"Dingbat" is a fantastic word.
Describes so much, for so many circumstances.
Thanks for reminding me of its greatness.
Must use this word more.
Do ever feel ashamed of buying expensive bags?
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"Dingbat" is a fantastic word.
Describes so much, for so many circumstances.
Thanks for reminding me of its greatness.
Must use this word more.
This brings to mind a famous quote from Coco Chanel:
I don't care what you think about me. I don't think about you at all.
― Coco Chanel
Whenever someone criticizes the way I use my own money and draws that "There's a lot of people who are starving in this world and you spend money on THAT" - let it be on kitchen stuff, bags, shoes, travel, presents to my loved ones - phrase to the table, I just ask them where they were when I was starving. That shuts them up immediately.
It's really happened to me, I've had to make do with close to nothing and I feel no shame or bitterness over it; sometimes life gives you lemons. One day, it's bound to give you some sugar, too and then your lemonade won't suck.
As long as I take care of my people and also give to others in need, I refuse to feel guilty over the things I get for myself.
It's really happened to me, I've had to make do with close to nothing and I feel no shame or bitterness over it; sometimes life gives you lemons. One day, it's bound to give you some sugar, too and then your lemonade won't suck.
As long as I take care of my people and also give to others in need, I refuse to feel guilty over the things I get for myself.
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Whenever someone criticizes the way I use my own money and draws that "There's a lot of people who are starving in this world and you spend money on THAT" - let it be on kitchen stuff, bags, shoes, travel, presents to my loved ones - phrase to the table, I just ask them where they were when I was starving. That shuts them up immediately.
It's really happened to me, I've had to make do with close to nothing and I feel no shame or bitterness over it; sometimes life gives you lemons. One day, it's bound to give you some sugar, too and then your lemonade won't suck.
As long as I take care of my people and also give to others in need, I refuse to feel guilty over the things I get for myself.
Where can they go from that response?
Nowhere!
honestly to me she doesn't sound like a good person and she might even perhaps be jealous of you
This was just her way of preemptively putting the handbag competition to bed between you by declaring herself the automatic winner while simultaneously shaming your participation in the contest that she herself designed. Sneaky! And evil.
Heck no, I never feel guilty about my purchases from a global perspective. We all have our ways we contribute to the world. Giving to charity is a choice not an obligation and it's certainly not the only way to make a difference. There's nothing wrong with having nice things. And it's also important (to ME) to be a nice person too.
As my mother always said, "Pretty is as pretty does." I don't think your relative acted very pretty.
Heck no, I never feel guilty about my purchases from a global perspective. We all have our ways we contribute to the world. Giving to charity is a choice not an obligation and it's certainly not the only way to make a difference. There's nothing wrong with having nice things. And it's also important (to ME) to be a nice person too.
As my mother always said, "Pretty is as pretty does." I don't think your relative acted very pretty.
Seriously, reading your post to the end it seemed very clear to me that your relative has some issues and you should not let her get to you!!
You buy what you want and like with your money!!! Go for it!
I never feel "ashamed". But I actually "hide" certain bags from my (3yrs younger than me) cousin.
We might be close in age, but we had VERY different backgrounds (work ethic thought by parents, education, effort, etc..). And she is stingy as can be.
She buys so much junk herself but judges everyone for buying ONE little tiny item.
I have a close friend who says I'm crazy for spending so much money on handbags but she also mentions she doesn't mind, cause she knows I work really hard for my money.
You buy what you want and like with your money!!! Go for it!
I never feel "ashamed". But I actually "hide" certain bags from my (3yrs younger than me) cousin.
We might be close in age, but we had VERY different backgrounds (work ethic thought by parents, education, effort, etc..). And she is stingy as can be.
She buys so much junk herself but judges everyone for buying ONE little tiny item.
I have a close friend who says I'm crazy for spending so much money on handbags but she also mentions she doesn't mind, cause she knows I work really hard for my money.
Whenever someone criticizes the way I use my own money and draws that "There's a lot of people who are starving in this world and you spend money on THAT" - let it be on kitchen stuff, bags, shoes, travel, presents to my loved ones - phrase to the table, I just ask them where they were when I was starving. That shuts them up immediately.
It's really happened to me, I've had to make do with close to nothing and I feel no shame or bitterness over it; sometimes life gives you lemons. One day, it's bound to give you some sugar, too and then your lemonade won't suck.
As long as I take care of my people and also give to others in need, I refuse to feel guilty over the things I get for myself.
Great post, Amazona ![emoji106][emoji106]
What's the difference between $1K spent on a bag by you or $1K of her money in the bank? Both are equally not going to charity
Where can they go from that response?
Exactement! A good way to end the conversation very swiftly.
What's the difference between $1K spent on a bag by you or $1K of her money in the bank? Both are equally not going to charity
Love it
Does she walk around parking lots lecturing the owners of BMWs and Mercs and Acuras? Does she visit fancy neighborhoods in expensive cities and hector the beautiful people coming out of their luxury high rise or their restored brownstone? You know, she should REALLY be stationing herself outside the entrance to her nearest high-end department store and warning customers as they enter that they'll burn in hell for their sinful spendthrift ways.
She sounds like a simply delightful person.
She sounds like a simply delightful person.