain!
Me: I'll get this $750 bag.
This works at pretty much any price level -- you can always find something more expensive to make what you want seem reasonable
Me: Wow, I really like this $750.00 Vuitton bag.
Me (in my head): Hmm, that seems expensive.
Me: Look at this Suhali bag, it's so pretty! $2500? That's quite a lot.
Me (in my head): $750 is like three times cheaper than this Suhali bag -- it's practically a bargain!
Me: I'll get this $750 bag.
This works at pretty much any price level -- you can always find something more expensive to make what you want seem reasonable
Congrats on your purchases- enjoy them!!!
Congrats on your new Totally! It is very nice and it will last for many years. Don't feel bad about the purchase either. You just graduated and that's a major accomplishment! Congrats!
Strangely I went backwards pricewise. My 1st designer bag was an 85th anniv Gucci ($1,700), my 2nd was an LV ($1,410)... and then a month or so later I got my first Coach (I have 16) and then a couple months later got my first Tokidoki (I have 112... but that includes wallets, cosmetic pouches and iPod cases too, not just bags).
But now I'm actually starting to eye a Balenciaga. And am wanting a 3rd and maybe a 4th LV.
But now I'm actually starting to eye a Balenciaga. And am wanting a 3rd and maybe a 4th LV.
The first thing I would do is get off the Purse Forum. This can be an extremely expensive habit for sure! Hubby was cool about the 1st and 2nd. He might not be as cool with the 3rd. I know I'd be pissed if my husband spent $2,000 in 4 days and was wanting to get more. Believe me from a girl who love handbags, relationships are more important than things, no matter how fabulous they are.
Congratulations on your two new gorgeous bags. Step back for a bit before buying any more LV. There is a tendency to buy similar styles when bags are bought in a short time period. Wear your bags. Enjoy them. In 6 months you may want a Speedy. Or an SC clutch. Or a Rose Pop zippy. Or something in bleu nuit. Or a bandeau... Oh, and the shoes...
You get the picture. LV has a world of eye and arm candy. Take your time. It is a lovely journey.
And never lie to your husband about your purchases. Include him. Nothing like a Damier Graphite 6 keys holder to whet his appetite and appreciation...
edited to add: STAY on the Purse Forum. We may be enablers, but we never encourage you to buy what you can't afford. I have saved money here, as I have become educated in the subtleties of gorgeous things. And I have made some great friends here as well.
You get the picture. LV has a world of eye and arm candy. Take your time. It is a lovely journey.
And never lie to your husband about your purchases. Include him. Nothing like a Damier Graphite 6 keys holder to whet his appetite and appreciation...
edited to add: STAY on the Purse Forum. We may be enablers, but we never encourage you to buy what you can't afford. I have saved money here, as I have become educated in the subtleties of gorgeous things. And I have made some great friends here as well.
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