I do...am I simply being ridiculous?
I think at least once a week I get upset at him...and either hang up on him or ignore him for a few hours. Usually we do make up within 24 hours though.
Just last night...we were conversing about Christmas...and I made a comment intending to explain how Christmas is so "materialized" now...marketers and companies take advantage of this time period to suck buyers to buy their products and it's all a big spending spree. Of course the gift giving is there, but who said you have to give a 12-year old a $600 gift for Christmas in order for the meaning of Christmas to..."be" there?
I don't know if I made any sense, but anyhow I'll continue my story...
I'm Asian and I was born into a semi-traditional family so we don't make a big deal out of most of the Western holidays. We still celebrate Christmas, of course, but we don't get a Christmas tree, play Santa, make Christmas lists, etc. My parents still buy me very small things or gives me a little bit of money for Christmas, but compared to most Western families, Christmas is a tiny, tiny event for us. So....my boyfriend, on the other hand, is the 3rd generation to be in Canada (his family is German/Ukraine) so of course Christmas is a biggie for him. I guess somehow I made my comment sound offensive and he got a little offended and started being all quiet.
My cellphone battery was dying so I had to hang up, and I told him, I need to go and he just said "bye" when usually he'll tell me good night, love you, etc. So I called him back, and after I asked him if he was offended, he said "Yeah, just a little...but I'll get over it". I asked him why he was offended, and he replied, "I just am. I'll get over it." I told him, "Well, it wasn't meant to offend you, but if you saw it that way, I'm sorry." and I hung up. I felt kind of bad, but I was tired last night so I went to bed right away. He tried calling but I didn't pick up the phone. This afternoon, I missed his call and called him back, and we were talking about last night and he said, "Well I guess we're not used to having different viewpoints and stuff..."
WE??? I wasn't the offended one...funny thing is I said to him last night "Well, that's only my viewpoint, I'm sure you can say things like that about our Chinese celebrations as well!" And excuse me, most of our viewpoints ARE different...just being from different backgrounds makes us totally different already...ARGHHH for some reason I got so ticked off and so I told him I had to go to class and hung up.
I don't know what will happen next...he hasn't called me since; he's at work right now, but he knew what time I get off school, etc. My boyfriend isn't the type to go out of his way to do little things to apologize and make me happy again...and I'm not really expecting him to apologize for anything since it's not really anybody's fault here...but...*sigh*
Sorry, just a little rant. It's been on my mind since I woke up this morning...
I think at least once a week I get upset at him...and either hang up on him or ignore him for a few hours. Usually we do make up within 24 hours though.
Just last night...we were conversing about Christmas...and I made a comment intending to explain how Christmas is so "materialized" now...marketers and companies take advantage of this time period to suck buyers to buy their products and it's all a big spending spree. Of course the gift giving is there, but who said you have to give a 12-year old a $600 gift for Christmas in order for the meaning of Christmas to..."be" there?
I don't know if I made any sense, but anyhow I'll continue my story...
I'm Asian and I was born into a semi-traditional family so we don't make a big deal out of most of the Western holidays. We still celebrate Christmas, of course, but we don't get a Christmas tree, play Santa, make Christmas lists, etc. My parents still buy me very small things or gives me a little bit of money for Christmas, but compared to most Western families, Christmas is a tiny, tiny event for us. So....my boyfriend, on the other hand, is the 3rd generation to be in Canada (his family is German/Ukraine) so of course Christmas is a biggie for him. I guess somehow I made my comment sound offensive and he got a little offended and started being all quiet.
My cellphone battery was dying so I had to hang up, and I told him, I need to go and he just said "bye" when usually he'll tell me good night, love you, etc. So I called him back, and after I asked him if he was offended, he said "Yeah, just a little...but I'll get over it". I asked him why he was offended, and he replied, "I just am. I'll get over it." I told him, "Well, it wasn't meant to offend you, but if you saw it that way, I'm sorry." and I hung up. I felt kind of bad, but I was tired last night so I went to bed right away. He tried calling but I didn't pick up the phone. This afternoon, I missed his call and called him back, and we were talking about last night and he said, "Well I guess we're not used to having different viewpoints and stuff..."
WE??? I wasn't the offended one...funny thing is I said to him last night "Well, that's only my viewpoint, I'm sure you can say things like that about our Chinese celebrations as well!" And excuse me, most of our viewpoints ARE different...just being from different backgrounds makes us totally different already...ARGHHH for some reason I got so ticked off and so I told him I had to go to class and hung up.
I don't know what will happen next...he hasn't called me since; he's at work right now, but he knew what time I get off school, etc. My boyfriend isn't the type to go out of his way to do little things to apologize and make me happy again...and I'm not really expecting him to apologize for anything since it's not really anybody's fault here...but...*sigh*
Sorry, just a little rant. It's been on my mind since I woke up this morning...